My family is Russian and I'm dating a Mexican guy. I really love him, nobody ever treated me better. I can't say anything bad about him. My dad, on the other hand, sees nothing good in him. He doesn't like the fact that he's Mexican and he asks me what's so great about him. Should I care about my dad's opinion.
2006-09-04 09:45:32 · 21 answers · asked by ozo2004 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 19 by the way.
I feel like he's judging him without even talking to him. The never really sat down and talked.
2006-09-04 09:49:34 · update #1
omg! wow, you guys are mean. He's Mexican but he was born here. He has good grades and has a job.
2006-09-04 09:50:46 · update #2
choise is yurs jst take advise of yur dad as he lovs u
2006-09-04 09:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by Angad 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not about caring what you dads opinion is its about understanding and respecting it .I'm not saying you have to agree with it .Your dad has developed his opinion for reasons that he might not even be aware of.His first and foremost concerns are for his daughters welfare I'm sure.So maybe if you sat down next to your dad when he least expects it and tell him you love him but you don't understand why he feels this way ,would he explain.Them when Mr. wonderful come to visit he should walk up to your dad ask him how hes doing with his hand shake ready and don't be a pussy shake his hand like a man .If you dad is working on his car or doing yard work whatever he should offer to help .Time and circumstances change everything
2006-09-04 17:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by slfascoc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got lots of good advice. But do not burn bridges. Work on getting the BF introduced to the family. Say start with cousins and other family and friends. Your dad's opinion is very important. Be honest with BF explain your dilemma and that you need his cooperation. Remember your dad should pay for your wedding.
2006-09-04 17:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, you should care about your dad's opinion. Your dad can see something a little more clearly than YOU can see it. Parents are wise, and usually totally correct about the people we date. But, you will probably just have to learn this the hard way. If he asks you what is so great about him, then tell him what is so great about him.
2006-09-04 16:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much that your family is judging him. It's more that a family has certain hopes and dreams for their children. Being from Russia, they are also not culturally diverse and usually driven by deep tradition.
Be patient with your family... If the b/f is the right person for you...the family will eventually see it.
But remember.... always Care about what daddy thinks... he loves you and would never intentionaly let you down.
2006-09-04 17:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should care about and respect your dad's opinion of him, but if his opinion is only because of race then you should do what you feel is right. It isn't right of him to discriminate against your boyfriend just because he is a different race. I think that interratial relationships are wonderful. It helps people realize that we are all human, race doesn't make one different from the other. Talk to your dad, tell him you respect his opinion but you dissagree with it. If you love this guy, that's the only thing that should matter.
2006-09-04 16:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. I was in a similar situation once. My first love is Jamaican, and I am American. Both of our families had something negative to say about us being together. Although he never wavered, I finally gave in. When I left him I broke both of our hearts. I have regretted that decision for almost ten years. All that I can say is that you can't control who you love, just how you love them.
2006-09-04 16:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by hot.sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so if you really like him and he really likes you then thats all that matters. i think that it is really wrong that the only reason your dad does not like is because hes mexican. Just remember he does not know him the way you do.
2006-09-04 16:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by THAT GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similiar situation. both my parents did not care for my boyfriend. but i was of age and i was in love. i am still with my boyfriend that they now have come to like. I have been with him for 3 years now and we now have a 7 month old son together. Before, he was not welcome at my family's house and that was hard but you just have to stand your ground if you think he is the one and once they see he is really a good man, they will accepct him and if not, then it is their loss.
2006-09-04 16:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dads are always protective about their children but that doenst mean what ever decision he knows or makes it always rite..they are also human beings they also gonna take wrong decisions...my advise if u feel he is the right guy then go a extra level make ur dad understand from ur propectives and make him see things differently...also try to understand ur dads point of view he may turn out to be right from his side of things...all the best
2006-09-04 16:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by Vinny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should care about ya dads opinion but you have 2 explain 2 ya dad
ya dad cares for you thats why hes worrying
sit him down and have a father and daughter chat
goodluck
2006-09-04 16:49:49 · answer #11 · answered by ???????? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋