Currently I am dating a guy that my friend hooked me up with to go on a double date on. She gave me his number before we meet so we began to speak and he had a very nice personality. But as time went on, finally it was time to meet. He found me very attractive but the feelings were not mutual, but me being the nice person that I am i continued to talk to him everytime i see him i get sick to my stomach. He claims he really likes me........... come on guys what should I do? and the most important question is HOW SHOULD I DO IT? ------ Help Please I Need Help!
2006-09-04 14:09:21 · 15 answers · asked by Diva2ThaBone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can be a friend and talk nature, sharing what you interesting and hobby like movies reading etc., i think that be friends is graceful and great.enjoy it.
2006-09-04 14:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by kaku j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks do not matter because the "love" is greater inside than outside once a relationship occurs. If you go to the car dealer and see a "GM Aztec" and go - ucch. Most cases you do not drive it to try it and give it a chance to see if it has a nice ride and is confortable vehicle. Sometimes this ride is more important than the looks - and this is when commitment occurs.
If he realizes that you are what he is truly looking for you need to get around his superficial nature now that is looking for eye candy to date people. The maturity it takes to not choose the eye candy with men is difficult as we tend to search out eye candy even after we are married (we are always hunting creatures). Hope you can last it out - but by that time you may find someone else that is attracted to you for looks or for other sexy factors.
Keep the faith. Everyone can find someone.... it happens.
2006-09-04 21:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there,
Well my answer is no... plain and simple.... I am a blonde haired, blue eyed girl and i feel i am very pretty, a few months ago i was dating a guy who by no means was at all good looking.. lol.. actually he was really ugly... but his personality and his company was great. He treated me so great. My friends always told me how much better i can do but you know what.. most of the guys who are hot and good looking are conceited mean assholes!!!not all but most.and the ones that aren't are usually Gay... Lol. Listen sweetie, if you are that much into looks (which to me doesn't matter as long as he treats you like you deserve to be treated)as you are then just tell him" I am sorry you are a great guy and i like hanging out with you but you aren't who i am looking for" If it hurts him oh well because if you keep pretending to like him and be with him.. when he does find out the truth it will hurt him more knowing you thought he was ugly and you stuck with him because you didn't want to hurt him... It will hurt him more in the end that way because he will have fallen for you that much more. .I know it sucks but it's the best thing. Hope this helps you out hun. Take care.
Melonie
2006-09-04 21:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by melonie_21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly looks shouldn't matter but that doesn't mean they don't. It's been proven that there has to be some type of physical attraction to put to people together in the first place. If you had seen this guy on the street would you have wanted to talk to him or just walked on by...it really does make a difference. If you are not attracted then he is not the one so let him go but try to do it nicely as to not hurt his feelings to bad!
2006-09-04 21:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by stall_out 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In direct answer to you question, NO, looks really shouldn't matter.
But I think you should tell him of your feelings. Be honest now, or else you will be leading him on and you will hurt him more in the end.
Love should never be a forced issue and nor is it an obligation. It is a feeling, and you don't seem to be feeling it for him. Just tell him gently that you don't think there is much "chemistry". Do you or don't you have a lot in common? It's easy to let people off the hook if you say "I'm sorry, but I don't think we have a lot in common".
I'm sorry to hear that you liked this guy's personality but not his looks... I think that's something you need to work on in terms of your perception of people. This guy will probably be better off without you.
2006-09-04 22:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by Satinette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really likes you and you don't feel it back, first of all don't pretend. There are paid exceptions to that rule though. If you are a nice person, you will let him down easy with half truths. Don't crush him, compliment him on what you do like, then just tell him you don't want to start a relationship. OK to be just friends if you both can deal with it.
2006-09-04 21:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me a year ago. I'm not a shallow person, but when I dread talking to someone, I know that isn't the guy for me. Cut him off now.
2006-09-04 21:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by mollyneville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him enough to keep talking with him then what could be the problem? Perhaps he will treat you really well since you are so good looking and he may not be.
2006-09-04 21:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by devotionalservice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't stand it don't, attraction is apart of love, not the whole thing, but a part and if it isn't there thereiu's no reason to lead him on.
2006-09-04 21:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by slyshewolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks shouldn't matter but if you really cannot stand him its better to break it off now as nicely as possible.
2006-09-04 21:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by jrsygrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋