when you reach a point of being fed up of your life and your boring daily details,is it safer to go on the same way or should we have enough courage to rebuild our lives?
2006-09-04 05:20:32 · 29 answers · asked by sadflower 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think you have to accept that all change has consequences, both good and bad. If you can consider the worst case scenario and still feel it would be worth the change despite that then change is worth pursuing. Change is sometimes hard as you may have to examine your own part in getting to the situation you're in now and ask if it's likely that the present unwanted life situation might repeat itself in the future because you might make similar choices again.
Having said that, I was one of life's great procrastinators and felt I had to sabotage some things in my old life in order to force change.That made a lot of consequences and choices come along all at once. Not especially fun at the time. I'd rather have changed things in manageable stages.
2006-09-04 05:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by emread2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered it yourself.
It is 'safer' to continue as you are, but that will keep you feeling fed up.
So you need to find the courage (or just a way of coping with the fear - whichever way you want to look at it) to make some changes.
I bet there are things you've done in the past where you made a decision to change something and you followed it through successfully. Use those experiences to reinforce the knowledge that you CAN change.
I'd recommend you get some books about the subject and get motivated. And don't think about the hugeness of change (maybe you want to move and get another job), just break it down into tiny little steps and then take it one small step at a time.
Hope that helps, good luck!
2006-09-04 05:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Sometimes it's hard to change because most of us are afraid to confront the unknown willingly. It's so much easier (we think) to carry on as we are because it is a known quantity.
The fact that you know you are unhappy is a good start. When you feel dissatisfied, it has the tendancy to take on a life of it's own and will eventually force you to make needed changes, sometimes in very drastic ways. It is far better to make these changes while you are still in charge of the process. One step at a time. Formulate a plan, even if it changes day to day, you can at least feel you are in control of the changes. Take stock of exactly what it is you don't like about your current situation, and write it all down. Then, take them one at a time. Be realistic though, you didn't get where you are overnight, and you won't get where you want to go overnight eiether.
And yes, it does take courage to change.
Best of luck. Hope this helps.
2006-09-04 05:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by The Oldest Man In The World 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to make grand sweeping gestures to change your life, it's actually dangerous to do things that way (you may regret some of it).
You can change your life every single day, just a little bit at a time. Pick one thing that isn't going right for you and fix it. If it will take a long while, do something else too. The trick is to not try to change too much at the same time, then you get over-loaded. Just change something small or do a little work toward something big each day and you soon see the results - no bravery required, just a little determination.
2006-09-04 05:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by le_coupe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must not settle in life. Life should not be based upon boring routine. You should find courage and strength from inside of you, from God and step out of the box and follow your passion.
There are no relevant excuses to hold us back. I was fed up with my life as a struggling, poor, single mom to 3, working a job I hated, and living a sad life, so I stepped up, worked hard went back to college and pursued my dreams until I reached them.
My life is so meaningful now,and I would recommend rebuilding your life no matter what it takes!
2006-09-04 05:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by erinjanae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same situation now. I relocated to England from Zimbabwe and I got a job and then saved money until I could rent the place i am in now. I started with absolutely nothing and managed to get myself sorted out in less than 6 months, but it took one minor thing to get my depression started!! I hurt my back and was off sick for about 6 weeks and then back to work when I started to have panic attacks and other strange little sick days off when it was discovered that I have depression/anxiety separation disorder/personality disorder and anhedonia. I am on medication now and I am hoping to get back into the swing of things once some one/thing helps with this awful depression.
I think changing your life in some ways is good for you as long as you can stick to what you have changed and enjoy what you do or have changed!!
Another thing, it must be your decision and dont let people pressure you into changing!! All the very best.
2006-09-04 05:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by tracy r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I was completely fed up with my life, only recently someone has come into my life who has given me that all-important courage I need to move on and get out of the rut I am stuck in.
Its better to have the courage to try and find happiness instead of staying in a situation that makes you unhappy.
2006-09-04 05:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by lindsay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm trying to change my life in small ways.
I nearly walked out, it would have been a major mistake, so now I am trying to improve things here, get a job, work at my marriage etc.
It may or may not work, we will see.
I can but try.
The way I see it, once the kids are older and leave home, then I will know if I'm happy to be here, or if I need to make a new life.
2006-09-04 05:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by Nettle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will probably reach the point where it will take more courage to continue with your joyless routines than to seek a change.
Almost all worthwhile endevours involve a degree of risk; even if that risk entails something so slight as the risk of making a fool of yourself, for instance.
2006-09-04 05:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its probably safer going on the same as trying to change it can be devastating. I've long thought about it but when tried to change it i fell flat on my face everytime so i'm playing it safe now, living my boring life.
2006-09-04 05:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by jaynie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋