I have noticed that when you are involved in a relationship, that girls seem to flock you. But when you are single, you cant find a date. Why is this? Would it be unethical to maybe buy a wedding ring as a prop to pick up girls? I've always wondered if it just works out like this for me, or if everyone (guys and girls alike) experience this phenomenon
2006-09-04 08:04:57 · 18 answers · asked by here17now36 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A very good question, indeed. I have noticed the same so, no, you are not the only one. You know, this phenomenon is a matter of the psychological condition of yourself (and other singles, guys/girls alike). Let me explain a bit; when you have a girlfriend, you feel your spirits soar, you are happy with sparkling eyes, a broad smile, even if your girl isn't around at those moments. You feel wonderful because you know she IS there for you and, believe me, it's visible! Other girls get attracted by it because when you feel good, you spread the feeling around you and therefore become attractive to others (BUT they don't know whether you have a girlfriend or are you such a nice guy by nature). While when you are single, it's visible too! You act in a different way, don't have 'the trade mark'; let's call it 'Happy confidence'.
I wouldn't advice you to trick girls by imitating you are going to marry soon. Somehow I don't believe it would work or you may meet girls who only look for a married man; you probably know it's nothing good about it.
My sincere advice for you - try to feel happy no matter what & don't go out with an idea 'I must hunt for someone tonight or...' Trust me, you will see the positive results soon.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-04 08:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has to do with confidence. Married men appear more confident and non-threatening, and (hopefully) have no hidden agenda, so women are often more comfortable with them. A fake wedding ring probably won't help to much with this.
2006-09-04 15:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by M L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's more a confidence and attitude thing. You probably feel and act better when you're in a relationship. Just look and act confident and girls will pick up on it.
2006-09-04 15:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by Die S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's because you're trying too hard when you want a date. When you have one, you're yourself but when you are single, you try to be charming, you end up oozing too much charm and that puts girls off. Be NORMAL, not a desperate spaz looking to get laid...Not that I'm saying you're a spaz, it's just what I think.
2006-09-04 15:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by Metal Paw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know i have to agree with you. i think more than anything you probably act different when you have someone. maybe it's a venerability of feeling alone. but i also have come to the conclusion if your doing something that you really like, girls kinda dig that. as long as your haiving fun, people notice.
2006-09-04 15:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by KORD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can smell desperation a mile away. Be less available. When you go out, don't be looking for a girl. Tell yourself you have a girlfriend. That attitude usually works.
2006-09-04 15:07:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think what happens is that al the girls that go after you when you are involved are just a bunch of flaming sluts
2006-09-04 15:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
things just tend to happen that way.
maybe it's becuase when you're in a relationship you're more prone to looking for stuff like that and when you're single you take it for granted and your subconcious ignores it. i'm not sure, but right now i think guys just don't pay attention when they're single.
2006-09-04 15:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by me =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kinds of girls are you trying to get? Try getting a new hobby or new friends who aren't like that.
2006-09-04 15:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by mollyneville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens to me. i find that when I'm with someone I'm happy and confident with myself so I guess others are drawn to that, but when I'm single I'm not sure and confident of myself and people can read this.
2006-09-04 15:11:32 · answer #10 · answered by happy_cute_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋