I have son who at the age of 44 got caught with drugs is now doing three years in Prison
My dilemma there are so many thing he did to the family I want to make sure he don’t forget such as not paying people back. Not being grateful please and thank you would be nice. I want to remind him of these things but don’t want to add insult to injury. Am I right or wrong in not saying?
2006-09-04 08:32:00 · 4 answers · asked by tooldtocr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Now is the time to go over these things with him. Hes got plenty of time to think about it. Maybe this time will help him grow up into the man he needs to be so when he can come home he will be a better person and family member. I wouldn't expect him to pay old dues. I would expect/encourage him to better his life. Prisons often offer free schooling/college, in the time he needs to be in there maybe he can get involved come home, and still have a good life. Talk to him, be there for him, don't yell at him. Good luck
2006-09-04 08:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was a stupid thing to get into trouble over but nonetheless, hes got 3 years to think about his life, and with no where to go thats a hell of a lot of time with nothing else to do. Now anything if you write to him about will stick in his mind for a very long time so if you wrote your thoughts, they may just work someday when he gets out. Hes going to be very sorry for alot of things that are about to become his worst nightmares for some time to come. All you can do now is be patient and see what happens, But to remind him of his past, good or bad wont do any harm, maybe it might do some good. Good luck
2006-09-04 15:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has an abuse issue allow him to get professional help , so that he can start to recover first . You can't make a 44 yr. old man do anything . Besides he is sick , once he is on his road to recovery he will more than likely do all of those things you mentioned all by himself , { that is a huge part of recovery } I understand your concern and embarrassment but try it your way won't help. God bless you . I also suggest you go to a program to teach you not to enable him or beat yourself up .
2006-09-04 16:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong if you didn't tell him. You are his parent, and your responsiblities include teaching him right from wrong and guiding him to become a good person. It doesn't matter if your son's 14 or 40, he's still your son. He may not appreciate the advice, but he is mature enough to understand that (unlike a teenager) you are only doig this to help him, not to add salt to his hurting wounds. Be a crutch for him and tell him how much you love him, and how his behaviour hurts you, and he should and will understand.
2006-09-04 15:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by cradle2resurrection 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋