2006-09-04 10:31:20 · 27 answers · asked by Corey 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think if a divorce is a nesscary possibility it should happen. The church needs to butt out of a couple's private life and as for the kid's I AM GLAD MY PARENTS DIVORCED 6 YEARS AGO. I live in a healthier environment now.
:) Adelaide
2006-09-04 10:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Staying married for anything other than love, caring and commitment is a disaster waiting to happen. When a relationship is over, it should be over. Staying miserable in a miserable relationship doesn't do anyone any good; children can pick up on the problems whether you tell them or not. Fear of what people in church will think? No one can control what other people think: stay together and anger some; get divorced and anger others.
Bad marriages should end because it will make everyone involved happier, eventually, and that will make the kids happier.
2006-09-04 10:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Zzyzzxzzyx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if staying married is actually beneficial for the kids, that would be a good reason to stick it out. Say if one spouse was unfaithful to the other, then it would be good of the innocent spouse to think beyond his or her own pain and remember the vows that were made and how this affects people other than just themselves. If both spouses are willing to work on themselves and keep the best interest of the children in mind, then staying together is definitely the best way to go.
However, if they are treating eachother in an unloving manner, are violent and abusive, it is not in the children's best interest to stay together because then they will think that is what a marriage is and that is an acceptable way to treat or be treated. In some situations, separation of spouses is what is best for all involved.
I don't think fear of what people in church might think is a very good reason to stay. I just left my abusive and alcoholic husband and have received quite a lot of support and encouragement from the people at my church.
2006-09-04 10:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by anabasisx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. I think it does more damage than good, causes more division in the long run.
My parents almost divorced when I was twelve. I was already packing an prepared to go live with my father had that happened. But my father got a job on 3rd shift and they decided to stay together for our sake. Well now, it's 25 years later, they can barely stand the sight of each other and have to see each other a lot since both are retired. They fight constantly. Each would have been happier in the long run had they went their separate ways when they almost did it.
Growing up in such an environment made me swear to myself if I ever got in the same situation I would never do that.
2006-09-04 10:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by genaddt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there isn't physical, emotional, sexual or chemical abuse, also adultery, then you need to fight for your marriage. There are Biblical reasons for divorce. However, you took vows in front of God...and to be honest, He expects you to keep them.
Divorce is too easy these days and not enough people are willing to stick it out. Please don't tell me it's cause you aren't "happy" anymore.
Happiness is a decision (everyday). Isn't it Paul that said, "I think myself happy!" If you are looking for outside stimuli to make you happy, you are looking in the wrong place.
There's is no human on the earth that can "make" you happy. There are no possessions that can do the trick either. Once the newness wears off...then you will need another stimuli.
As for the kids...well, if you have a Biblical reason to exit the relationship then go for it. However, just because someone has done something (let's use adultery) doesn't mean you can't work through it. Forgiveness works wonders.
However...forgiving someone...doesn't mean you put yourself in the same position again to be hurt again.
Best wishes!
Grace and God Bless!!!
2006-09-04 11:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by Salvation is a gift, Eph 2:8-9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think of staying at the same time for the youngsters is a robust thought. Staying at the same time in a depressing relationship the place the two mum and dad are unhappy isn't offering a greater loving and robust abode. the youngsters will % out your unhappiness, and could advance to sense resented. Having you the two demanding, combating, and unhappy can not lead them to sense greater enjoyed or value your presence. only on account which you divorce, does not recommend which you heavily isn't of their life, you at the instant are not destined to be your father. If the marriage won't be in a position to be salvaged (and consistent with danger this is with counseling and a dedication from the two considered one of you) then objective for an amicable divorce and a custody contract that facilitates you to spend high quality time with your babies. Divorce isn't elementary, yet i'm specific that they had extremely have 2 satisfied mum and dad aside.
2016-10-01 07:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the biggest issue is why would you leave the spouse. is he abusive, is he cheating on you. is he not taking care of you as a husband is suppose too, such is he not working or is he wasting money on things instead of taking care of family responsibilities. if none of this is whats happening. and it can be something resolved with help speak to a church elder, or a church person you have asked council of before. if you don't want to involve the church for fear of being ridiculed. go to a none church councilor.
pray about it also. i came close to that thinking a few times. his only problem was not paying attention to me and the kids. when he realized he was about to loose us. he started to straiten up. he also spent more time on the computer than focus on us. i threatened the same leaving and he saw my point. we have been married 12 years, 3 kids.
2006-09-04 10:41:13 · answer #7 · answered by angelchele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple should try to keep together UNLESS it is a domestic violence situation. It doesn't matter if its the husband or wife is the offender, the duty of the abused spouse is to get out of the situation ASAP and take the kids with them. The safety of the abused is top priority.
My experience with churches has been that some people are never going to be understanding. Just some of them have never been through these kinds of experiences.
Just a quick note: Even the Bible says you can't please man (as in mankind).
2006-09-04 10:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by Curious Student 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a couple doesn't get along, if there is no comunication, or one of them has cheated.. Then get a divorce. Kids are not a reason to stay together. What kind of example would you be giving to your kids if you stay in a bad relationship? You're just allowing them to go out and make the same mistakes you did.
2006-09-04 10:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by ExoticKiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if there are children involved, it's very, very important for the husband and wife to make all possible efforts to stay together. That being said, I can also see why growing up in a home where mommy and daddy hate each other isn't so great either.
We should care about what God thinks, not what people think. God is compassionate and caring and loves us.
2006-09-04 10:33:43 · answer #10 · answered by Esther 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋