I have been dating this guy for about 2 1/2 months and when I thought things were getting better they only got worse. He was awsome in the begining of the relationship nice, sweet, caring, and smart. I thought gawwwwww..I cant be that lucky. It took us 2 weeks to kiss. Then about a month to have relations. After that I would notice that he wouldnt call me as often ..but would still call everday. He went from calling me 20 times a day to only once. His character changed now he's selfish, cold, rude. I feel bad because when I started liking him the most he just pushed me away. I talk to him every day or maybe every otherday. But I dont know where this relationship is going or I dont know what he expects from it . I dont want to be a second choice for him to come to. Im not sure if he has anyone else...since he doesnt stop calling me or doesnt lose contact with me. I like him soo much but I dont know what words to use to lay it out staight. Can someone please suggest something?
2006-09-04 04:45:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Drop him. First of all if you speak every day then you speak frequently anyway so don't complain he doesn't call you often enough. However, if he is rude and treats you badly then he isn't worth your time.
2006-09-04 04:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship of 2 and a half months is easily gotten rid of. If his character changed so drastically so soon then why stay around? Often we stay in a relationship because we want the feelings that we got in the beginning. We hope that it will go back to that again. It's actually a lot like drugs. You do a drug and it feels really good and you spend money, time, energy chasing that feeling and in the meantime you ruin your life. There are other men and I am sure at least one who is right for you who can treat you well for more than a few weeks.
Take a step back and take some time to know yourself. A person can only make you feel bad if you let them into your life to do so.
2006-09-04 11:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start distancing yourself away from him. When he call tell him every now and then that you'll call him back like your losing interest in him. If he acts like he doesn't care then there it is, he really don't care and its time for you to leave him alone. He might have gotten what he wants from you (relations) and is either working things out with an ex or found himself a new girl. Good luck
2006-09-04 12:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sangue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a real classic incident. At this age what a boy thinks of a relationship. You fell for it easily. Now he got it what he wanted. He is looking for newer horizons. You can dump him or wait for him. He does not care. But he will be in touch with you, so that you are there, when he is starving and needs it again. YOU ARE THE BETTER JUDGE.
2006-09-04 14:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by RavananON21Century 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know up front that you have a feeling that he has changed. That you feel when you first met that he might have been putting up a front to get you and now that he has you he can put you to the way side. Let him know what is up or he will continue and you will still be miserable till the relationship ends
2006-09-04 11:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the start of a relationship is always great everything runs smoothly and then when you think you can start to back of a bit a become slack you do. unless he is being that terrible you can't stand it just try a couple of things that are fun for both of you to do. once you start getting paranoid over nothing it only gets worse.
2006-09-04 11:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once they know they got what they want, they loose interest in it. Trying to win someones heart is fun, but once you've got it, what fun is it? These are... the days of our lives... Young and dumb.
Loose him, if he comes back, he loves you, if he doesn't he will move on, and you will be heartbroken, but it's for the best. Can you imagine yourself growing old with him acting like that?
2006-09-04 11:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be rational and evaluate your relationship.Try not to respond to him for a couple of days and watch his reaction. He may be worried because of some inhibitions going at the back of his mind which he may not be able to express.But if he really likes you he will come back to you.Try to give him some space.Try to engage yourself in something creative and not be obsessed with the ralationship.
2006-09-04 11:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by fun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His cold reaction is probably either dissapointed with your "relation" performance or he is not serious in getting along with you -- just want your body.
Try recalling any occassions that you have aggitated him if you still want to continue with him. Else dump him cos very likely he already has no more interest in you.
2006-09-04 12:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by dolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his true colores are showing now..iyou should move on..after only 2 mos.it wouldn't to heart breaking for ya.don't torture your self with him.He is who is now and the sweet guy you meet in the beginning is now gone hunny...trust me i have meet a lot of those facades in my life. It will just depress you more to keep hanging on to something that will never be there again.
2006-09-04 11:59:21 · answer #10 · answered by wyldmntgyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋