BELOW IS THE ARTICLE...
July 14, 2003 -- Virtually all of the adulterous women interviewed in a recent survey said they cheat because they deserve all of the pleasure and thrills associated with a secret affair.
Ninety percent of the cheating wives said they suffered absolutely "no guilt" but felt "entitled" to the good feelings they got, according to Susan Shapiro Barash, a professor and author, who randomly interviewed 120 women from a diversity of professional backgrounds, ages and races for a recent book on the issue.
She posted ads in YWCAs to find women who were sexually active, according the report on her study in The New York Post.
She said her research reveals that six in ten women will cheat on their husband at least once during their marriages.
"Women feel entitled because they're not getting what they need in marriage," said Barash, who wrote A Passion for More: Wives Reveal the Affairs that Make or Break their Marriages. "These women would recognize her need - her desire to have more in her life than she had in her marriage. "For the women who choose it, it's with great effort, so they really juggle the affair and somehow fit it in."
Baltimore psychologist Shirley Glass agrees with Barash.
"I don't see women feeling a lot of guilt," said Glass, in her recent book, Not Just Friends: Protect Your Relationship from Infidelity and Heal the Trauma of Betrayal . Women with careers and financial resources can take more risks, she added: "If their partners find out, they can take care of themselves."
But Barash has her dissenters. "I have not witnessed a growing experience of 'entitlement.' Their conscience is bothering them," Kristen Harrington, a marriage counselor in upstate New York, told the Post .
Glass also found surprising changes in men who mess around.
She said that men's affairs tend to be almost exclusively about sex; they're usually just getting "a little on the side" with a female subordinate.
"Now, men and women are working together as equals, with a lot of intellectual energy and common interests," Glass said. "It's a combination of emotional and sexual bonds. And it's more dangerous because it creates an alternative to the marriage, rather than just a supplement."
Still, being equal in some ways hasn't erased the differences in why men and women cheat, some experts say.
"Men have affairs to boost their self-esteem and because it's available. Their feelings are closely tied to their sexuality and potency," Brooklyn psychologist Marcella Bakur Weiner said. "Women don't just want a night of joy and pleasure. No matter what the feminists say, women want love. They want emotional attachment and bonding."
2006-09-04 10:56:15 · 17 answers · asked by HarvardMed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
XXXXXXXXX Woman? I think the true question is why most men cheat. XXXXXX
2006-09-04 10:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I would say men because men cant get enough of sex. If the wife is depressed or sad or not in the mood, the guy goes off and finds somebody else to have sex with. A girl generally only cheats when her partner is not paying her enough attention or loving her the way he should and another guy is.
2016-03-26 22:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people cheat because "the grass is always greener". We think someone ELSE will provide us with the needs we're not getting fulfilled by our partner.
We all get bored with the same old person, same ways of making love and we long for something new.
Now as an old person, I really think it is possible to work on the relationship with have- to spice it up and make it almost as exciting as being with a new person. Use costumes, pretend you are someone else, "pick up" your guy in a bar, do brand new things together, and there will be no need for cheating.
from a grandma-aged person
2006-09-04 11:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is that all? I figured it would be more. I am single and plan on staying that way. I am receiving nude photographs from a woman I know who is married. I did not ask for the pictures she just sends them to me. I was also in a bad relationship with a girl I think cheated on me although I am not sure because I kicked the sht out of the guy I thought she was messing with and he just kept saying what are you doing. I would think if he really messed with her he would have bragged about it to try and save face after I beat his balls in. She was the last girl I was with and the last one I will ever be with. Women suck!
2006-09-04 11:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Some women get addiction to do it.Others enjoy to have more than one partner,mean they have 2 or 3 partners at the same time.Others do,because the partner they have give them a hell's life.Others do, because they have an unhappy life and sex life with their partners.What I say is true.You are right too.I agree with you.Men do,because they want to do it,does matter what excuses they invented.
2006-09-04 11:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read that artical that you put down and you should find your answer. If a woman doesn't feel emotionally attached to their partner, then she'll go looking for someone she can relate to - but she may not have the guts to break up with her partner, when it makes more of a mess to cheat then to be honest. It really is sad. :(
2006-09-04 11:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by I Love Yeshua 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
many women cheat because they dont understand many things about relationships that they think they do, in other words most of them are stupid.
The reason why men cheat is simple but it being simple doesnt make it right. men cheat because 1) we like variety, when we see a girl on a skirt we go insane, yes sometimes some men think with their penises. 2) because we're not getting any at home, and our wife doesn't give a crap about taking care of us like he takes care of her and shows her how much he loves her. almost never a MAN would cheat because his feelings have faded.
why women cheat is a little different. women cheat because they don't understand the difference between being in love and loving. in my experience, women's brain develop up to teenage years so they still believe that loving someone is the rush of feelings you get when you first meet someone and desperately wanting to see them every second of everyday. missing them and having butterflies in their stomach, and once those feelings fade, they decided that they dont "love" that person anymore, when that's just being in love or infatuated, and after this, must women dont even have the guts to say "it's over" and they decide to cheat. when women cheat they want more than just sex, they want a connection, they dont want a one night stand, which makes it worse than when a man cheats. it's mosty women who leave their man for someone else specially after cheating, when men cheat, they usually stay with the person he has had a long term relationship with.
i have a saying, something that i will always say, and that every man should remember and understand, that saying is "being in love brings feelings which put 2 people together, love is what keeps them together after those feelings fade" men need to keep in mind that your girl might leave any second within the first year of the relationship and if she does shes a a stupid immature little girl that doesn't even know what love is yet, so you're better off alone than with a little girl like that.
Also a lot of women don't have the perseverance to keep fighting for a relationship when problems and arguments come (specially after the feelings have faded) and they decided to break up when most men would stand up and keep on fighting to make the relationship work. i have a little saying for these women. "A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short" Andre Maurois.
and i have something to say to those girls that get bored in relationships really fast because the feelings are starting to fade and start to feel they're "too good" for their man. "The girl who thinks no man is good enough for her may be right, but more often she is left."
and i have a little something for men too. "The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer -- because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement, not the possession of a brainless slut."
- Ayn Rand, "Atlas Shrugged"
if a girl cheats on you remember a few things. she's not worth it, and the best punishment the guy she cheated on you with is going to get, is to be with her, he will most likely get cheated on by her. Also remember that there is karma and if what i just said doesnt happen then shes going to really fall in love with him and he will cheat on her, because a man that is up to being with a girl who's still with someone else, is as well a worthless person (to not say something else), and is capable of cheating on her, and after that happens, she would probably go back to you after she realizes what a great man she lost and you will have the chance to reject her and tell her anything you want.
There may be reasons why people cheat, men and women, but one things is for sure, there is no excuse for it. break up first, then find someone else, dont cheat and if you're not going to be able to respect and love your partner after all those butterflies in your stomach migrate, then don't even get in the relationship at all. if you're the kind of person who can develop feelings for someone else while you're with your man, you may as well just be in porn because you already don't have any morals. please don't go out with someone just because you like them, you're going to end up liking someone else, maybe even cheating and destroying the other persons life.
one last thing, when you're in a relationship there's no need to go dance, and if you're gonna go dancing take your partner. dont go to this kind of places, dont put yourself in a situation where you may become vulnerable.
2006-09-06 06:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by jextreme_22 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
The same reasons men cheat.
2006-09-04 10:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
most women lacks attention and i think a majority of women love attention and don't mind cheating to get it tha't just one senario i would get into a couple more but i would be here all day
2006-09-04 11:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by pmpforever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I'm not gunna read all that...but i don't see the point to cheating....JUST BREAK UP **** lol it's not as hard as trying to hide ur secret affair- some say they get bored BREAK UP they don't feel appreciated BREAK UP maann...and men cheat too don't leave that out...I pray those cheating men's Penis shribble up and fall off
2006-09-07 10:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by 1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
women cheat and think its okay for them, but not for men
2006-09-04 11:01:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋