I broke up with my ex of a year about a month & a half ago. Right after that I met a guy I thought was perfect. Everything a girl could want. Kinda dorky but that's ok. He isn't experienced with relationships. He is very sweet but very needy. Needs to be by my side at ALL times. And I feel a lil somothered. I think he is falling in love with me but I don't feel the same, but I think maybe someday I could. To me, the chemistry seems to be lacking sexually but he is truly a good guy. Shoud I give it time? Or just forget about it and wait for someone where we click in all aspects?
2006-09-04 04:54:44 · 10 answers · asked by jaycee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would get out now. It sounds like you have very little respect for him, adn he will eventually be able to see that. You will only hurt him if you stay. And, no, given time you won't fall for him, you'll just resent him for the time of your life he took away.
2006-09-04 04:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by smashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is needy it is not a good sign means he has not grown up yet into a mature man, and if the chemistry is not there in my opinion why compromise. If you dont love him now and you both have already had sex, then i dont think it will come later but instead his clinginess will begin to annoy you. And since you are even here askin this question I think you don't really care for him as much he does for you. Maybe you and your boyfriend had a bad break-up and now you are settling for less than what u want to play it safe but in the long run it wont last.
2006-09-04 12:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by exceptionallyexceptional 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, give it time if you really like him. He may be a diamond in the rough. However, make it clear (repeatedly if need be) that you are not ready for anything overly serious right now. That you need time to get to know him and to breathe between visits so you can absorb your time together.
Sometimes with a man like that you can quickly lose yourself being there for him. If you find he can't find balance or let you have balance you may want to take some time to decide if this is really the type of relationship you want. Being needed is great but how much does he need and when will it be enough?
2006-09-04 11:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, a man in the home is worth two in the street. If you don't want him give him to a b*tch that can handle him. If he is up under you all of the time he ain't hitting sh*t on the side you own that d*ck. Enjoy these moments before he learns the slimmie underhanded ways of his fellow brother en. Teach him your way of him pleasing you train him to do your stuff for you use the resource that you have been given. Damn it girl you have a diamond in the rough, a piece of unmolded clay. Got damn if not for yourself give him to a woman that can use a loving man and knows how to take care of business sister. So, what he is a little needy it beats the hell out of not needy and hit other woman all over town.
2006-09-04 12:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Needy- spells trouble. I'm not going to say he's right or wrong for you, because I'm not psychic and don't believe in that stuff. But, if you feel smothered (?!) and it hasn't reached (love) yet(?!)-you may suffocate(!) when it does get to that point. Think about that one before it really gets to the point where you're filing restraining orders. Take care and enjoy life!
2006-09-04 12:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by luvlifedaily 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd sooner suggest that you tell him directly most of what you say above. If he understands that you feel smothered and feel that he is needy, maybe you give him a chance to change these behaviors. Perhaps if her changes them, you'd be more attracted to him sexually. It sounds like you're feeling guilty - he's treating you well and you like that, but want more. Ask him for more.
2006-09-04 12:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by JJJJJJJJim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are feeling a lil smothered now, what do you think you will feel like 2, or 6 months from now. Be careful. Take care.
2006-09-04 11:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would suggest you to give him a chance. But you should tell him how you want him to be and what is your expectations. If he can change for you, then I don't think you will be happier with anyone else.
2006-09-04 12:01:33 · answer #8 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try just being friends first... then you'll know. So don't get into the relatonship, but just take some time to know each other better.
2006-09-04 11:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by Tash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U dont sound or talk like a lady in love at all !
2006-09-04 11:59:11 · answer #10 · answered by abeautyourstruly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋