Everytime me and my bf are hangin out with my family(who hates him already cause he hit me) he starts getting very vulgar , grabbing my boobs and saying things like "ooo mamita remember what we did last night, u a little freak." Its so embarresing, I can't even look my family in the eye when he says and does things like that,ive told him to stop but he keeps doing it and he gets mad when I tell him he cant come visit my family with me
2006-09-04 09:52:36 · 26 answers · asked by goldieluxxx 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 19 hes 32
2006-09-04 10:21:13 · update #1
Goldie,
I am not judging you but it sounds like you are seeing a guy who is bad for you. Unfortunately, your family pegged this guy as bead early and your ego is preventing you from doing the right thing. I know the pattern, it goes something like this.
" This guy does things that embarrass me, and he has abused me in the past, but he loves me." You probably have thought about leaving him but you feel trapped because if you drop him it will be admitting that you were wrong and your family was right.
Goldie,
Would you rather be right or happy?
Good luck
2006-09-04 09:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by texasopie36 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow. A man who hits you once, will hit you again. Considering the fact that you are only dating, prepared for it to worsen. It sounds like he has no respect for you at all, and you deserve better. Men like him are very controlling. It sounds like your family dislikes him with good reason. You cannot change him and he is dangerous.
I suggest you make a list, all the great things about your relationship, and all the bad. If the bad out way the good, move on.
It sounds like you need to have more confidence in yourself, and listen to your gut instinct and don't waste anymore time on someone who doesn't appreciate you or care about your feelings.
2006-09-04 16:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by Capt'sWife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say it but it doesn't sound like this guy likes you much at all. He is either really disrespectful or is looking for a way for you to leave him! On a slightly lighter note he might just be trying to get out beign around your family. Does he do it any other times?
2006-09-04 16:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by claire 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to think long and hard about this relationship. first of all, you said he hit you. that should have been when you gave him his walking papers! to top it off, he can't behave himself in the presence of your family? suppose you married this guy? (God forbid!) this would be considered his family too! i don't blame your family not liking him! it's one thing to allow him to hit you, let him disgrace and embarrass you, but it's even worse when you do it to yourself. each day you stay with him, he's chipping away a little of your self respect. the day you build up enough self respect for yourself and realize you deserve nothing less than the best is the day you kick his ike-turner-wanna-be-*** to the curb where he belongs! a man who professes to love you would never disrespect you. it would be like disrespecting himself. think about this relationship because it sounds like you're trying to save the titanic and we all know what happened at the end of that story. you sound like a nice girl. find the courage to stand up, and walk away. good luck to you!
2006-09-04 17:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by luvmuzik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK 1st of all if this guy hit you ... u shouldnt stand for that i understand that u may love this guy BUT NO u dnt deserve that you should be with someone who wont hit you no matter what.
2nd its obvious that this guys doesnt respect you. Family is very important and if this guy your dating cant even act respectful infront of the ppl who mean most to you then you definitely should be with him.
it will be hard but you gta let this dude go.. bad news for you ... u deserve the best.!! or at least definitely better then him someone who will RESPECT YOU and your desires/ wishes.
2006-09-04 18:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by SaMmY GrL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, u do not want a abusive guy, that's not right he already disrespected u by hitting u and touching u? Dump em
2006-09-04 16:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by Cee Cee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well my dad would have killed him by now if that happened to me, he is so disrespective, and hitting a woman makes it worse. but tell him to stop it, let him know how embarrasing it is when he does things like that, and if he doesn't stop, then dump him, you deserve better than a guy who doesn't respect u and ur family
2006-09-04 17:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the second he put his hands on you, would be the end of his life as he knows it, no more hitting you, harassing you, and no more embarrassing situations. he will keep on doing it until you have had enough! he does not deserve you because he is not a real man.
2006-09-04 22:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by beckyschristine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
need to find a better guy that respects you hun. Leave him, there are many people out there, and you'll find someone! He shouldn't ever hit you, or violate you or make you uncomfortable or treat you like that in front of your family. Find a man that makes you happy. Please leave him!!
2006-09-04 16:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by Hannah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to get away from this guy, not only is he hitting u but now he is controlling u. it sounds like he has some serious problems. get out while u can!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-04 16:56:17 · answer #10 · answered by Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋