about 2 months ago, my ex-bf (who at that time was my bf) left for a week-long trip. i noticed that once he left that i had no-one to hang with, so i called up his best friend, and went to hang with him. as the says progressed i started seeing him everyday, and i fell in love with him. so the next time i saw my bf i broke up with him,so i could be with his friend (bitchy move)i would have never considered dumping him if his bf didnt grow soo close to me. i feel horible though because my ex's only friends are his best friend and i. and he sits alone at home and is depressed. i would love to get together with both of them but they cannot be in the same room when i am there, otherwise they are still good friends. my ex is one of my closest friends, but i feel like im losing him ( i can see why) but if i lose him i will lose my best friend. should i give him more time? how can i help him feel better? or should i let the whole situation work itself out with out my interference?
2006-09-04 08:05:32 · 8 answers · asked by sgrockergirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont think you understand. my ex was always a very very dark and depressed person, i tried my hardest to make him feel better the whole time i was with him. when i met his friend he liked me a lot, and he was a happy fun person whom i had a lot in common with. instead of making me have a bad mood he would go and have fun with me, instead of sitting on the phone and lecturing me about running and not winning. i couldnt stand it. when i met his best friend he was kind, nice, happy, and my bf even let me see him. i think i made a fine choice for the situation. i just wanna still make my ex happy, cus i still care for him and talk to him.
2006-09-04 08:51:26 · update #1
and his bf wants as much into the relationship as i do
2006-09-04 08:52:25 · update #2
bf = best friend only in the previous case
2006-09-04 08:52:59 · update #3
Well first of all, I feel that unless there is allot of love between two people you are free to do as you choose. Date who ever you want to date and hopefully you will find love.
2006-09-04 09:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by Leslie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very diffacult thing..it sounds like your current b/f didn't care much about his best friend cuz when you were his best friends girl he moved in on you and took you away..wich should of never have happend he should of had respect for his friend,and you should of stayed committed to the one you were with...
so I can see why he is depressed..but you should try and do stuff where you can all 3 hang out just all as friends,but try not to hang on your current boyfriends arm and make out in front of him, it will just remind him of the loss..
but had I been the guy that was dumped I don't think i would want you or him as friends since you both went behind my back and hooked up right away..I am a very forgiving person but somethings can't be forgiven.
2006-09-04 08:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by steve 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you this so I can understand what you are saying. Your BF went away, and you started spending time with his friend, and now you have falling in love with his best friend? And now you want to try a fix what you messed up. all I can tell you is to let it go and I mean the both men. And you need to stay clear of the both of them . Let time pass. The only thing your going to get out of that is a misunderstanding from the both of them. So sit back and watch what comes out of it, because you have made a friendship into a big mess.
2006-09-04 08:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by swilliams63@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone goes through bad breakups. The best thing you can do for yourself is to cut off all contact with him for a while. It will slowly get better. You guys broke up for a reason, and if you continue talking, you will just argue with each other which will just make both of you feel way worse. It isn't worth it. Try to just go out and have fun with your friends and not think about it too much. You will slowly but surely start to feel better.
2016-03-26 21:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should back out of the situation completely. How can you fall in "love" with someone else in a week. You crossed the line. Find someone else to be with and leave these two best friends alone. The simple fact that you want to be around them shows that you care only for yourself.
2006-09-04 08:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Evidently you didnt "love" your ex as much as you thought you did or you would never have done what you did. There are military wives that dont see their husbands for over a year and I dont believe all of them cheat on their mates. You played with fire and got burned!!!!!!!! Let the two men figure it out for themselves.
2006-09-04 08:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by shirley e 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did a horrible thing. They both should dump you so you can be the one locked up in your room depressed. I am usually so motivational and sweet when answering but damn girl, you are wrong. I hope you are really young and just don't know better. If you are 17 or older, you suck.
2006-09-04 08:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by Nina 2 Niña 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u killed him inside..& u still wanna hang out wid him ?
sorry 2 be rude...but u already lost ur best friend in him...wen u broke up wid him...do u wanna treat him as a timepass ?
wat if ur present bf goes out for few days...n u hang out wid him...n start liking him again...wud u break up wid him n start dating him again ?
think of wat ur doing...& how many ppl r u gonna hurt in dis process....
2006-09-04 08:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by moooooooovin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋