My son is 18 and in his last year of high school. He seems to have the thought that life owes him something and that the world is just waiting for him to bless it with participation. How can I get him to realize that if you don't go after life it will continually pass you by and without hard work you'll always struggle?
2006-09-04 07:07:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
a) let him pay his own way
b) encourage him to share his career plans and hook up with
folks in that field for a reality check
c) at some point, it's not your problem, however disappointing
2006-09-04 07:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by pops 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's 18, and probably thinks you are clueless. Now is not the time to be imparting wisdom. Let him struggle on his own for a few years and then, when he is ready, try to give him some advice. In the meantime, insist that he either go to college and get good grades or get a job. Make him pay rent, either with money or his report card. (Collecting rent is a good way to save money for his education. Just put it into a 529 account for him.)
2006-09-04 14:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think He is just trying to blow you off. Dont worry he be fine. kids say things to make us Mom go crazy I am sure he be fine and to other people who answered your question it don't always has to do with there home life. As the outside world we need to be carefull what we show kids about the real world too! Kids are not dumb drugs are claming and they see TV how easy it is to get money to do things and kids get confuse about what is right and what is wrong as long they get easy money why work! its hard now a days with kids ok so let pull togther and hope this 18 year old can work hard and fell good about him self! and I am sure he is just being a teenager don't worry he seems he has a good head on his shoulders!
good luck Mom!
2006-09-04 17:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by black lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"20/20 hind sight avails you not" usually applies here. Direction in life starts when a person is a child. It is learned from their teachers which are usually the parents. Our children will turn out to be mirror images of ourselves. If we don't show any drive or direction in our own lives where do you expect them to learn it.
The Lord did not "give" us our children. They are not "ours". They are however our responsibility to raise them properly and teach them everything they need to know to to be self sufficient and prepare them for the next stage of our existence.
2006-09-04 14:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by Bopelah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pray for him a lot, tell him how much you love him, and also, the more he'll try to get back at life, life will get back at him, sufferment is at the door if he doesn't change his views about life.
He will bump his forehead before he realizes he's wrong.
Don 't worry too much about it, he is just consused, but he'll grow out of it.
2006-09-04 14:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the club ,kids now a days think the same way,it is your job as a parent to tell him but if he don't want your advice there's not much you can do , one day he will wake up and get everything together sometimes the world is the very best teacher
it going to straighten him right up, you got 30 and 40 year olds thinking the same way your 18 year old is thinking
2006-09-04 14:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will you as a parent, perhaps single, you need to be an EXAMPLE, TO HIM, HE'S looking towards you for guidance, he's at an age, where there's time for you to hold on to whatever time hes got.. it is hard but you need to show him the way.. ask the LORD TO help you.. do things together, be his friend, YOU'RE the only one that can do that...be there for him,, little things that his looking for. you be his HERO.. so be an EXAMPLE, to him.. may the LORD bless the both of you..
2006-09-04 14:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by litehmusicdj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My feeling is that you raised him to be that way and he should be given an ultimatum - get a job within a month and move out - or find someone else to live with.
2006-09-04 14:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by SUZI S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the best that you can,and remember that "Direction" starts at home and NOT in the "community"
2006-09-04 14:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
too late really for you mom! he doesn't hear you right now!
keep your knees bent and stay in prayer continuously.
2006-09-04 14:12:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋