Personally, I want to wait to have kids until I am married and have a job. I think the earliest age you should be is 25. At least 20. The oldest age I think would have to be a bit before or after age 35. I would think that if you were older with a 10yr. old kid you may run out of energy fast. Don't get me wrong I'm sure there are plenty of people that are in there 40-50's with plenty of energy. So I think you should between the ages of 25 and 35.
2006-09-04 13:59:36 · 16 answers · asked by ~^*ccnoelle*^~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've done both!! I was 18 when I had my oldest daughter, and I love her dearly & have no regrets, but it was the same year I should have graduated high school.. And I was tied down for all the fun, all my friends were having without me... Whereas, I also had my youngest daughter at age 32, and now I'm going to be 44 and she's only going to be 12 next week.... I wish now, I'd of had them all together at a very young age, after graduating high school, that way I could have been enjoying my 40s and my grandchildren who are my youngest daughters age group.. But, where there's a will theirs relatives.. Ha, just kidding, but there is a way.. And I'm a strong woman.. I'm in school now.. And loving it!! Its time for me, even though its all about learning all over again, I'm so "cool with it !!" And I wouldn't change one thing, now that my life turned-out the way it did.... I love all my children so much, their my whole life!! I couldn't imagine, my life without them!! And in the near future, I will be certified, to land a good job, inspite of my disabilities, and life will then be much easier for all of us.... I say have them young, so you can enjoy them, and be done with it, so you can have your 40s, for you & your "Beau", you know.... Plan ahead, you sound like an intelligent girl.. But, enjoy your early 20s, I'd say have them "Back-to-Back" like at 23 & 24, that would make you 41 & 42, when they are adults.... 18.... And then you could start to relaxing and really have time for yourself, vacations, going to lucheons with friends and so on..... Even traveling.. And every once in awhile, have family times together, as well.....Thats so important, no matter how old we get. Smile!!!
2006-09-04 14:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you answered your own question? And while I agree with your statement that one should be married and financially able to support a child, I don't think you should put an arbitrary age on it. I had my first child when I was 23, my second when I was 27. I was married, my husband and I owned a home, and we were financially independent. If someone has managed all that, even if they're 20, then they're "ready" to have a child. I don't know if I'd do it though, I couldn't have had a baby any sooner than I already did. And I know plenty of women in their late 30's, 40's and some even in their 50's that have children, and they make wonderful parents. I'm almost 40 now, and I know if I were to have another baby, I'd do things MUCH differently than I did with my 1st two children, I have more patience, and don't get nearly as upset over little things like I used to. So maturity has its good points too.
2006-09-04 21:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a child when your ready. Although I agree with waiting until you're at least 20. However if you wait until after 35 your chances of having complications increases by 50%. After 40 you are concidered high risk.
People need to think about how old they will be when they finally get the child out of the house. If you 40 then you wont be done until you are 58 if they got to college that would be 64, graduate school 68yrs old. It adds up quick.
2006-09-04 21:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definetely agree with you somwhere between 25-35 would probably be ideal. I can tell you though what age not to have a child. 16!! I had my daughter at 16 years of age. Not only is it difficult mentally to have a child but it is also very difficult financially and emotionally as well. It takes a lot to be responsible and raise another human being that will someday have to make a living and have kids of their own. Think about it before you actually do it. It is not easy but the rewards are priceless.
2006-09-04 21:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by christi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depend on things like stability in job and marriage too. Definately should be married. The 25-35 is good. Also concider how many children you want and how close you want them in age. 35 starts a slight increase in risks factors. 40 really jumps the risk factors. If you want more than 1-3 and you want to space them further apart you'ld be better off starting before 35.
2006-09-04 21:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by horsenuttss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
29 to 35
2006-09-04 21:05:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
27 to 40
2006-09-04 21:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
22-25
2006-09-04 21:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by rjekqlw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not before 25. A woman must be physically and emotionally ready to be a Mother. That is such a special thing to do.
We had our kids 2 years apart, that way you only have one in diapers at a time and the older child is somewhat indepedent.
2006-09-04 21:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Between 25 and 35 is the sweet spot - old enough to have the patience and wisdon and self control, young enough to keep up with them (and to avoid trouble concieving).
2006-09-04 21:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by Clockwork Grape 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋