my sister and her husband are drug addicts and alchoholics they have a 6 year old and they are always on something how would I go about getting custody for a while. they deny it but we know they do It and we found a syringe in their car. and their daughter has had head lice for 5 years what actions should I take to get her out of that situation? please help any information would be helpful.
2006-09-04 04:58:53 · 19 answers · asked by freckleface 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You cannot just go in and scoop up the child no matter the circumstances. It stinks but it is a process in which you have to go through and contact the right people. Check your local government listing for child protective services and report them. You should either be able to talk to someone directly or leave your number for a call-back. At that point discuss options such as adoption. Please act fast on this and procure a lawyer so that the child does not 'get lost' in the system making your efforts 10 times more difficult. In the meantime you can go to your local bar association and they will set you up with a lawyer for a minimal fee of about 25-30 dollars. (at least in my area) You are able to ask this lawyer as many questions as you want and your first visit is free.
2006-09-04 05:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a very tricky situation and it is dumb to assume that you both know everything about it or understand what really goes on behind closed doors.
I would NEVER assume that and I can't answer this any other way because the parents are not here to defend themselves. This is YOUR SIDE of a two sided story. People like you quick to bumb rush in and take sh*it over because you belive its "the right thing to do." really annoy me!
Babysit one night and objectively ask the child if they are fed, clothed, cared for, if they experience or witness any of the negative aspects of drug abuse without actually coming out and saying anything. and the key word here it OBJECTIVELY. If you can't ask without twisting things into your own intent conscienciously, then have a professional councellor do it for you.
You have to ALWAYS do what is best for the child. and I really think that if your heart was in wanting to help rather than take charge and control a bad situation, then the right thing to do would be to have a professional intervention and offer to take care of the child while your sister get's well in a controlled enviornment.
YOU, swooping in like superwoman to "Save the day" because you want to be some kind of emaliorated heroine and the "Good Guy." to your sisters very sad and unfortunate screw up (which we all have by the way) is not helping when it will take a little girl away from her mommy... She will Always want and love her mom... no matter what she is and no matter what she does. It is not your place to discard her and try to replace her because she has a problem.
Watch yourself and make sure you check your own neck and intentions before you hurt something worse than it already is...
2006-09-04 05:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing Id do is ask to take the child to the park or out to eat what have you. Get the child and then call the police and then right away call child services. Let them know you have the abused child and you are in fear for their life.
Make your report detailed. The more info and ammo you have the better.
At that point, child services will probably find you as a temporary guardian and you should some sort of help for this child from the state if needed.
Let the judicial system take care of things at that point. The most important thing will already be done, you will have the child in your care.
2006-09-04 05:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by bolo 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Do you have a Social Services agency where they live??? You would need to contact them. If this little girl has had head lice for 5 years that is very disgusting!!!! How can this little girl stand this?? But, keep in mind that head lice like clean hair, not dirty. So, at least she is clean. Anyway, good luck to you on this.
2006-09-04 05:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is for real and you truly believe that the child is in danger and are not just in a fight with your sister (because unfortunately that does happen) you should start by calling Child Protective Services and telling them everything you know.
2006-09-04 05:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by DontPanic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely have the right and the duty to intervene. Contact the local social services office and make a report. You can do so confidentially (make sure they understand the significance of this report remaining confidential); tell them you're willing to take your niece in until they get their act together. Think about this child, be strong, and be her advocate.
2006-09-04 05:02:32 · answer #6 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are aware that the child is being neglected and is in danger and you do nothing than you are just as negligent as the parents.
I would advise you to immediately contact your states child protective services. if you have already spoken to your sister and she refuses to change the standard of living for the child then you must do it.
2006-09-04 05:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by hungryhillkid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the police, get a good lawyer. You cannot just barge in and take the kid because thats concidered kidnapping. You might stand a good chance is you try to solve this in a legal way.
2006-09-04 05:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by Joyce R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To treat head lice,check out some strong medicines to use,use those thin teethed combs to clear out the dead lice.Try and talk things out with the local healthcare personel to sort things out.
2006-09-04 05:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by Victoria C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact child protection agency
2006-09-04 05:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by witchfromoz2003 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋