I love him but it seems like we are always having problems and he is bipolar so everything is very drastic, like a fight could just be harmless but for him it means our relationship is over, and the other night we got into this big thing which made my mom so mad that she wont allow him back into our house, and here in a couple of days I am suposed to be moving out into his house, I just don't know what to do, or say and he says things like if i ever broke up with him he would kill himself, I mean is it wrong to feel trapted in the relation ship, i just don't know, I need some advice, soon, please...
2006-09-04 08:46:33 · 7 answers · asked by glamergirl45 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh Please do NOT move in with him. He has some serious mental issues he needs to deal with before having a relationship with anyone. You would or will become his mommy of you continue being his girlfriend. Do not fall for the threat of suicide, break it off and if he mentions it call 911. They will take care of him and he won't do that again. You are trapped, so get out now cos it will only get worse. Don't look back, good luck.
2006-09-04 08:55:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One should never feel trapped in a relationship; instead you should feel liberated. That is a healthy, loving, and prosperious relationship. It sounds to me as though he has co-dependency issues, meaning that he is very dependent on you and the relationship and needs it to thrive, which, by the way, is self destructive to any relationship. Some things he might just be saying in fear that you will leave him; such as "i'll kill myself if you ever break up with me." A rational person would do no such thing; he could just be saying this for attention. Only you can truly figure out what is best for you, but remember one thing: it is not healthy to feel like you are trapped into being with someone. That in itself is a very bad sign. The truth that you seek is within you; no one can help you find that.
2006-09-04 15:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask youself:
What good can come from me moving in with him at this stage in my life?
Count your blessings (TWICE) that things have not gotten worse; like you having his baby, him completely 'freaking out' and becoming violent; Lord only knows.
He might not be ready to be in a relationship until he has his mental health coping strategies in place. Sounds like they aren't all ironed out and he could use some space - contrary to what you both think.
If you're feeling trapped now and haven't even moved it; what do you think it will be like then - less trapping feeling?
Stay true to yourself... there will be many, many more guys to come yourway. Your 1 year relationship is a speck on your 80+ life years ahead.
Hopefully you can find a doctor/councelor/pastor to talk to for help on how to slowly detach yet still be a friend and support this person.
Good luck
2006-09-04 15:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
run the other way. he differently needs medical help. you are not the answer to his problems. you shouldn't move in with someone that you have an unstable relationship with. And if perhaps you do move out, make sure you have a place to fall back too like your mom's house, if it doesn't work.
2006-09-04 15:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by michael h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just broke up with a bi polar after 4 years.just when i thought he couldnt get any worse.he managed to on a daily basis.gets worse and worse..............my life turned into a hell of a nightmare
i dont ever want to see him again.
2006-09-04 16:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by safarlsun33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes don't trap in to relation ship live alone.
2006-09-04 15:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by md m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about ur BF & find true Friends
2006-09-04 15:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋