2006-09-04 07:07:53 · 18 answers · asked by guRl 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, if he is asking you for the right reason. My wife and I have threesomes with other women and men as well as moresomes with couples, and we do it because we do love and trust each other enough to allow the other to express their sexual fantasies. In fact, we are closer now then we were three years ago when we started swinging because we've eliminated jealousy from our relationship and our level of trust and communication is far greater then we ever imagined possible.
I completely trust my wife, not just in matters of fidelity, but with my feelings, my fears, my emotions. She is my best friend, my lover, my fantasy, my wife, and my soulmate all wrapped-up into one person.
If he is asking you for selfish reasons, no, it isn't. If he just has some female/male/female fantasy and you are not going to get anything out of it yourself, then no.
If it is also a fantasy of yours, whether MFM or FMF, and you will both be getting something good out of it, then yes, it is okay. It has to be something you do together for each other. It won't work if it is one-sided.
There are allot of dynamics going on with exploring sexual fantasies like this. It doesn't mean he's bored or your not enough for him or he is looking to replace you - although many of these answers would like you to believe that - it simply means he wants to live-out a fantasy.
Some can, some can't. Sometimes fantasies are better left just that. Some are very secure in their relationship and jealousy isn't an issue because they know that sex with someone else won't threaten what they have together because it is more than just sex. Others are insecure in themselves and thus their relationships with others and jealousy will be a huge issue.
The first rule of swinging (and yes, a threesome by any meaning of the word is "swinging" if two in the threesome is a couple) is "if it doesn't work for either of you, it doesn't work for both of you." This mean, if either of you are uncomfortable with a situation then the other should respect that and not push it. Period.
For good, positive, not knee-jerk reactions to this question check-out The Swingers Board, especially the FAQ section. There is allot of great information there about this subject. ;-)
2006-09-04 18:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are more couples out there that have the swinger status than ppl realize. Although i am not one i think that adding someone to your relationship can go both ways. Be careful about this because i have seen relationships end because of this. Your relationship has to be strong and healthy. if it is not then dint do it. And also if you have not been with him for a long time you prob should not do this. But i have been told if all circumstances are right and you are into this kind of thing it can be enjoyable!!
2006-09-04 14:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by babygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt loves you !!!!
Threesome is not awesome ....
But more for problems ...
Come on change the attitude , look for some new fun ...
2006-09-04 14:12:12 · answer #3 · answered by Krissh S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked my wife to do one, out of curiosity. She thought about it for about 4 weeks, then told me NO! Her reasoning was; what if she liked the other person to the point of wanting to see them on a regular basis without me. Or what if i wanted to see them! so that still remains a fantasy for me. Hope you have better luck.
2006-09-04 14:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would agree to it only if we could add an extra man into the mix. If he would go the distance on that offer THEN i would consider his question., cause what's good for the goose is good for me.....
2006-09-04 14:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by Skanky McSkankypants 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not married to this man it is not alright for you to have a twosome. If you are married to him then you should suggest some counseling. You may even really need a divorce. I suggest you talk to your pastor or priest.
2006-09-04 14:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by gee-geeofmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would ask him if it was to be with a man or a woman.
Then if he said it was with a woman...I would ask him to first preform oral sex on a man and then you will do it.
If he refuses and you don't want to then you can say when he does what you want him to do then you will do what he wants.
2006-09-04 14:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by Wicked Wytch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like a normal guy thing to ask but at least he asked you!
2006-09-04 14:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Boon Tan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. With another man or woman?
2006-09-04 14:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, as long as we both agree to who the person who joins you is. You have to be able to feel that the other person is clean and stuff, you know, free from HIV and other STDs.
2006-09-04 14:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋