when i see a guy i think to myself i can never get him, i shouldnt even talk to him b/c my biggest fear is being rejected. I liked this guy when i was 16 and he liked me back. my friend wrecked it and he didnt talk to me for a while. But now he looks at me all the time and smiles at me. Sometimes i think he still likes me at least i hope so. I'm just afraid that if i get to close to a guy then he might break my heart. I had that experince once with a guy and dont want to go through it again.what can i do to boost my confidnece? guys smile at me and look at me but maybe sometimes the guys stop because they can tell that im not confident about myself or something. So plz i need advice!
2006-09-04 13:28:03 · 16 answers · asked by Jess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You won't be able to love a guy and be loved if you're not self confident. I think you should divert your attention to activities you might like or things you could do to keep yourself from thinking about getting a guy. A man doesn't make your world go round. You need to think about you before anything else.
2006-09-04 13:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by So... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a count of how many guy look at you when you walk down the street or meet their eye. That can help. Believe me I smile at every girl, even unattractive girls because that's the way I am. But with pretty girls like you I keep on smiling, do the turn around and if they keep smiling. Also somewhere down the line you felt unattractive, perhaps from school bitches (cheerleaders I'm sure) made you feel that way
I was a very skinny guy and when I filled out I sure felt a lot better,,,:o But the damage other kids did to me calling me skinny and beaten up after school.lasted. Get some counseling for yourself. They have sliding scale counselors, who can help you feel better about YOU. And that creep who said take your self pity elsewhere probably was one of the jocks who beat me up after school and had everything came his way easier so ignore him.
2006-09-04 13:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by Matt M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be true to yourself, stay polite and be social. Don't be a snob... accept people for who they are and you will attract people for being kind. Just force yourself to talk to them if you want to get to know them. If they smile back they would obviously be nice to you if you started talking to them. There is nothing to worry about. The number one thing is that you shouldn't care about what people think of you if they don't like you. It doesn't help your confidence if you keep trying to get approval from someone that doesn't like you. Those peole don't deserve your time of day. Life is good, enjoy it.
2016-03-26 22:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If boys are looking at you and smiling at you then maybe you should go over there and talk to them. Maybe you'll feel more confident about yourself. Then the boys might ask you out and if they do say yes. Sometimes this never happens to people so you have the chance. You also need to talk back to that friend of yours and stop waiting for him to ask you out. If you lost his number then you need to ask him for it. Stop waiting for him to ask you out or to get your number. Stop feeling less confident about yourself. That's my advice.
P.S You just got advice from a ten year old and this also the best advice that you can ever get about boys from a ten year old.
2006-09-04 13:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kailah W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying"If at first you don't succeed,try,try,again"because it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. If a guy is smiling at you YOU MUST BE ONE HOT BABE!!!!!!!Especially if they choke up trying to talk to ya. Some women are so pretty that guys both revere and fear them,especially teen boys( and us older guys too) So don't be3 afraid of striking out cause the best batters in baseball strike out 7 out of 10 times at bat. So if your batting .300 your doing great and remember some guys are just dufuses
2006-09-04 13:38:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know you are pretty that's great. But what matters is what kind of person you are......if you are beautiful in the inside and project that to others it's all that counts. There will be so many other guys in your life don't worry about the one who just smiles and never talks to you. Another one will come along. Just believe in your self, your inner beauty will project itself and attract people.
2006-09-04 13:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by margeritaperez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be stupid to let any other person (especially some random guy) determine how attractive you are in your own eyes. You decide that, not the world. Then when the world sees what you think of yourself (by how you treat yourself and carry yourself) they usually draw the same conclusion.
2006-09-04 13:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by Celestian Vega 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jess......u need to work on building up your self-esteem. Confident people will not only get more dates but confidence in oneself will help you tremendously when you enter the workforce.
Get some books on self-esteem or try taking a Dale Carnegie course.......whatever it takes to built confidence.
Best of luck to you!
2006-09-04 13:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be happy with yourself first and don't worry about if others think your pretty or not. Look good for yourself and make friends and the guys will come to you.
2006-09-04 13:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by Cris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe see if he has a myspace and start talking to him on it. Leave him messages. Sometimes its easier if you talk like that before you actually talk to him
I'm exactly the same way.
2006-09-04 13:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋