Why would a guy you have been with for five years, suddenly tell you he stopped loving you two years ago and now plans to move across the country and live with his other family leaving (there's no other girl involved) you high and dry for rent and bill money in a two week notice? When right before that he had enrolled in college for end of summer, recieving the highest marks on the assessment you could get, then ask his gf (me) to take the test so we can go to college together because it will be fun. Why suddenly out of nowhere abandon the plan for your future to do this? When out of state taxes in NC for college will be sky high for him, even though he may not realize it. Telling you he plans to call you periodically to see if you're ok, but tries to rip your heart out before he goes by making comments about other women's body on movies, and the computer right in front of you?
What if he calls and wants to come back and says he's sorry, what the hell?
Why?
2006-09-04 11:10:04 · 11 answers · asked by Liquid Cherry Blood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There believe it or not isn't another girl, he is going to be staying with his grandmother on only $160, and he hasn't been there before.
2006-09-04 11:14:49 · update #1
Nope, his family is actually paying the half of the rent he screwed me on and won't let me pay them back.
2006-09-04 11:15:39 · update #2
I'm really sorry that someone would treat you this bad .. sadly it sounds like to me .. he is extremely immature and you would be better to move forward in your life without him.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-04 11:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Honey,
I don't really know why, but I have an idea that he has not been totally honest with you all along......
He might be gay or something, but he certainly has another life that is going on and is more important to him than his plans with you. He is not the kind of person you want to help raise your kids and support a family.
Just go on to college without him. If he is going to treat you that way, you don't need him. There are lots of nice guys out there. They all want sex all the time, but they might be willing to get to know you first....Then you can tell if they are really nice before you open your life and body to them.
It is time to take control. Don't have anyone as a friend who is mean to you or might be mean to you. Just move yourself emotionally away from people that are not fun to be with. Choose friends who are good to you. You have to talk to people to find out what they are thinking, how they acted in the past and what their goals are. If your man is not talking about these things with you, find someone else.
Good Luck
2006-09-04 18:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by BBQribs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should say good riddens to bad rubbish, he's obviously damaged and not worth your time to fix.
And, he's has lots to be sorry for; lying to you for the last two years and then leaving you with his bills are just starters.
You know you can't take him back unless you want him to treat you this way again, trade up and move on.
2006-09-04 18:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. You sound like you are in a lot of pain. I would be hurting too if it were me.
He should have told you two years ago if that is the case instead of leading you on.
I can't give you the answer for him to come back if he says he is sorry. That is totally your call. I would think twice. I wouldn't want to be hurt so badly for the second time.
Big Hug to you...........
2006-09-04 18:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's already showed you that you cannot trust him, and you are not first in his heart. Why would you consider taking him back? He will only hurt you again. You have been a convenient anchor for him, and now he has decided what he wants to do...minus you. You have to let him go. I'm sorry for your pain.
2006-09-04 18:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you did something and don't realize it, and turned him off.
If it's any consolation to you, it happens all the time to many people, both men AND women. And there's not much you can do about it. Sh*t happens.
2006-09-04 18:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by MrZ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His family probably made him an offer he's not telling you about.
I'm sorry this happened to you :(
2006-09-04 18:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe there is another girl even though u dont want to think about it
2006-09-04 18:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by bbrun5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've been with that jerk for 5 years and don't know him at all?
You have major problems (and/or he found someone more to his liking)
2006-09-04 18:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
who knows..people like that you just can never understand jus tel him to go screw himself n just move on
2006-09-04 18:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by LilAngel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋