he knows how i feel, but he seems intent on `shopping about`. i`ve tried to back off - even tried hating him but just cant do it. any suggestions?
2006-09-04 11:49:16 · 10 answers · asked by sillyfilly001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetheart, we are all creatures of nature. If he doesn't "notice" you that way at this time, you can't force the issue. The worst thing you can do is let him know how much you love him and the feeling not be mutual. This is how women AND men get taken advatage of. If one or the other knows you are madly in love with them, they also know you'll do ANYTHING to keep him/her. Don't let your emotions for a man (or even a friend for that matter) cloud who you are. In other words, it's ok to back off and protect your emotions and see if the love you desire comes TO you. If he knows how much you like him, then the invitation is in his court. If he doesn't take it, it's not you sweetie. And think about your own words, "he seems intent on shopping about...". If that's the case, do you really think he'll be loyal to you just because you love him as much as you do...??? He's not ready to settle so, move on and hear me when I say this, if he's playing hard to get, he'll kick himself once you are with someone else. Oh well, it'll be his lost. Let someone else be the recipient of the love you want to give...someone that wants what you want...!!!
Good luck sweetie...You'll be alright...
2006-09-04 12:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by dolphinman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he's "shopping around"? Maybe he's just waiting until you stop hating him or you start talking to him again instead of backing off.
Maybe it's easier to back off or hate him then go through the pain of finding out whether you two are compatible or not. You are avoiding short term pain and ending up with much longer term pain by not talking to him, having fun with him and doing al the good things that could attract him.
Also if he knows you like him, and you are playing games, which of course you are he make think you are trying to manipulate him and that could turn him off.
Stop making assumptions about him and come out of your head, admit that you don't know what he really thinks and give it a proper chance instead of sabotaging any potential that you have with this guy.
2006-09-04 12:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting go is always difficult. If he is intent on shopping around, maybe you should try the same, since he would be a waste of time and effort. You just might meet someone much better than he is!
2006-09-04 11:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by preludicrous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to let him do whatever he wants, you cant make him be with you. Men are turned off by desperate acting women. If you were more into yourself and not trying to revolve your whole sense of being around him, maybe he would have a reason to want you. That is the mistake I made with my last boyfriend. I love him with my whole heart, but he still wants to run the streets and talk to other women. So after months of trying to convince him that we belong together, crying over him, feeling like I am going to die without him, I made myself stop it. It gets easier with time. Trust me. Now he and I can talk and I dont feel that desperate feeling and longing anymore. Now he is the one that wants to be with me, but after some time to think about it.....He wasnt all that great and I would rather be single.
2006-09-04 11:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then start acting like you don't care 2! Don't let one man keep you from shopping around 2! Once you find someone else and start doing things with that person - his feelings might change or you may find out that he didn't really like you 'that way' anyway or vice versa! Good Luck
2006-09-04 11:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thankyou for your answer to my question. I'm no type of geek, i'm on a oilrig right now and saw you could ask questions thats all. With your question. To be honest it might sound shallow but all lad are the same he will be craving the attention. All men are really jelous weather they show it or not. it`s up to you how you take my oppinion xxx hope it all works out.
2006-09-04 17:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by Marty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he knows that already so you need to do some 'shopping about' of your own.
2006-09-04 11:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i first met my fella, he was constantly eying up women while we went out, i did the same but to men, he soon got jealous, if i feel he is not paying me any attention, i dye my hair to get him to notice me, he hates me with dark hair. saying that, if he doesnt feel the same, i wouldnt waste my time on him.
2006-09-04 11:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by zeldieuk2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need end it with him. He is looking for something better and he is only going to make you feel like you are worthless.
2006-09-04 11:54:10 · answer #9 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was worth your efforts, he would be paying you lots of attention anyway. Find somebody who really appreciates you.
2006-09-04 11:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by Richard M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋