my bf just got into a fight and he got taken away in an ambulance and i dont know what the **** to do cuz i told him to just ingnor it and he was like no. like 10 people jumped him as soon as he got out of the truck!!! a few of his friends helped him but i really love him but yet i dont want to go out with someone who fights and **** like that. he is probley going to jail now cuz if he got into 1 more fight then he would be put in jail!!! im so ******* confused on what to do!!!
2006-09-04 11:45:50 · 22 answers · asked by ashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Telll him youlove him (only if you do) but tell him you hate when he fights tell him he has got to change or you will dump him cause he is to aggressive all the time GOOD LUCK
2006-09-04 11:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by Vanessa~Yeah!! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You already know what to do. You said you don't want to go out with someone who fights like that. Obviously, this is not his first time. It will not be his last time either. Nothing about jail will help him to become less violent. If this is not the type of man you want, then move on. Find someone else.
2006-09-04 18:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly wait until he is in the clear healthwise and he is back home safely. Then sit him down and tell him that unless he does something to change his behaviour he is going to risk losing you because you aren't going to go through with and have to deal with all this upset and disagrements over one anothers principles. You can either live with it or you can't. If he really can't change his ways himself maybe he'd consider some counselling so he can get in control of his temper before its too late.
2006-09-04 18:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him straight out.
tell him that you know how he feels..tell him that it pissed you off too. but let him know he should be sensible..10 guys jumped him?? and it was just your guy and a couple of his friends? did he seriously think he could win this fight? if he does it again, tell him that you don't want to be with him because it scares you and you can't handle that kind of pressure. if he cares about you enough, and this situation comes up again, warn him and im sure he'll ignore it. just sit down and have a talk with him when he gets back. good luck.
2006-09-04 18:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jamiexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! Get educated, get a job, and learn to live independently. Finding a Church would also be of benefit to you. If you stay with this man, you will wind up poor, in jail, and eventually dead too soon. By your question, I judge that you have the potential to be a strong woman. Stand up for yourself and choose a better life. Good luck.
2006-09-04 18:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you're most upset because you DO know what you should do. Your instinct to steer clear of folks who settle their problems with their fists is a good one. Trust your gut. That doesn't mean you won't miss him, or that it won't hurt, but it will most likely save you a lot of other kinds of heartache in the long run!!
2006-09-04 18:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by theblondegenius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to date a boy that fights, at least find a boy that wins the fights.
2006-09-04 18:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by marklin1972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to leave this guy alone if he dont respect you or himself any more than that. Who knows,next time whomever he is fighting with may not stop at just him.You have to look outn for yourself. IF NOT THEN YOU KICK HIS *** and straighten him out.
2006-09-04 18:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand by him...help him to stop fighting, but try to understand if he feels he must....men sometimes need to fight.
if you love him, you will make it...and you will stand by with him proud and strong. Dont feel bad if you cant love him for or thru all this...it wasnt meant to be if you cant...
good luck...my man was just the same..now he's a cop and the greatest man, everybody loves him. He learnt :)
2006-09-04 18:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by Ella S-class baby 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, if I were you, I would go to the hospital and make sure he's ok. If you want a lover, find a lover. If you want a fighter, sounds like you're doing good.
2006-09-04 18:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋