i have a 3 1/2 year old who recently has picked up some bad behaviors at daycare...i want to try and change this in a positive way...any ideas for a good reward system that would seem appealing to a child her age?
2006-09-04 08:47:45 · 6 answers · asked by akgurl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I used to buy a big pack of colourful stickers with cartoon characters on them - such as the Teletubbies. Then, everytime my son did something good I'd give him 'special sticker' on his jumper. Then, we'd also put one in a book. For every page he filled he got an extra 'prize' -something he picked himself. A day at the zoo, a new book, a big ice cream etc. It worked wonders and even now, aged ten, he's still my little angel!
2006-09-04 10:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mrsdanieljackson 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't use rewards to stop bad behavior. They only result in temporary obedience and do not produce any lasting changes. Using rewards are a way for you to control you daughter, not a way for her to learn self-control. She will only comply for a reward, not because she wants to change her behavior. Here is a great article describing the harm that rewards cause. http://www.thewellspring.com/Cat/Adult_books/punished.html Also check out what Alphie Kohn says in his article “The Case Against Using Gold Stars.” http://www.alfiekohn.org/articles.htm
What will work best with your daughter is using logical and natural consequence. If she is misbehaving at school she cannot go. Be on call with her teachers. As soon as she misbehaves have the teacher call you and go pick her up immediately. Have a really boring rest on the day with her. If you can, keep her home the next day for more reinforcement. Say to her “If you are going to (hit, hurt, bite, not listen (whatever her misbehavior is)), then you can’t be at school.” If you keep her out the next day say “I’m afraid you might (hurt someone, not listen, bully…) someone so you need to stay with me.” She will soon to behave at school so she can continue to go.
Empathize with her about her misbehavior. You must have been really (upset, angry, frustrated, hurt) when (whatever her behavior was). What can you do next time instead?” She will learn to express and to control herself. Be consistent! Good luck!
2006-09-04 18:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well seeing as i am about to turn 18 and have only been thinking about going into child care, so i wouldn't know if anything would work or not. but i would say use a reward that would reward her in the long run. like if her favorite fruit is strawberries give her strawberries. but i don't know if rewarding her is a good idea. what kind of bad habits is she picking up? what did u have in mind to change her mind set?
2006-09-04 15:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by watdahellrudoin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
praise him give him treats like cookies sugar free candy chips anything he likes let him do something he enjoys that you never really let him do/finger paint color or make a piggy bank and put change in it when he is doing something good and at the end of the month let him spend it
2006-09-04 16:45:20 · answer #4 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take her out of that day care center.
2006-09-04 15:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by curious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stickers work best for my 2.5 year old.
I give them to him to put on his little table or toy box, not on a wall where all he can do is look at them and wan't them.
2006-09-04 16:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by baby 2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋