I am doing peturnity test to make sure the guy who I belive is the dad really is. He is being a complet jerk about it and won't even talk to me about it. He has a good job and used to be in the navy. I have nothing against him and don't want to keep him from her but he said if he is the dad he is going to fight for custody. I relize that he will probably only be able to get joint if any but I need to know what I can do to prevent him from being able to take her over a hour away for a week. Please serious advice only please I am desperate. My daughter means everything to me and I admit it was my fault for having a one night stand but I have been raising my daughter by my self and if he gets joint I will go crazy. I am not trying to keep him from her I just don't know him well enuf to let her go like that. PLEASE HELP!!!!
2006-09-04 10:21:57 · 10 answers · asked by babykins1025 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One of the biggest misconceptions of joint custody is that it means split time. It doesn't. Joint custody merely means that you and the child's father have to share responsiblity for the child, including doctor's, hospitals, day care, school, and that sort of thing. More than likely, the visitation will still be standard, meaning every other weekend and one night a week.
Take the paternity test. File for child support. And if he wants to fight for custody, let him. The biggest thing we as women do is give validation to men who are using our children to control us. This also goes for men whose exes use the children against them as well. Ultimately, a decision is up to the judge. Studies show that most judges prefer to leave the child with the mother, as long as the mother is fit. This has nothing to do with finances, but with how you can raise the child. In addition, depending on the age of the child, the father may not be allowed to take the child over night. In addition, most counties have a provision in the child custody paperwork keeping the child in the county in which the child resides. The best thing you can do is get a lawyer, and if you are broke, call legal aid. Find every available resource that you can find, because they are out there. You just have to be persistant.
Good Luck.
2006-09-04 10:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by Christine L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regarding the mortgage portion of your question: IF they live in the U.S…. Contacting the mortgage company will serve no purpose. This is an issue strictly between son and girlfriend. The mortgage company will not get involved in it in any way, nor will they remove her name from the loan. In order to remove her name, son would have refinance the loan in his name alone (and of course, he'll have to qualify for it, unless they have a loan that allows a non-qualifying assumption, but that's pretty rare these days), and in order to do that girlfriend would either have to agree to it or he’ll have to take her to court over it. But the question is this…how likely are the chances that they will get back together? If son refinances, it will mean time/effort/expenses to do so. So, IF they get back together six months later and he adds her name back to the mortgage, then basically he’s done all that for nothing. On the other hand, if it's more likely that they will not get back together, then it’s probably best if he gets this taken care of *now*. Here’s what the mortgage company will do: IF the payments are not made *in full* each month, the mortgage company will proceed with foreclosure, and (as long as both names are on the mortgage) they will foreclose against both parties.
2016-03-26 22:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first if your daughter is very young yes you should be worried..if he is the father, and willing to step to the plate, be glad for that.! maybe you should talk to a lawyer about the legal side of this mater..as a father he does have rights....maybe you can let him have her overnight or for the weekend....to start out with...with him being in the navy, probably means he has i higher maturity level...and i don't think he would want any thing bad to happen to his daughter... and when she gets older maybe you can let her stay for a week or so..
2006-09-04 10:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by nas88car300 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Far as am aware the court can grant supervised visit's if parenting skill's are in question.If you play fair you have nothing to loose maybe a visit to the C,A,B would be a good idea for accurate information.
2006-09-04 10:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you go to court over it you go about the legal action first.JOint will mean every other weekend,2 hrs on her bday, and a month during summer( i am leaving some stuff out), but if he lives over 100 miles ,the order will change to once a month i think. but get you a good lawyer, they cost a ton of money. good luck
2006-09-04 10:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by Stoner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have no way of knowing about time ,he is the dad and will have more time then you say.The only way would be if you follow them all the time but then your life will be ruined for good .Be positive and live happy and get along with the dad ,life is way to short trust me my dear.
2006-09-04 10:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by pirateron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask for supervised visitation on the basis that you don't know the guy and have had limited contact with him.
2006-09-04 10:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd better get a good attorney, most times they go joint anymore. You don't know him that well?
2006-09-04 10:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is your daughter? he has rights as the father.ask to have visits where you have your daughter watched by some one else while he is visiting her.
2006-09-04 11:05:12 · answer #9 · answered by dask 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-04 10:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋