how do i get over the death of my mother?

Question

she was the only close family i have and it seens like am all alone in this word.

Answer 1

You don't You leanr to cope. That's as close as you ever come. Will the pain diminish with time? Yes. However, there will be days, when it will hit you like it just happened. Not to be morbid, but you'll get over it when you die.

Answer 2

tameka, You will probably never get over the death of your mom because she was your mom. How could you ever be happy that you don't have her there with you? You can't. But as time goes on it should get a little easier to deal with. I know that you must miss her so much. No one could ever take her place and I know that when something happens in your life good or bad you first thought is to call your mom and then you realize that she's not there. Well guess what you may not see her, but she is there. You can still talk to her. I'm sure she is your angel and she is watching over you. You will always have her in your heart, and she's always been there. Don't try so hard to get over it just let God work it out for you. She's with Him and she is much better off than we are here on earth. She is in a far better place. Do you have any other family even if you aren't close to them? If so then this would be a good time to reconnect with them. There's nothing more important than family. Reach out to them. And I am quite sure you have friends. Just let them know how much you need them and everything will be okay. You will see. Good luck to you and may God Bless and Keep you.

Answer 3

My mother died very suddenly in a car accident nearly 3 years ago and though I have family, we all began fighting...therefore I felt very alone. I had many people around me who did not understand the grieving process. They would tell me to get on with my life. It was not until I took a grief class at Hospice that I learned grieving can go on for 10 years and it is completely natural to feel alone. Unfortunately and fortunately, you will always miss your mom but you got to have some great memories with her and she is watching over you and proud of how strong you are. I really think you should take the Hospice grief class. It helps put a lot in perspective, but overall as time goes on you will learn to manage. You may not like it (I don't) but each hour, then day, then month will get better. Good luck and feel free to contact me if you would like an understanding ear.

Answer 4

The death of a parent maybe the hardest to deal with because we want oUr parents to live forever.

U will never get over if, but as the yrs go by u may start to accept it,

She wouldn't want u to hUrt for her, she'd want u to go on with ur life.

Ur mom is still with u she all around u

If u or another sibling look like her or act like her

if u say or do some of the things she taught u

U will treat and say to ur kids, the things she say to u

What about u that's just like her( Ur hands, eyes, nose) the way u walk, talk or laugh, do u cook the same recipes she cooked

did or do u like the same taste in clothes, perfume, nail polish

Little things and big thing will show u that she's still with u

So it's ok to grieve for her ( she was ur mom) but remember to think about the fun times and that she is above looking down smiling

Answer 5

I understand completely. My father's death felt like that to me. Sometimes I still have dreams where I have conversations with him. I don't think you ever completely get over a parent's death. I think you just soldier on and be brave. Find another woman who is about your mother's age and befriend her. You can't replace the person, but you can replace the relationship to a certain degree.

Answer 6

You never get over the loss of a loved one the pain eases in time but it always there just keep your memories alive and know that your mom would want you to go on and to be happy not to mope and be depressed over her being gone and my best solution is prayer god heals broken hearts and helps us to deal with things that seem undealable.

Answer 7

Live for her... You must understand that death is part of life, and that no matter how hard it is on you, keep in mind that your Mother would not want you to grief over her forever - If you love her more than anything in this world, live your life for her and for your own self - be caring and loving - inherit her charecteristics... Remember that she is still alive in your heart!

May God bless her soul.

Answer 8

I'm in the same boat. Lost my mom to cancer a year ago.
She was my best friend and I have no other family members.
I have no friends..Its just me and my kids.

I struggle every day to continue on with my life and just keep it in my head that she would want me to enjoy life and to make sure her favorite little girls (my kids) are well taken care of.

I cry over her everday....she was my life.

I don't have an answer for you...since I don't know how to ease the pain for myself. Just keep moving!

Answer 9

Believe that she more close to you now with no physical barriers. She and her love may be following u everywhere and watching everything you do. You may feel her when you are alone. You may talk to her when you are sad. Trust me, this is true. Keep loving.
YOU LOVED HER LOVE AND CARE. NOT HER BODY

Answer 10

I think that you should think about what she would want you to do right now. I think that you should still miss her and all but you should still be happy because she's always gonna be with you no matter what.