there is this guy ive dated for 7 months. we get into arguments over stupid **** but then we most of the time work it out like nothing ever happend. but i broke up with him becouse im sick of him getting mad, or getting into fights, or talking to girls, or some stupid things like that. but he gets mad for the same reasons but he REALLY gets mad. He gets in trouble with the law and tells me im always trying to piss him off and sometimes he just calls me a *****. I know i dont want to be with him really but i lost my virgenity with him and i keep saying "i think i love him". I cant really trust him like im always worried that he is cheating on me or if he is lying which he does a lot!! and things like that. so someone please give me a little help!!!
2006-09-04 12:34:18 · 26 answers · asked by ashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I find it hard to believe that you'll actually take any advice you get here to heart, but I'll give it a shot --
YOU NEED TO LEAVE THIS JERK IN THE DUST, and then work on your self-esteem. How on earth can you love a guy who gets "really mad" and calls you names and blames YOU for it???
2006-09-04 12:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've answered your own question. Ok, you lost your virginity. It's done with. You'll be able to live with that. What's more important is not only your safety, but sanity. And if you have to convince yourself if you love him or not, you don't. Anything outside of the physical aspect of the relationship, is bad news and has been for a long time. Time to walk away sweetheart and not look back. Just remember the experience so that you don't make the same mistake twice. Any man that will lie and argue over the little things, has a security problem. Lose him now before you lose yourself...Love YOU...!!! : ) (good luck)
2006-09-04 12:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by dolphinman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you sound just like me 5 months ago. Only I was with my guy just shy of 5 years. Yeah he always told me he loved me and never wanted to hurt me and like you lost my virginity to him. But the REAL reality is, if someone REALLY loves you, they would NEVER dream of hurting you, making you cry and they would do anything they could do to avoid arguing with you. So please do yourself a favor and realize that you are worth more than being called a b*tch,lied to and cheated on. Try not talking to him for as long as you can stand it, think about how YOU FEEL when he's not around. Are you happy, relaxed, relieved, feel like you can breath. If so, then you seriously need to get rid of him. Save yourself the heartache I went thru, believe me you'll do yourself worlds of good. Now I was with my guy for a less than 5 years and I did it. So if this helps you in any way I'm pleased to shine a little light on your situation and wish you the best. Remember You and every other girl out there deserves to be treated like a princess.
2006-09-04 12:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by butrfly1215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a total loss. The anger, trouble with the law, lack of trust, lying, cheating...what a menu. Talk about self destruct. A classic case of crash and burn and you're right in the cross hairs. And you think you love him? Come on already! Wake up! How much longer can you pretend that "nothing ever happened"?
Break up with him before he breaks you up-into little pieces.
You've lost your virginity to him. Now your going to lose your mind, your soul, any scrap of self respect. And in the end, maybe going to lose your life.
2006-09-04 21:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting over your first love is hard despite how they may have treated you but people do it all over the world every day and you can too. you are not in love with this guy for the right reasons, you lost you virginity to him means that he will always be a special part of your life but this doesn't mean that you have to love him or have any contact with him. i suggest cutting all contact with this guy and everytime you feel the need to call him you need to call a friend or relative. you also need to work on your self esteem and gain some self respect whether that be talk to a professional or friends or meet new people. this situation isn't hopeless but it will be challenging and it will be rewarding when it's finished. good luck.
2006-09-04 12:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by burn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u answered ur own question... u think u love and u cant trust him. trust is a major facter in a relationship if u have to no then u have no relationship. fighting over silly things does happen but if they are constant and over the same thing over and over again then ur relationship is going no where. There is no rule saying just cuz u lost ur virginity to a guy means u have to stay with him. sure u will have a bond with him but move on hunny there are better guys out there..good luck
2006-09-04 12:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by lolli_pop69_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick it to the curb... fast! Try not to let him contact you because he knows your weaknesses and will USE THEM!
Make some new friends, and let yourself cry with the ones you have and trust. And mostly tell yourself you DO NOT deserve to be treated like that and there is some one out there for you that will treat you better.
I know where you are somewhat, I am three and a half weeks out from a similar situation, and it is sooooo hard to let it go and stand by your decision.
Be good to you, you know what you have to do no matter how much it hurts....
2006-09-04 12:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by Ree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy breaks the law when he gets mad then he's only a short distance away from taking it out on you. Plus, he sounds like a total loser. You should stay with him if you want a future of being queen of the trailor park with eight kids. Sorry but it's the truth buddy
2006-09-04 12:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U do not love him. I am a complete stranger and i can tell u that. First of all he sounds like an abusive boyfriend and if he hasn't smacked u yet believe me its coming. Love doesn't assume the worst, it believes the best. If the 2 of y'all really loved each other u wouldn't always be assuming that the other one is messing up. All i have to say is the guilty dog barks first!
2006-09-04 12:40:09 · answer #9 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I messed up and married a guy like that in my life and it's taken 3 years just to get him out of my life. My advise would be to RUN! you don't need a man like that. You can find someone much better and will treat you the way a woman should be treated.
2006-09-04 12:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋