2006-09-04 07:32:09 · 16 answers · asked by dairylady982000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people just don't like to say that word because they have said it in the past and regretted it. My first reaction wouldn't be he is cheating. Maybe he just doesn't love you and feels it to be fraudulent to even say such a thing! Maybe he is scared, jaded or just isn't ready to. ASK HIM! Have you told him you love him?
2006-09-04 07:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know his past dating history, maybe he's been burned and feels that he can love you and show you he loves you without saying it. Have you told him? If so, does he say it back? If not, I'm sorry to say, but maybe you are in this one alone. Some men fear saying I love you bc they fear it means eternal committment. I might suggest saying things like "I adore you...
" and see how he reacts. This is where it gets tough, but having been with him as long as you have, you should be able to read him well. Based on his response, you should get a sense of his genuinity. If he says "awwww..." and goes on to something else, you should get out bc he's not giving himself to you fully and emotionally. If he says it back or something similar, read him and sense if he's genuine. He also may be waiting for you to say those three words first... everyone is different and there is no right answer. But just bc he doesn't say I love you, doesn't mean he's cheating. In fact, I'd argue it's more likely the opposite. If he's committed himself to you for all that time, and he is cheating, he'd likely have extreme guilt and less attachment/concern for your feelings and be MORE likely to say it out of guilt or to appease you... that is if he wanted his cake so to speak. Try easing into it and see where it goes... good luck!
2006-09-04 14:38:28 · answer #2 · answered by anonymouswoman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it would be nice to think that maybe he's shy...he's not good at expressing himself...or he's waiting on you to make the first move...but it's just hard to imagine someone who really does love you but wouldn't say anything since you two have been together for so long....my guess is that he's just not into you...he may not be cheating on you...but just because he's not cheating on you, it doesn't mean he only loves you and wants to be with you....maybe it's time to move on...just maybe?
2006-09-04 14:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by Connie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering if you have told him that you love him? I'm thinking that you already have. Maybe he's been burned in the past and telling you he loves you is commiting himself...which he might think makes him vulnerable. You probably need to sit and talk to him about how you feel and get it all out in the open. After several years together, your intitled to an answer.
2006-09-04 14:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by poodlemama1965 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is not committed to you..he is committed to himself..Several years will be a life time if you don't ask him straight up ..where do we go from here? Is there a "we" ?..As far as you are concerned..ask your self these questions.. Do you want to be want to be loved OR are you wishing he would love you? You deserve to know and you deserve better!! My mom gave that piece of advice 20 years ago when I asked her a question similar to yours...I hated to admit it but after 20 years ..I wish I had listened to mom instead of being stubborn..Your heart is special ..you deserve the best!!
2006-09-04 14:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by stars2noc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your looking for love don't look for it in him. Move on there are plenty of other guys out there. It will be his loss.
He could be cheating on you. But I think he is cheating you out of love. You deserve better.
If someone wants to be with a person for years, but won't say they love you. That's just plain selfish and wrong. He is just stringing you along and using you. Dump him and find a better man.
2006-09-04 14:39:19 · answer #6 · answered by RelationGuru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some don't because they take their mates for granted for thinking that they should know how they feel.Some are scared that if they say it,they now have to commit and don;t want to.Some want their cake and eat it to,but doesn't necessarily mean that their cheating,but you never know until you ask.I hope this is not the case with you.Good luck.
2006-09-04 14:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, just sit and think about this. You say you have been with him for serveral years??!! and he hasn't uttered the I love you yet. that there means he's not really into you that much and he's still w/ you b/c you let him be. Men want their cake and Ice cream too..so it's possible he is cheating.
2006-09-04 14:34:40 · answer #8 · answered by SweetPea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because that would mean some level of committment. Did he have something happen in the past??? That could do it!!! If he hasn't come out and said anything in the time that you have been with him, don't hold your breath now. He has some problems to work out.
2006-09-04 14:34:49 · answer #9 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's uncomfortable expressing himself in words, but better in deeds. Keep in mind, it's nice to hear the words, but actions speak much louder than anything he can say with his mouth.
2006-09-04 14:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by Mike's Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋