I was going out with this guy, and I was scared that all he wants was to have sex with me so I thought of a plan that I am going to say no to him and see what happens When he started making sexual comments I turned him down badly and he ran away and never came back.Now I want to tell him that it was just a test and he didn't pass it but I am not sure if I am right or I shouldn't have done that. I am not sure if he really was a perv. or I scared him off. Will he get mad at me ????
2006-09-04 08:40:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he didn't care enough to figure out how you tick... or what you want then he was clearly after one thing... your bod...
v. or not you shouldn't just flip too your back the first time a guy makes a sexual move... it is smarter to restrain a bit and see what the relationship is about first....
What you actually did was use your smarts there kido... good move. He may lick he wounds, circle around and come back a bit cool headed... or you scared him off good.
Was this his first sexual pass on a girl, if so he may be in shell shocked from the turn down... if he is young and not been around the say hi too him and pick up the conversation like nothing happened... if he is a Tom cat..looking for a quick lay, then he layed his whole hand on the table and you flushed it out in one play.. good for you if that is the case.
If your young, he is young, he is probably embarissed by his attempt... if you like him... accidently (yea) bump into him, smile and thank him for the date... Immaturity runs deep in the young male, he really doesn't know how to act as him hormons are really screwing his mind up... but you should be mature about the facts, which you seem to have some maturity in there somewhere and understand where he is coming from...
Don't bother telling him that it was a test... keep your cards close too your chest...that is, it's good for a girl too keep control of the situation, keeping him guessing is a good thing... just lots of smile and bat you eye's and give him a call if you think he is an innocent player in the game of teenage dating...
One last thing about if he is older and been around... he was looking for a quick lay and you weren't bitting.... don't call him back as he will come in harder and faster if he see's any kind of weekness.... trust me...
2006-09-04 08:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok it was a test right? he failed right? so y the hell u wanna see him back. unless u want to have sex with him and leave him just let the man be. he wanted sex he didnt get and ran away. if he cared for u then he would try to talkto u and not get in ur pants. have some self esteem and get some one who will love u and not only for ur body. best of luck
2006-09-04 08:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a reasonable guy then he will understand. Think of this as another test :)
I don't know what you mean by "turned him down badly," but it sounds like you were right.
2006-09-04 08:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you said no, and you haven't heard from him since. The guy's a jerk and doesn't deserve you. You should not have to sleep with him just because he wants to. It should be a mutual agreement that both of you are comfortable with. You were right to test him.
2006-09-04 08:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course he was. what else are you good for?
HAHAHA...I'm just kidding. He was a D*ck and he didnt' want you, he just wanted a cheap prostitute. You were right in saying no to him. he would have just left you anyway and you would have felt much worse about the whole situation.
Now you will always be in the back of his mind as the one he couldnt get. Good for you
2006-09-04 08:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares... you were not comfortable, you spoke your mind, now he's gone... looks like you were right. He does not need to know your intetnions... if he even was slightly interested in something other then you sexually he would have stayed.
2006-09-04 08:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by JOEYSMOM2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just make him wait if he likes YOU and not just your body he will wait and not pressure you into sex. And dont worry about what he thinks its your body treat it as a temple
2006-09-04 08:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by philliesmeyer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you want to be a nun? what you want in a man that doesnt want sex? you should find a priest.
2006-09-04 08:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by raz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you care , you get rid of his @ss right this very minute, i MEAN it!!!
2006-09-04 08:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by uimblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you were abusing him while complaining that he was using you!
2006-09-04 08:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋