I dated a guy for 3 years(he's my brothers best friend,thats how me met)I caught him cheating so I left.It has been a little over a year and he still tries everything to get me back,I do see a change in him and think sometimes about going back to him,I have dated other men since and cant seem to be too interested in any of them,except for one guy,and this is the pickle im in,this one guy is friends with my ex and brother and I saw him out one night when I was still bitter about my ex cheating and he listened and understood,he drove me home that night and I invited him to stay,I asked him to sleep in the bed with me,he did,I asked him to put his arm around me,he did.He was a complete gentlman and did not make any moves.I was told he likes me but is freaked about my ex.I saw him once since then and he came to me and said"your killing me"It has been 6 months since that night and I still think about him.I truly appreciated the respect he showed for me.Who should I try and go for?
2006-09-04 11:20:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why have you wasted all this time???????
Forget the cheater. This Guy sounds NICE.
Stop wasting time. Call him, and tell him that.
2006-09-04 11:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would personally go for the gentleman. The thing is, when and if you two get together, you have to make things clear between you and your brother. Your brother should only be concerned about who you date, if he feels that the guy you are dating is "trouble." Otherwise, your brother has to 'grow up' and be mature about things. You ex has no business with your business any longer, but he also has to understand that life moves on. (He might be trying to hook up with you again...because he doesnt currently have a girlfriend-not necessarily because he "misses" you.) He screwed up and cheated on you, and you ended the relationship because that wasnt the type of relationship that you wanted to condone. If you were to go back to your ex, whether he has seemed to change his ways or not, you are subconsciously showing the man, and everyone else, that you condone that type of behavior. I.e., he cheated on you, you punished him by breaking up for a little while, and then you get back together with him. The thought is, if you go back to him...and later on down the line, something happens where he gets side tracked or whatever--and breaks that fidelity contract...the whole message is, its OK...she will forgive me and we will work things out again.
Try starting something with the gentleman, especially if he is open to it. If he is 'freaked' about your ex, you have to make it clear to this gentleman that your ex has no place in your personal life anymore and that you want him (the gent) to be the one there. You may want to go up to your ex and tell him that YOU want to date someone who is a mutual friend. Ask him if he is going to give you personal space to date who you want to date...otherwise, if he doesnt buck up and "bite the pipe" (shut up and let people live), he is going to be reckoning with you.
Good luck!
2006-09-04 18:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the guy who treated you with respect that night he stayed with you. he is caring and understanding and he said "you are killing me" because you may be showing him in ways you don't realize that you are still thinking about your ex and still love him.
2006-09-04 18:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not your ex that's for sure - once a cheater always a cheater
2006-09-04 18:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT GOOD TO BEPICKEY BECASE WIN COME TO YOUR HEART
BECASE YOU DO NOT WENT TO BE HEART BARKEN HEART
2006-09-04 18:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋