My ex & I have had alot of troubles. & we both feel it has been most of my fault as 2 why we're how we are now. I didnt cheat on him or nething extreme. But when he'd cry id ignore or blow him off sometimes. I feel like crap for it now but at the time i didnt care. Now that we're over everythings different. He says he still loves me & always will but he acts so different now. He doest treat me all sweet like he used 2. & he's spending alot of time w/this new girl. When we're together & hanging out we're perfect & so in love w/each other. But he says i call to much & im not giving him enough time. Should it be ok for him to be seeing some one else because of our past? Is him not caring under the lines of "giving him time"? Or is he just stringing me along...Now it hurts so bad kus i know what i did & how i ruined us & everything we could of been. But how do i fix it ? And how much time and space should i put up with? How far is too far? What do i until he is ready? When do i give up?
2006-09-04 11:19:34 · 18 answers · asked by xbinary_dreamsx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Apparently right now you two are not together, according to your question you mention he has a new girlfriend, that is a huge sign to move on with your life. Because he is not available to be in a relationship with you right now. In order for a relationship to work, you both need to be single and involved with only one another. It is a huge sign as well that he is asking for space from you - because he doesn't know how to let you down easily.
I'm sorry that you are having such a hard time letting go of your ex ...
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-04 11:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he loves you but has decided he would like to move on at this point. Sometimes you can go too far and once that line is crossed the mind naturally will withdraw from the situation and there is no going back. It is possible to forgive but not to forget. A person can forget what is said but never the way you made them feel.
I would give him all the space he needs and consider yourself fortunate if his love for you is strong enough to return at some point. Good luck, I know exactly how you feel.
2006-09-04 11:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the space he needs, he deserves this after the way you treated him. Things are good when you two spend time together but he doesn't know if that will last. You may go back to walking all over him after a little while. He is trying to get perspective, he wants to see how other girls will treat him, he needs to know how nice it is to be treated well, and to gather up th confidence he lost while you were together. You need to let him go through this and if he needs to end things with you permanently, you need to respect that it is for the best for him. He is a good guy that you treated badly, doesn't he deserve the best from now on?
2006-09-04 11:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u can stay freinds with an x but hes not gonna b all sweet with u if u r finished of course hes going to act different hes drawing a line under your realationship and good luck to him for meeting someone new if u treated him like crap then why shouldnt he?u dont say anything about your 'past' everyone has crap to deal with in a realationship it just depends on how u deal with it my guess is that u finished it thinking u were stronger than him and its not turning out that way??if u do want him back u better act fast and start grovelling...
2006-09-04 11:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule #1 NEVER cling to a guy (it makes him want space more).
If you want him to want YOU...be a sweetie about his NEEDS. Say, "I love you enough to give you the space you need. I will miss you, but will respect your decision." Believe me, if you are a sweetie.....MEN take notice. If you cry and whine and ask why, why? why? he will lose interest. Then go out and get a lot of interests...live life (even though you are dying inside without him). If a guy sees you happy and living a life without him (full of interests) he may turn around and come back. He could realize he is spending time with the wrong girl (the new girl) and that he wants his sweetie back. Let me know what you decide.
2006-09-04 11:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by OC Teacher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I think he's already moved on. All you can do is pour your heart out, and say basically what you've said there, that you're sorry. I think, though, that this isn't all your fault - he's giving you mixed messages. Saying he loves you - but he's got a girlfriend. Expecting you to give him space and wait for him while he's sleeping with someone else?
But if he's happy with his new girlfriend, then you just have to accept it, and in time, move on. It's difficult, but maybe it just wasn't meant to be. If he really loved you, you'd be together. I'm sorry to be so harsh, but I feel it's best to be honest, as I've been there myself before. I know how frustrating it is, but sometimes you've got to just let them go.
2006-09-04 11:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl if he needs space give it 2 him...tell him ti hit the curb & kick rocks. once he finds out there is interest from another man towards u, watch how he reacts. send yourself flowers & make up a mans name 2 sign on card. have a friend send u some lovely funny cards. sit back & watch. pretty much tried & true method. if u get back with him...remember how u were in the past & strive 2 do better than b4.
2006-09-04 11:26:10 · answer #7 · answered by virgo1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's waiting for you to let him go so he won't feel guilty for dumping you. He wants the other girl, but only because you treated him bad and he doesn't feel the same way anymore. No matter how hard you try, he'll never like you the same. Nice job....
2006-09-04 11:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by Walter K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Leave him alone. He has apparently moved on and now it sounds like you're trying to hold him back. When you guys were together you basically had no feelings for him. Now that he's ignoring you (or trying to) you want him back?
2006-09-04 11:38:35 · answer #9 · answered by darkhunterfan65 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has been hurt and he is confused with his feelings and emotions about you and what happened . Give him space and leave him be until he is ready. if you bother him too much and are pushy then you will create more problems between the two of you,
2006-09-04 11:23:42 · answer #10 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋