my mom says that she will let me stay home until i am married...not that she will provide for me finacially she tells me to get a job as soon as i am able..but she says it is not good for girl to live by herself these days....do you agree
2006-09-04 07:51:42 · 24 answers · asked by All Of the Above 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
depends on your age and maturity level. have you been a responsible person? maybe if you started paying her rent and some utilities and she would see you are responsible she would realize you can make it on your own. maybe compromize and live close to home.
2006-09-04 07:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by schmoopie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes...I would say your mother is just looking out for her daughter, which is something not a lot of mothers these days would do. She wants you to be independent while at the same time giving you the assurance that you can work your way to your full independence, unlike being kicked out of the house automatically and have to face hardship as you come to terms with the world. I would say your mom is giving you the equivalent of training wheels to an independent life.
2006-09-04 08:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Mom is enabling you from being independable. It's like any other mom. Your relationship is so close that she feels like she will loose her best friend. It's only out of love. When you get older you will understand. I;m only 24 years old. I lost my mom when I was 13 and not a day goes by that I wish I could go back with her. My sister is going through a struggle alone only because she moved out and into a house with a boyfriend who kepted her pregnant then keeps getting locked up.
2006-09-04 08:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger-Tiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom would say something similar. First off your mom really cares for you. She also wants to keep an eye on you. Also, you will be able to save up in the process, and help her out financially when need be. But, there will be times when you will want to leave, just to have your own space though.
2006-09-04 08:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by narcisscus24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot more questions that need answering before you take her up on her offer. Is your Dad still around. Maybe it is mom who does not want to be alone. Get an place close in the beginning but dont be dependant.
2006-09-04 07:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by angel739902 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its wonderful that your mom feels that way ..how ever you need to learn how to support yourself as well as cope with everyday life including the good and the bad thats out there now a days.I'm speaking as a mother of two grown girls.I'm always fearful for them because of todays society.They both have good sence..can't say they always did..lol and there were lots of times i could have ***** slapped them and pulled their hair to..i just needed to realize that they were growing up and becoming young adults.Your mom may just not want to let go.Its never easy for a mom.
2006-09-04 09:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by unbrokencracker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice of your mom to say that and there is merit to what she says about a girl living alone but it's your life so it's very nice that you have that choice. Only you can decide if it would be too restrictive concerning your coming and goings for instance coming in late from a date and such things .
2006-09-04 08:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with your mother. I think it is very important for a girl to learn independence and self-reliance, and that won't happen if she lives at home until she's married. Also, I think it's crazy to go from living at home to moving in with your husband. You'd never have time to explore and learn things for yourself. NO...emphatically...I DON"T agree. I think you should stretch your wings and fly out to your own nest.
2006-09-04 07:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is dangerous for a young girl to be by herself. i would feel better if my daughter (she's 15 right now) had a roomate or 2. i would prefer she stayed at home for as long as possible, but it is a decision she will have to make
2006-09-04 07:58:39 · answer #9 · answered by one hot mamma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have traded living on my own when I did for ANYTHING. I learned how to take care of myself completely without having to rely on anyone for anything. I'm not saying that it's not good to have help, but living on your own makes you realize that you can do anything and it also makes it easier to leave a bad relationship. You know that you can survive on your own and it makes it less scary to leave. It is empowering to do things on your own and will probably make any relationships you have better.
2006-09-04 07:56:13 · answer #10 · answered by sarah_lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, pretty much agree. There are always circumstances that make a difference in a situation tho.
2006-09-04 07:55:13 · answer #11 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋