Just split with fiancee-living together etc... but she went home for time and old flame of hers has shown up.He proposed b4 but was turned down.Now the issue is he bombards with txts,emails,gifts etc. I dunno if she is welcoming this or not cos she is goin thru a rough time..but have told her its inappropriate...we're still living togethr but moving out...he wants to get her back...FULL STOP. big thing is i saw pic on our comp of her with him, dunno what to think of that. She insists she doesnt want to re-enter that and we have been quite hot and heavy at the moment to add to all the confusion. There is a shade in both of us that wants to work this out but my trust in her and foolishness in past messed things up, hence the break.SO... continue or GO? I feel that sometimes this is a big test for my messing up in the past. Answers please!!!
2006-09-04 13:12:49 · 11 answers · asked by ppd81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should do both. Tell her how you feel and walk away. I would definatetly encourage you to live apart. As long as you live together, you are going to put yourself through hell over and over again as long as you are living together. I think it is good you split up with your fiancee. You are not ready for marriage. If you really want to work it out, go to counseling with her. If it doesn't seem worth it to you, then just walk away. Who knows, maybe in a couple of years you will both grow up a little and get back together or find someone that you are both better suited to be with.
2006-09-04 13:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Ann Ducketts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we need to be loved when we least deserve it. There are going to be hard times in any relationship, and if you are giving up now, that is pretty sad. It's how you deal with your fights that will determine the success of all your relationships. If you want to make it work, talk to her and level with her and tell her how this ex thing is making you feel. Don't give up on someone just because they make some stupid mistakes, as long as she can learn from them and not repeat them it is a shame to throw it all away. Even though it is really hard to trust someone again once they have broken your belief, it is possible and if you love her you should try to make let it go and get on with your life together. It sounds like she is confused now as to what she should do- she has been through this fallout with you and is probably hurting too and feels maybe abandoned, like you only will love her when things are going right; lost in the wilderness, in other words. Hope that helps, good luck.
2006-09-04 20:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you really both need to have a space.. and during this time of being alone it will determine if you're really made for each other.. this is a test and if you both passed it then you're really meant for each other and if not then there must be someone else out there for the both of you.. it's hard coz both of you have been through a lot of things and trials, for the years that you've live together you learned a lot of things about her and vice versa.. but who knows after all this things it will make your relationship even better and stronger? give yourself a break, think about it, take your time and asses everything about your relationship and this will help you to realize if you really have to fight or move on with your life.. you both deserve to have a space and use it for evaluation.. goodluck!=)
2006-09-04 20:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by keiCh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not say why the two of you broke up, You need to invite her out to dinner, and talk, see where her head is at, see if she is still in love with her ex, ask her what she wants, Then you can tell her how you feel! The two of you may need to just express your feelings.
2006-09-04 20:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. this is a very very difficult decision, i say u wait it out and see what happens.
if things continue the way they are, go. bc if u guys live together why the hell would she have a pic of her and her ex? that doesnt make any sense..
think about what u deserve, not what u feel
2006-09-04 20:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by undertakerk789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, never ever not show how you feel. If your not true with yourself there is no point in trying to be with someone else. It's very hard sometimes
2006-09-04 20:24:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is meant to be it will work out and she will come back to you. Be patient and let her have some space. Sooner or later she will have made up her mind. Good luck.
2006-09-04 20:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should show how you feel. I mean don't just walk away if you're not gonna say what you actually feel. You do your thing and do what is best.
2006-09-04 20:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by baby_green92 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it one day at a time.if its meant to be it will happen with you and her.Waite and see what shes going to do.if she still has feelings for him then you'll know before long.let her come to you.good luck.
2006-09-04 20:21:24 · answer #9 · answered by lovinonly#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your willing to walk away anyway, go ahead and show how you feel... what do you have to lose?
2006-09-04 20:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by Mike C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋