why must everyone on here make me feel horrible?

Question

does anyone even care that the person on the computer have feelings too. i ask just like everyone else, and all i get is people yelling at me! like i dont get enough yelling at by my own family! i got 4 hours of sleep last night, got woken up by being told i was a worthless slob, everyone yelled at me cause the first day of school is tommorow, and now im sitting here on my computer cause people on here actually answer my questions so i feel somewhat good. but it turns out everyone just yells at me more here! i have really bad self esteem, and im not spoiled! if i was spoiled i would be listening to Good Charlotte because id have the cd! if i was spoiled id have clothes that fit!

EVERYONE ON HERE JUST TELLS ME TO NOT BE A SELF CENTERD SPOILED LITTLE BRAT! DO THEY EVEN CARE THAT I HAVE FEELINGS!?

I ACTUALLY STARTED CRYING JUST NOW! I NEVER CRY! NOT EVEN WHEN EVERYONE IN THE HOUSE IS YELLING AT ME AND TREATING ME LIKE A SLAVE! BUT SOMEONE WHO DOESNT EVEN KNOW ME YELLING AT ME! :'(

Answer 1

Don't let these aholes get you down. They arent worth it. It's just the way some people make themselves feel better... By cutting on other people.

Answer 2

I took a quick look at a few of your other questions. It seems you are suffering the effects of stress, and may be the victim of dysfunctional family unit structure/policy.

Improved personal hygiene will improve (a) your opportunities outside the home, and (b) your ability to cope with difficulties inside the home, and (c) your self-esteem -- not necessarily in that order.

Also, try to get outside for several hours during the day: you'd be amazed at how ameliorative is the effect of exposure to sunlight.

Budget your time wisely: only you can tell what is required to comply with the standards your parent(s) are attempting to enforce -- and what is required to survive in your house.

At some point, you need to work on getting (and/or maintaining) good grades: college placement is competitive. So is the professional world -- but those are your tickets to freedom and a better life.

Until then, disregard the things you see online that tend to get you down. Take the good advice, disregard the bad. Disregard *all* the bad.

I'm not worried about you throwing out advice merely because you find it inconvenient or difficult: the fact that you are asking these questions tells me that you've got what it takes to triumph over your instant crises.

I know it's not possible to be sane *and* happy all the time, but never lose hope. If you have a bad day, don't let that discourage you: occasional setbacks (sometimes lasting a few hours, sometimes lasting *much* longer) are inevitable, unavoidable, and part of the normal growth process in life.

There's a reason someone coined the phrase "growing pains:" growth involves a struggle that is often painful -- and that applies to physical, mental, emotional and spiritual growth.

You're not alone, and some of us out here in the virtual world really do wish the very best for you -- many, because we've been through domestic hell ourselves, and hate to see others so suffer.

Try listening to music that improves your mood, rather than to specific groups or songs that feed depression. I'm unfamiliar with Good Charlotte, so I have no opinion regarding that -- however, Jennifer Knapp's stuff is GREAT!

The same goes for many other "contemporary christian" artists (whose music is neither dirges like you'd expect from a hymnal nor ultra-preachy). It's just that they've finally figured out how to combine humanity with good music, without getting all depressive like Pink Floyd.

And for the PF fans out there, I'm not dissing them: I was into PF and a bunch of different metal bands when I was in high school -- and I know the effect that music had on my mood, and I used it to alter or enhance my mood.

But when I discovered "comtemporary christian" (which covers every style from country to rockabilly and folk to heavy metal and punk -- etc.), I found a genre that was about 98 percent effective at improving my mood, no matter what style I chose to listen to.

So, I use it, and I recommend it to others, because it has consistently worked so well for me. That doesn't mean secular music never hit the sweet spot with me: it sometimes did, and sometimes still does -- but I'd be lying if I said it was more than 50 percent reliable as a mood-improver (overall, it's probably around 30% reliable for that purpose).

Think of it this way: if my favorite color is blue, that doesn't mean red and/or yellow is bad -- and it doesn't mean I think blue is the ideal color for everything: some things look better red, some things look better yellow -- and we'd never have the other colors (green, orange, violet, etc.) without them.

So, by way of analogy, secular music is important and it has its place -- but in this specific instance, I think the ideal musical choice (especially in the short term) is "comtemporary christian."

Answer 3

It may be they yell at you because they do care about you and they want you to change your self style.
They may feel that you are not going in the right direction and doing what is best for you. I understand that you are an individual and feel you should be "you" and you know what's best for you, but sometimes we have to wake up and face reality.
Take the time to listen and not just close your ears to what is being said.
We are often critical about what others say about our self's, but sometimes what they are saying is right and we should take their advise into consideration.
I hope that you don't think that I am "yelling" at you, I just am talking to you, one person to another person. A person who believe it or not, cares. If I didn't care I wouldn't have bothered answering you question and I am sure that others have felt the same way.

Answer 4

When I got my first job I felt like you do. My boss put me down every day and called me names and said I was stupid. I had no self esteem because I was used to being made fun of in school, so I didn't believe in myself. Then something happened. Someone explained to me a concept that changed a lot. The idea was that people don't "make you" do anything. They don't "make you feel" happy or sad. They act the way they do and then you respond by feeling a certain way. When you realize you are in control of how you feel and how you respond it changes everything. So feeling you have to power to respond differently can make a big difference. Another thing is that people who don't know you can try to hurt you, but why should it bother you? They don't know you and you don't know them.. so why should it cause pain? Because your self esteem is so low that you are looking for affirmation from strangers. Don't do it. fIt will only cause trouble because if people find out they can manipulate your feelings that easily, they will soon take advantage of the fact.

Answer 5

Just hang in there. Hopefully, things will get better. I think we all have days like that. Where nothing goes right. I hope you have a good school day tomorrow and a very good school year. Try to get good grades. Sometimes good grades makes us fell good about something. Try to excel--get better than anyone else. Show them all just how great you really are. The answers to your questions on here--let it roll off like water on your back--they are just trying to be cute. They don't know you so how can you take them seriously. Go on with life with your chin up and Good Luck--tomorrow and always.

Answer 6

have you ever had a drill seargent yell at you? its not cool either. but to learn patience and to calm yourself, makes all the difference in the world. trust me, or better yet trust GOD. Im sure you may think by my saying that that im just another religous guroo. maybe, but at least i have peace! even when things go wrong or people are yelling at me left and right! I just simply say "Praise the Lord!" and go on with life! as should you!

Answer 7

You are asking "Q" on a very impersonal site , no one knows you . Honey don't take everything to heart . You've probably had a bad day . On here take the good with the bad . You know if you don't like an answer don't finish reading it . Take a deep breath . Remember no one can control your attitude unless you allow them to !

Answer 8

Poor you. It seems like you hold others responsible for your feelings. Guess what.....you are the only one responsible for your feelings. Why do you allow yourself to be so emotionally invested in the opinions of other people (especially people you don't know, don't care about, and will never see)?
Quit feeling sorry for yourself and build yourself up. Accomplishments help to build esteem. Finishing something you started, mastering a skill, and trying something new, are ways to build yourself up, too.
It sounds like you are in an abusive situation. You talk like others purposely intend to get you down. Tell yourself this: IT'S ALL RELATIVE, HONEY". Rememeber that the way people treat other people, is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. Feel sorry for them that they need to tear somebody down so they will not feel so lonely.
Remember that no one is responsible for your feelings. No one wants that kind of responsibility. No one feels sorry for you, and no one really cares. Skip the sympathy-seeking or you will get more and more abuse from people. Quit being so needy.
Build yourself up and do things you can be proud of. Self esteem comes from within. No one can "give" that to you, and no one owes you anything. The world does not orbit you and will not cater to you. You have to do things for yourself.

Answer 9

Some people are not mature themselves so they do not realize that the people on here are human, just like them. Don't let it bring you down. I hope you have a happy, successful school year.

Answer 10

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