My wife is 37 years old and we have two kids, a 14 and 3 year old. (male, female respec.) She was on paxil about 2 years ago for 18 months, but six months ago she decided to stop taking the medication because she didnt want to be looked on as "sick" and we have noticed a dramatic change in her behavior. She has horribly volatile mood swings and is depressed, were lucky if she smiles once a day. The problem we face is approaching her abotut he medication.
2006-09-04 12:35:12 · 10 answers · asked by Brandon 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think you should be the man and her best friend and tell her. Ease her fears and tell her she looks sick when she starts to have bad anger and depression. There is nothing wrong with taking medication when truley needed. It will better her life as well as everyone in the family. Tell her you are behind her 1000/0 Good luck
2006-09-04 12:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by so sick of being broke 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The medication has horrible side effects. She is right not to want to keep masking her illness, and if she doesn't want to be medicated that is her choice. She doesn't have the right to make everyone miserable though. Without medication, she has to realize that the illness must not be allowed to take over. When you remove the meds you have to start fighting your way back, with diet changes, lifestyle changes, attitude changes, therapy, exercise, you name it, whatever will help. Drugs are not the only way to treat psych disorders - just the easiest way. Therapy is very, very important. Help her get the help she needs to treat the underlying causes and the results will last forever.
2006-09-04 12:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a known fact that stopping paxil suddenly is dangerous. if you have to, there is a program called "new directions" that can work miracles with issues like this. check into it, since you say she's not easily approached by the subject.
she really does need to get into her doctor though. in this day and age, the reality is that most people take "something" on a daily basis. the times of being ashamed of this are history. if she needs something, she needs it. if she wants to stop taking it, she needs to follow the advice of her doctor on what steps she must take to ween her off of the paxil.
i can understand your frustration and feel the deep caring you feel for your wife. best regards to the both of you.
2006-09-04 12:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by Weber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your relative that you achieve salvation by being born again, or shall I say, believing in the Lord Jesus Christ as our Savior, but I don't agree with your relative saying that a Catholic cannot go to heaven, or maybe that a Catholic is not born again. I am sure that there are a lot of churches that the people going to them claim to be born again and or not. As far as a person's salvation, There is no way that we know for sure if someone else is saved or not. The only assurance that we have is whether we are saved or not.
2016-03-26 22:13:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure this is a very trying time for you....
You must sit and talk with your wife and have a serious talk with her.Tell her you love her and are concerned about her health. that you feel that she is unhappy and showing anger at times that you want to help.maybe ask her if she wants the two of you to seek some counseling.Then she won't feel she is going at it alone...then when in there the councilor or doctor can talk to her about getting some help...you could even call her doctor who gave her the meds in the first time ask him what you should do.
Now if there is any reason to believe that your children and you are in danger don't wait .relocate the kids and have a talk with her and tell her she needs to get some help or you will have to make other arrangements for you and the children.I know you love her but if she doesn't want to get help you must think of your children...also yourself...good luck and hang in there....you must have the thought how long should you wait ...i know this is something you don't want to do...but she has to want to help herself if not then you need to help yourself and your children...
I do understand how you feel been there...
2006-09-04 14:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with a crazy mother. See my answer about do you have a mental illness and see what resulted from it. Then decide how you are going to help your kids. They need to come first before your wife. I am not saying your wife is as crazy as my mother was, few women are, but you need to protect them until she realizes how out there her behavior is. You can't make her get help but yor kids can't protect themselvs. That is your job.
By the way, I work with clients who have mental illness and this sounds like more than straight depression. Sounds like other things are going on as well. Same thing still applies though. Get them out and keep them safe until she is healthy.
2006-09-04 13:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you want to or not, you or someone else has to talk to her. Its very obvious that your wife does need the meds. Depression is a very common thing in alot of people and its nothing to be ashamed of. Somehow you have got to convince her of that. If you cant do it, have someone else she is close to have a chat with her. Or take a video of her when she is behaving like she does and let her watch it, bet that would get her attention!!!!
2006-09-04 12:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by shirley e 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be concerned about yourself and your children. Yes, the mother should be told that she needs to take her medication, but ultimately it is her decision whether or not she wants to take care of herself. Your obligation is to make sure you and your children are living in a safe environment. We never know what could make a person snap - especially one tha that is clinically diagnosed with a mental disorder.
2006-09-04 12:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Challenge 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your kids and leave before they wind up in a bath tub o with their heads beat in with a brick.If not being looked at as 'sick' is more important than being healthy for her kids then she is a danger
2006-09-04 12:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by william b 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go to her and say take the medication. If relief isn't spelled P-A-X-I-L it certainly is spelled D-I-V-O-R-C-E .
2006-09-04 12:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by miguel.sombra 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋