he ran out of his classroom when i picked him up today and has been very quiet. he will not tell me anything about his day and when i ask he gets defensive. any idea's how to broach the subject?????
2006-09-04 10:12:57 · 9 answers · asked by *JC* 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
In a nonconfrontational manner ask your son if something is bothering him.If you still feel unsatisfied speak with his teacher to see if he/she is aware of anything that happened on the day he ran out of class.Let the teacher know that you are concerned he may be being bullied at school. Put your concerns in writing and they will know you are serious. In Ontario,Canada there is zero tollerance for bulllying(verbal or physical).Schools must provide a safe learning environment.It is not just kids being kids it's about kids victimizing those they feel are too weak to fight back. Bullies are brave in a pack and grow stronger by getting away with intimidating and belittling others.The parents of bullies should address this problem before they have a visit from the police. The impact of bullying can be felt for a long time and make the victim fear school. The bully seems to win in the kids being kids mentality.How can anyone think that is acceptable or normal behaviour even from a kid?
2006-09-04 13:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U Should Sit Down In Ur Home Alone With Him And Ask Him If Any Body Was Being Mean To Him In School And See Wat He Tells U....He Might Be Scared At The Moment To Tell U But Tell Him U Need To Kno And If He Agrees That He Been Bullied Go To The School And Ask Ur Son Who Is It And U Should Talk To Him Teacher About It Too.....
2006-09-04 17:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Babyliciouz_Angel08♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very possible (not that I'm implying there's something wrong with your son, it's just that at 4 years old that's the way kids are). Ask him if something is bothering him. If he says yes then talk to him about it. Also try having him draw a picture of what is bothering him. Often times children at that age don't know how to explain things but can express them wonderfully through a drawing. Also talk to his teacher as well and ask her what's going on. Good luck and God bless :-)
2006-09-04 17:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was 6 i was bullied and the same thing happened. But my mom told me that she would go with me all that day of school to help out and chaperone and stuff. And it helped. Stay with your 4 year old all day when she is in school and you will see what will be happening. Or you could talk to his teacher!
2006-09-04 17:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by Bob the Cat.™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question to ask are "did anything fun happen today @ school" .. you can change it from that.. from fun to sad...
the question "what happened @ school" is too broad and you won't get it out of him that way.
ask him questions later in the evening or after dinner... when he is more relaxed. my son always informed me of bad events @ school later on when he felt more relaxed and calmer.. a good hug and some rocking in the rocker helped him to feel safe and then he could open up @ that age.
the more you can get him to confide in you he will always remember that and to tell you more and more as time goes on.
also you can try talking to his teacher, any aides or lunch ladies who are there to witness anything.
can you volunteer a few afternoons during lunch? that makes the child feel cared for and a good to see mom there...
good luck~
2006-09-04 19:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by rennes89 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
attach a small camera to him? LOL...
no really..there's no way to stop bullying you just have to let the nature of kids happen he'll learn from it maybe get tougher and in the end he'll open up..maybe you should let him take some karate classes though? it'll relieve anger and such
2006-09-04 17:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most kids express themselves thru drawnings.
Have your kid draw a picture of his time on the playgrown and then have him in his own words explain to you what he drew.
Do it several times...
A Picture of class room time
A picture of his friends
and see what he draws.
2006-09-04 17:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to start the story..just say you know....When I was little I hated to go to school...because there was a little boy that would tease me and pick on me ..and tell me stuff about thing I dont like to talk about...and .so on and so on...then you say I told my mom and dad..and we talked about how to solve the problem..maybe then he will open up..or pretend its a fairy tale story...and refer it to him..and ask questions ...like are you ok at school..tell him dont be afraid to say..hope this works..that was what i did..and my little girl till this day opens up to us and tell us her happenings in her day ...bad or good...
2006-09-04 17:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by ck1_content 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sneak up on him while hes in class...
2006-09-04 19:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋