My ex gf of 8 years recently left me and i have really taken it hard. I can see all the things i did wrong but at the time did these things without thinking of any consequences. Basically i just stopped showing my love for my gf and left her feeling lonely. I guess i got far to comfortable in the relationship. I really miss her but dont know whether or not i did what i did because i too wasnt completely happy in the relationship and am just more hurt that she left me. Is this common, or have i just realised what a good thing i had now that its gone?
2006-09-04 13:03:20 · 10 answers · asked by whitey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i understand dude, and im having the same problem right now, except she didnt leave me. she tells me i dont show her i love her as much, and i know i dont b/c i too am too comfortable in the relationship.
but im straightening up.. and it is common, us guys just have to realize that just b/c a girl loves us doesn't mean its impossible to get dumped. thats why im doing some serious fixing up, b/c i love her more than anything in the world. and im not a bull **** person who just says that, and if anyone is gonna try and judge me saying i dont love her or im too young then f*ck you
i know how i feel and so does my girlfriend, and thats all that matters, all u other people who dont know me dont know sh*t, and never will.
2006-09-04 13:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by undertakerk789 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been broken up with before to and i have also wasted time about wondering what i could have done differently, but believe me its for the best. You shouldn't try to change things you do or want to, just think of it this way she didn't like you the way you were, but some day someone will and just think of this girl as a step out of the way and you have come closer to finding the right person because you are now able to date and look for the right one.
2006-09-04 20:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by amanda marie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are in the same boat but i left my man two years ago and i still to this day think back about the way i was to him. I loved him but wasn't strongly attracted to him...i realize now that the love is still there but we are better off friend and now I find myself in a bit of carma cuz what i did to my ex my current bo does to me..my point is if you can try to talk to her and tell her you realized the mistakes and maybe she will see what you are saying and you may or may not be a couple but friends is good enough isn't it?
2006-09-04 20:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by wyldmntgyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you answered your own question. In any relationship, you have to do things to make it work. You can't take people for granted. If you do decide to try to get back with her, you will have a lot of work to do and show her you really care.
2006-09-04 20:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the male animal is peculiar in that it wants what it cant have. its that as well as the loneliness...it'll make you romanticize a relationship. you aren't remembering the crap fights and the in sensitize ways she treated you, your just lonely. being dumped is harder at the least the other person knew to embrace for impact
2006-09-04 20:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by chestymcbust 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you took her for granted and she got tired of it and decided to move on. Yes I am sure you are hurt, but move on also.
2006-09-04 20:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure you are not looking at this relationship through rose coloured glasses- are you remembering the bad times as well as the good
2006-09-04 20:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by Tiny S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you have learnt from the experience and can now use it in you next partner!
2006-09-04 20:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh come on now....really????
do you really think you were the only one that was ever "dropped".
get a grip fella.
2006-09-04 20:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by Jimmy Dean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thought you meant on your head. or did you?
2006-09-04 20:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋