I spend 60+ hours a week working and about 15 hours a week commuting. I am however having a crisis as am worried that my young family will get fed up of this ? Will my work mates always be there ?
2006-09-04 09:58:49 · 23 answers · asked by grumbelina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-09-04 10:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Peggy M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, your job is never more important than your family. No, your work mates will not always be there, but your family will. (hopefully) Your kids need you. Of course you need money to survive, but you need to strike a balance between working and spending time with your family. In the long run, spending time with your family will be more rewarding than your job. Maybe you could make enough money to pay the bills, and then spend some quality time with your family doing some cheap activities, like picnics, walks or just playing. On your death bed, you won't say "I'm so glad I spent so much time at work", or "I'm so glad I had a big fancy house and expensive car".
2006-09-04 17:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need money for your family to survive or they will get pissed, as well. I would find another job with reasonable hours. You need to be there for your family, as well. Don't quit until you find a job you like!!! I am in the same situation. I have 2 kids. one is 8 and my son is 7 months old. the baby is me and my boyfriends and my boyfriend owns his own business and work 6 days a week, 12 hours a day so he never sees his son and that is pissing me off. I am REAL close to getting fed up on this and leaving. Sundays he does not work but that day he does the yard work. Family is way important but you also need money to survive. I trold my boyfriend to either find another job or reduce his hours of working. his little boy will be grown up before you know it and he will regret it. so do what's right for your family but also bring the $ in...
2006-09-04 17:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's 3 hours a day commuting.
I suppose you can get a job closer, but do not want to take a pay cut. Lemme say that the money is not worth the hassle.
I took a large cut (33%) to lessen my commute and I can't figure out why I put up with the commute for so long.
Your family is only young once.
2006-09-04 17:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you work this much, than yes. I am going through somewhat the same thing, except it's my Pakistani husband trying to aggresively gain control over my money so he can feel like a "real man". My children are allowed to come to work with me, are very spoiled since they get almost every penny (3 years and 6 months), and are not neglected or ignored in any way, shape, or form. He is making all sorts of false accusations, but every single person around us has said he is wrong. Even the Imam agrees that I have taken a lot of the financial burden and my own burden off of him when it comes to the children and I. Yet, my husband does not like the fact that I am able to spend my money the way I choose to (islamic right, but big bad thing in his screwed up culture), that I have made the house look like it's a real home (all who have seen it now want to know where I shop, and my sisters in law go shopping with me whenever I get my check. He is not suffering at all, but if I were to quit my part time job the children and I would suffer greatly, be neglected, and he would be just as he is--brand new car while I have a death trap (I make a lot, but not enough to get a car) that he finds perfectly acceptable for transporting our children, and he has expensive clothing from top of the line stores while we were barely getting enough to last the week.
A bit of advice to all women out there--NEVER trust a Pakistani male. I learned my lesson the hard way. They have no respect for women and have a lot of nerve to come across that big pond and tell an American in America that they will not act liike they are American. I tell all of them little village idiots to kiss me where the sun don't shine and to go back to their little villages where they can live out that little fantasy with an uneducated village woman.
2006-09-04 17:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, yes... That's very important... The work mates... Hmmmm...
Yes, in the final days of your life, while you're lying there thinking back on all the wonderful times you had with your work mates, they (the work mates) will gather around your bed - trying to remain strong and not cry... holding your hand... loving you as you drift effortlessly away...
Some will be waiting for you on the other side, too...
As you approach them (the work mates) and pass by your family, you may even still recognize your wife or a child of yours whose name you can't quite recall, but the face is vaguely familiar...
After all, nothing's stronger than work mates...
2006-09-04 17:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow - that's a lot of time working! Do you work when you're at home, too? Do you even know your kids' names? lol. Seriously, if you have to work that much, you need to set aside some time during the week and especially the weekends to sit down and spend time with your family as a whole. It also helps to make individual time for each of your kid(s) and your partner.
2006-09-04 17:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by kimilou2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a job you love!? I'm jealous. If you are the primary bread-winner for the family then just try to cut back on the hours but if you are providing the secondary income and can do without it then just quit. Your family will suffer, that is a proven fact.
2006-09-04 17:02:37 · answer #8 · answered by Cybeq 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have an addiction that should be taken seriously. You must always put your real life first--you family, life, flesh and blood, the woman you say you love and "I do." Your workmates will be there the same way all your schoolmates are now 'there' for you. get your priorities straight. Jobs come and go but your kids will always be your kids, and hopefully the same can and will be said for your wife. But-----
2006-09-08 14:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say definitely NOT! :-) The money is nice; however, not spending enough time with your family is NOT good...any job is not worth losing your family over...they are your life and the ones that will be by your side when u get older... :-)
2006-09-04 17:02:41 · answer #10 · answered by cdngal64 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the question you should ask is what is more important to you, no one can live your life. you alone have to find your own way and not rely on others opinions because others are not you. but you cant abandon things you have started either, so let those sit in your mind as you have peaceful time to yourself. realize your place in this life and from there let that realization guide your actions.
2006-09-04 17:05:18 · answer #11 · answered by Mike is me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋