Marriage is up in the air right now. But I was thinking...wow, how can I narrow down to possibly 4 bride maids without anyone getting mad or feeling one is more important than the other (longest friendship). I know this happens is almost every marriage. This can be very stressful I would imagine. Feel free to give me some of your ideas. Should I pick the most active friend in my life verses a childhood friend that I see or talk to a few times a month?
2006-09-04 05:19:48 · 11 answers · asked by The Next Top Model 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You should pick the people who you will think will still be in your life 20 years from now. You want to remember the people in your wedding pictures when you are looking back on them.
2006-09-04 05:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by treday25 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got lucky with my choosing. My sister was my Matron of Honor and then my two closest friends were Bride's Maids. My oldest friend was second in line with the chick I've known the least amount of time in third place. My advice to you is if marriage is up in the air to not set anything in stone, don't actually ask anyone to be in your party until it's time. Sometimes people you think you love and will be a part of your life always will get on your last nerve and you will regret being so hasty. For me, the woman I had as third Bride's Maid wasn't doing her job, went over her place and made some decisions that should of been mine and then wouldn't say sorry when I confronted her about it so we haven't talked since. Now I'm stuck with her in my wedding photos. Good luck!
2006-09-04 06:50:24 · answer #2 · answered by ore2nc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The role of a bridesmaid is to help the bride plan her wedding. It's nice to pick those long-lost friends who live a few states away, but let's get real. When I was planning my wedding, I was a wreck! I needed help! Pick the bridesmaids like you are filling a job, because that's what it is. Reliable, organized, helpful, with the time to spare and a reliable vehicle worked for me. Honey, it may sound mercenary, but the last thing you need is a bridesmaid who wants to help but can't because she is too far away or works three jobs or has a new baby. It's stressful for you and her, so choose carefully.
2006-09-04 05:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I understand because I only had a maid of honour. We didnt want a huge wedding party so I had to choose only one friend so I picked the one who was there for me the most thoughout high school and after. She cared and helped me through all the tough times so I felt I owed it to her to make her my MOH and she was happy to do it. My other friends were mad and talked about me behind my back and my MOH told me aobut it so I phoned them and told them it was my decision and if they had a problem with it then feel free not to attend the wedding at all because I didnt want my day ruined over something so stupid. I told them they should feel just as important because we only invited like 40 people and I invited them over some of my own family. I'm sure they will get over it. Just tell them you needed to make a choice and so you did, but dont want them to be hurt over it. Make them a part of it some other way. Have them go shopping with you to pick things out and stuff like that.
2006-09-04 07:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick the most reliable friends. I found some friends are not reliable when it comes to buying their dresses or really just being a help in the wedding. Trust me, I have experienced it and seen friendships break-up because of weddings.
2006-09-04 07:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very difficult but you have to know how to categorize your friendships/relationships. You know how the christmas tree is shaped.....right? This is how I always do mine........
The people that I NEED in my life, who are there to love and support me, people that I can basically trust with my life are at the top.
A little bit lower, I have people who I am close with, can't tell them every thing but we have a wonderful relationship are in the middle and as the tree gets lower and wider.......so are the rest of my relationships........straight down to people who are just acquaintances.
I think you should choose these people according to their importance in your life.........and remember that you are also telling them how much they mean to you as well. So choose them carefully.
2006-09-04 05:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with your heart.......If you really only want 4 brides maids then you need to find away to include your other friends into the wedding.....hostess,planning.... whatever you can...But why only 4 brides maids....if you can afford to have more have more....
2006-09-04 05:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by Do I know you? ya right LoL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're precise, the groom's relatives has no precise putting themselves into your area of the marriage party. If he needs them to stand up on his area, he's loose to ask them and that they are able to be 'groom's attendants' up there with the groomsmen. however the call of bridesmaids is reserved for the bride's closest and oldest friends. Why do not you ask the two one among them to do readings for the time of your ceremony, it rather is often how brides incorporate human beings interior the marriage without making them component to the marriage party. through fact they the two have toddlers, such as you mentioned they are going to be distracted throughout the time of the ceremony conserving the infants behaved, and the groom's mothers and fathers shouldn't might desire to try this through fact they might desire to have the potential to pay interest on the ceremony. in case you have already got your person son as ring bearer, there is not any might desire to incorporate the different 3 boys. there is likewise no regulation that broadcasts you like a flower female- i did not have one in my wedding ceremony, I in simple terms had my dogs as ring bearer and 3 attendants.
2016-11-24 21:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was choosing my brides maids I looked at things like "who was there for me when I needed them", "who supported me on major decisions", "who has shown kindness, friendship and caring to me the most".
2006-09-06 07:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing about picking ur bridal party in my opinion should be the people that have influenced you and ur fiances relationship the most. i dont think it should be about who is more important to you because you shouldnt have to decide between friends. with my wedding i know that i will choose those who have been most important to me and fiances life
2006-09-04 06:09:14 · answer #10 · answered by Mandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋