why are people so mean to teenagers that are havin baby's?

Question

why are people so mean to teenagers who are having babies they need help and answers. ex. me.

Answer 1

Have you found out if you are pregnant? I have been trying to contact you again thru email. You sent me an email asking me if taking care of a baby really is as hard as i said, but none of the emails have gone thru. Send me an email, I want to know how you are doing and if you are in fact pregnant or not. If you want to talk, give me your actual email address so that i can send you one back in answer. When i go through yahoo answers, it doesn't work properly. The reason that people are mean about it is because they don't understand why you would get pregnant, and risk not having so many of the opportunities you would have if you did not have to stay home and take care of a baby. Plus, people like you don't really seem to understand how hard it can be to raise a child, and some will find themselves in bad situations, and put the baby in bad situations.

Answer 2

Let's see. Maybe because it's the fact that Teenagers shouldn't really be having sex much less having babies. They make adult choices which come with adult consequences. Honestly how would you feel if you're daughter come home and told you she was pregnant? Sometimes I think people see the seriousness more then the people invovled. People today seems to think that sex is something we do because we want to and don't realize the serious outcomes behind it.

It's also something they bring on themselves. I've seen several teenage mother's who dump their kids on their parents and go out to have a normal life. In some cases, there are teenager parents that make the best out of things and do become successful but more often then not they use and abuse the system that's in place to help those kind of people. It's hard enough dealing with life issues when you're that age and then having to try to grow up and raise a kid? It's just really a lot to handle. I can understand kids want to make right on their mistakes but looking at it from all sides...I think you're being judgement by saying everyone is mean to teens with kids...but as some one said earlier it is the life they chose.

Answer 3

Because we don't understand why you got pregnant. There are so many ways to avoid that. As adults, most of us have had kids and we know that it is beyond a full time job. We know what you are in for and you do not. We are very annoyed that you and the baby now have to pay a price because you didn't listen to the advice of those that have been there. Have sex all you want, but once you involve a third person (I'm talking about the baby) - it's a whole different issue. It is very selfish of a teenager to have a baby. It's not fair to the baby, or the teen, but the baby had no say in it. I wish you and all the others well, but why didn't you just practice birth control so this would not be happening? That just blows my mind. So easy to avoid.

Answer 4

It isn't just the teenagers having babies for me. It is the people who think it is okay to keep having babies but thinking it is okay for everyone else to pay for them! I know someone and she was a teenager when she got pregnant and she is still with the guy and 22 on her third kid and gets everything paid for. The state don't know he is living with her and bringing money into the household and she won't marry him because of all the free benefits she is getting. We pay for people not having any morals. My mother was 15 when she had me and when I get a little older like 12 me and my brothers were constantly left alone so she could go out and have a life and have the all the fun she missed out because she had us while she was so young. The kids of kids pay the price for having a teen mother who didn't get to have a childhood because they didn't use a form of birth control!!

Answer 5

They are not directing it to the person but to the situation. Society is getting fed up with having single teenage girls making adult decisions to have sex without being responsible enough to use protection or some sort of birth control. Our tax dollars then go to feed, house, medicate, clothe and educate these children, both the mother and the new baby. We want for the teens to please start thinking about the “what if” before they have sex. We want them to stop and take a serious look at their situation if they do find themselves in that “what if” and decide if they can, on their own, fully support this new innocent child while being able to not let go of their own dreams. More than likely the answer is no, they can not. Someone in the situation looses. There are thousands of happily married couples in the USA unable to have a child of their own that could provide a stable, loving and caring home for this child and allow the birth mother to continue on with her life, becoming fully who she was meant to be.
~waiting~

Answer 6

Well I'm glad that you're at least trying to be a good mother. The reason people are angry with underage mothers is simple and complex. Simply- they aren't ready to take care of another human being yet. Complex- the most influential and crucial time of someones life is their youth. Your brain is a sponge, it soaks up everything it sees and experiences. These things make you who you are for the rest of your life. If you are not raised with the utmost care and love, it can cause devastating issues that are the root of so much evil in people, and consequently the root of so much evil in the world. Almost any deep-seeded issue in a persons life stems from their childhood. So basically, bringing a child into a situation where the parental conditions are less than pristine is such a volatile and destructive thing and it is this that angers people so much. You're being irresponsible and the rest of the world is picking up the tab!

Answer 7

Actually they should be mean because teenagers shount have babies at thi age!!!!And for every age you have to do sth 4example when u r a baby u play with your toys and when you are tennagers u shoud study and hanoug woth ur frnds not have a BABY!!!And when you r a lady u can bring babies so i also mean to those teenagers because most of these teenagers only have babbies for having fun and that stuff and most of these if u r married or engaged or whatever will end sadly because u onliny like him but when ur old u will not be in love with him so think twice before u do what you r doing

Answer 8

Teens shouldn't be having babies that early. That is idiotic! Teenagers should be out having fun during their years at high school instead of at home taking care of a baby. If it was rape or something then of course that isn't their fault.There are plenty of people out that will help. Most teens can't support a baby at that age anyways. They think it will be a great having a baby until they actually have it. I had to carry around a mechanical baby last year for health and it was a pain! Most people don't realize that.

Answer 9

This is a perfect question that will never be answered, People hundreds and hundreds of yrs ago were having 8 children by the time they were 20 because of NO CONTRACEPTION yet that wasnt a problem then but is now because of the ''baby bonus'' i am 18, fell pregnant when i was 16, gave birth when i was 17, I have money, so i brought expensive EVERYTHING yet i have people everyday look down on me even though i dress like a 23 yr old, i never leave the house unless we look perfect. It's just the way the world is unfortunately.

Answer 10

Because you shouldn't be having a baby that young. I know it was a mistake, but the reality is that adults will end up paying taxes because most kids end up on welfare because they don't ever finish school. Also, most adults have a very hard time getting pregnant and kids seem to get pregnant easily and not even know what they are getting into. It is very sad and frustrating.. I don't think people are trying to be mean but I think it is viewed as very irresponsible behavior mostly when there are so many birth control products on the market. Take care!