Does my 6 year old daughter need some help?

Question

She's in the 1st grade, but every since she has gotten older she cry about the least little thing. She's cries for just about everything from not knowing what she want's to wear to me or my husband asking her a general question. What's wrong with her and do I need to consult someone in regards to her?

Answer 1

I'm an RN, but I think that it's not completely abnormal.... I would talk to her doctor about it, possibly she's upset about something, changes in her life, starting school again, something at home, children at school (they can be mean), any little thing could be it, and if the doctor doesn't see any other signs/symptoms of a physical issue such as bi-polar or depression, he'll refer you to a counselor. Counselors are great with children and can get so much more out of them than we as parents ever could. They're trained to specifically work with children and to the child taking to the counselor is fun! They don't even realize that they're letting go of issues that are bothering them. Don't worry. Talk to her doctor, kids can be depressed too! And if he can't help, then go to a counselor. If you don't have insurance, call your local Deptarment of Human Services and they can help you out free of charge. Even though they are children, they have breakdowns and emotions too! Don't get too worried, but be cautious. Good luck with it, I hope the best for you...

Answer 2

If she has always been that way, then I wouldn't be overly concerned. But if this has just started, there has to a reason. Children handle stress differently than adults. She may be having problems at school or feeling like she doesn't get to spend enough time with you. My daughter went through a stage of that about the same age and we had a girl's day out. We went out and had a great time, talking in the process. By the end of the day, we were relaxed and we sat down at a park with ice cream and talked. I explained to her that she could always tell me anything and that I would love her, but that if she cried instead of talking to me, I wouldn't be able to understand. I asked her if she would start talking to me like a big girl so that we could work on anything that was bothering her. She has really been doing great with coming to talk to me now. We still try to have a day for us about once a month or even just an evening. I have found that she doesn't like to be as honest around her Dad.

Answer 3

Shes under pressure. Maybe is it the tone u ask. too many decisions are very stressful. Einstein's closet was full of the same style clothes same color so he would not waste time on deciding what to wear. It sounds like shes just overwhelmed. May be you should let her have a fun day. Don't drill her for answers shes scared she will give the wrong answer. She must be very intelligent. Something must be giving her stress causing her to be so up set I'm sure if u make her day fun filled this will pass like a phase. I bet she starts laughing allot be silly with her make her have fun and forget her troubles. Could be from school or not enough good fun attention. Maybe shes sensitive some people I know still cry and they are adult. I hate picking out my clothes.

Answer 4

She could be just kind of overwhelmed at things, particularly since she's now in school.

When it comes to what she wears she's only six. Tell her the night before what she'll be wearing the next day. If she comes up with a different thing and knows what it is then let her wear that.

She could also be tired, 'frazzled", or even have low blood-sugar (that can make a person feel like crying because they can't deal with stuff).

Make sure she's got a basic level of structure, but don't make it so rigid she can't deal with it. Just let her know what will be served for meals, and - as with the clothing - if she asks about a specific alternative either let her have that or not.

Reduce questions. Maybe she's being questionned to death. (I know someone who questions people to death.) What general questions is your husband asking? Are they questions about whether your daughter did something wrong? (She'll feel accused and/or caught and/or wrongfully accused.) Are they just well intentioned questions like "What went on in school today?" (This kind of question can make a kid feel pressured into talking and having to think up stuff to say that they otherwise wouldn't have had to.) Are they questions related to asking her choice of one thing or another? (Again, too many choices are overwhelming for someone that young.)

She's only six. Kids get tired after a whole day in first grade. She's either tired or frazzled or overwhelmed of all three. Try to make sure she has plenty of relaxed atmosphere and time, and try not to zero in on the "what's-wrong-with-her" thing. Children get frazzled when they know parents think there's something wrong with them.

Good luck. It will pass.

Answer 5

I used to be an afterschool teacher and have experienced a lot with children your daughter's age. My suggestion would be to sit her down in a nice, quiet and comfortable area and have a chit chat with her. Ask her about school and her friends. Try to make small talk. There was obviously some kind of event that triggered this response in her. Maybe her teacher's approach, or some other kind of social interaction has traumatized her. If you feel that the chit-chatting with her is getting nowhere, and you've lasted more than 30 days with the same response, take her to see the school psychologist. It might also be that she's suffering from separation anxiety.

Answer 6

Your daughter may just need for her parents to put in some time with her or she just may be spoiled rotten :) like mine are. Anyway, you may want to ask her questions and make sure that nothing else is going on with her at school, home, and anywhere else she goes. Just observe her surroundings closely, you can never be too careful in this day and time. I have a cousin (girl) that is in Kindergarten and she has been crying since the 3rd day in school, or course her parents didn't make it any better by coming to the school and picking her up. They should have made her stay there after they found out what was going on, she just wanted to be at home and not at school...SPOILED!!!!! However, I am a teacher at the same school that she attends and I was asked by her father to go and check on her. Well, when I did she was fine and I told her that she needs to be at school and not at home b'cus she had to be able to help teach her younger brother. Anyway, to make a long story short...just observe, talk to her and see what's going on, and spend as much time as possible with her. She needs a lot of love and attention! I hope that I have helped you in this area. AL~

Answer 7

Get her in a safe environment...if she is crying out like that, something is wrong. I don't want to blow this out of proportion, because it could just be stress if your family has gone through some major changes, but it would still be important to talk to her and see if there are any signs that she has been molested. I had a friend whose child acted that way and it turned out that a babysitter had touched her child and he became very clingy and upset at the drop of a hat. i hope that is not the case, she may just need extra time with you. God Bless.

Answer 8

My daughter is also 6 and in the 1st grade. I have to deal with the same thing. I've come to realize that she could be just spoiled because she's the only child. She hasn't grown out of the whining and fussing stage. Trust me, I can't wait until she does. Just hang in there.

Answer 9

I used to be the same way when I was younger. Now I take prozac and it really helps. I would set up an appointment with a psychiatrist after talking to your doctor to talk with them about your daughter's problem. I'm sure it's nothing to worry about, but I would keep an eye on her and do all that you can to make her feel comfortable and loved in her times of anguish. Which I'm sure you are. Good luck
God Bless

Answer 10

I had a crier too. They usually grow out of it. Dont make too much of it. Just show compassion, then firmness. If there is a lot of turmoil going on in the family, it might be over that, even though she is crying about insignificant stuff. If there is turmoil, then some counseling might help, otherwise she is probably just a sensitive child.