2006-09-04 04:46:30 · 41 answers · asked by Allybaba 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It'd be abnormal if you *weren't* so stressed out, but rest assured that everything will turn out perfect in the end.
2006-09-04 04:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely! I am convinced that weddings are designed to test the patience and stamina of all involved. Just take a deep breath and trust that even if things don't go perfectly - you will get through it. If it makes you feel better - my daughter got married four days after 9-11. The best man and two bridesmaids could not fly in for the ceremony because all flights were still grounded. We re-made 2 bridesmaids dresses the night of the rehearsal dinner for the substitutes. One of the new bridesmaids was 6 ft tall and she was paired with a groomsman that was 5'4". All those wonderful advance preparations for the "perfect" wedding went out the window. ) Not to mention the cancellation of a long planned two week honeymoon in Italy.) But know what? It was the greatest wedding ever because it turned out to be such a celebration of love and the fact that despite the greatest of tragedies - life does go on! So my advice is to accept the fact that all this planning IS stressful - but also there will be things happen you cannot control. If you go with the flow it will all turn out to be a lovely memory in the end. Best wishes for a fantastic day!
2006-09-04 04:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, yes, yes. However you know you are stressed and you need to do some things to get the stress under control. Delegate anything to someone else that you can. Take time for yourself, take a hot bath,, get a massage, spend time alone reading or doing a craft. Spend time doing things with your fiance that are NOT wedding related and that make you both laugh.
Try not to talk about your wedding. This is a hard thing, but by now everyone else is sick to death of hearing about the details. Stop talking about it and you will also stop obsessing with it.
As the day draws near, realize that some things will go wrong but you can compromise on anything if you have to. Make lists and follow them. Throw them away (or burn them if it makes you feel better) when you are done. Get a foam rubber bat and a private place like the garage or basement and beat a pole or box to shreds to alleviate tension. Exercise if you do that.
Remember about perspective. While important, this is simply the 1st day of the rest of your life. It is not your life. Enjoy it for what it is, but in about 30 seconds its over and your life together begins. That where you want to devote your energy.
Enjoy!!!
Source(s):
Daughter got married in June.
2006-09-04 05:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, yes, yes. However you know you are stressed and you need to do some things to get the stress under control. Delegate anything to someone else that you can. Take time for yourself, take a hot bath,, get a massage, spend time alone reading or doing a craft. Spend time doing things with your fiance that are NOT wedding related and that make you both laugh.
Try not to talk about your wedding. This is a hard thing, but by now everyone else is sick to death of hearing about the details. Stop talking about it and you will also stop obsessing with it.
As the day draws near, realize that some things will go wrong but you can compromise on anything if you have to. Make lists and follow them. Throw them away (or burn them if it makes you feel better) when you are done. Get a foam rubber bat and a private place like the garage or basement and beat a pole or box to shreds to alleviate tension. Exercise if you do that.
Remember about perspective. While important, this is simply the 1st day of the rest of your life. It is not your life. Enjoy it for what it is, but in about 30 seconds its over and your life together begins. That where you want to devote your energy.
Enjoy!!!
2006-09-04 04:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! It wouldn't be normal if you weren't! lol :) And it'll probably get a bit worse as it gets closer, I'm afraid... but it's like a 'happy stress' so don't worry about it! :)
"Am I doing the right thing? Will Mr. A and Mrs. B get along at the same table? Will the cake get delivered on time? What if I stain my dress? Is Mr. X gonna send that response card back already??? What if my fiance doesn't show? Will the bridesmaids gowns be ready on time? What if they're late??"
and on and on and on... and if you're thinking about all this and more, you're NORMAL!!!
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! It will be the perfect day! I wish you the best
2006-09-04 04:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats! We're getting married in a month, and let me tell you--go get a massage!
You don't need to be so stressed. You're getting married to the right guy, there will be problems, but it's your day! You're going to look gorgeous, everyone wilil be in awe, and this is a celebration! Who cares if the cake topples over or if the band misses a cue. It's not about how you celebrate, it's about you and your new husband enjoying the marriage process!
You've made it this far--you're going to be just fine!
2006-09-04 04:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes. I remember bursting into tears more than once. Are you having a big wedding? That's what I don't like about big weddings. So much stress, like the dresses aren't ready, trouble with flowers, caterers, etc. I would rather have eloped. It will all be over soon though so take a deep breath and try to relax. Easier said than done I know. Congrats. to you and best wishes.
2006-09-04 04:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is and you have every right to be stressed. I have taken the plunge twice and both times I was a nervous wreck, but when all is said and done, you will look back on this and laugh!!
(why do you think most brides loose weight before the wedding....STRESS!!)
Just learn to take a lot of quality time breaks for yourself, a little pampering will help ease the stress.
Good luck and CONGRATS.!!!
2006-09-04 04:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by Torri * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yes it is very normal to be stressed out. I only had 5 weeks to plan my wedding so you can imagine the stress I was under
2006-09-06 03:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by Joeys Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal but you have got to find a way to relax. I know that's easier said than done.By the time your wedding comes around you won't be able to enjoy it because you're so stressed out. Go away for a weekend and do absolutlely nothing that has to do with the wedding.
2006-09-04 04:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have seen it where at the last week it seems like everything falls apart just take a deep breath and think it will be over soon. On the stress level it shows death as number one I think it should be changed to getting married.
2006-09-04 04:49:44 · answer #11 · answered by stefania_n2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋