it all started when jake, my brothers friend, ate dinner at our house. thats when i knew i liked him. i would always feel nervous and try to act cooler around him. he liked me back. this was in feb. and by memorial day weekend, we both dropped heavy hints about our feelings for each other, and obviously, he knew, i knew. my cousin brittney and friend kacey, one day, were questioning him about it. he wouldnt admit it for a while, but then finally he did, but said he wanted to wait until high school to date me. kacey practically broke his wrist and finally said he'd ask me out. i said yes, obviously. the only places we would see each other were the pool and my house occasionally. we souldnt do much at the pool except talk since i was very self-concious about my body in a bathing suit so i wouldnt move around much. we would hug occasionally, and he tried to kiss me 3 times, but i didnt get the hint. thats what i wanted for my birthday, but i didnt tell him that.
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2006-09-04 04:41:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i told him i wanted a necklace. of course, i told my friend haley i wanted a kiss and she told him, so he kept trying me to say it. i didnt because a kiss cant be planned like that. finally he said what haley told him, and he said he'll be at my house the next day to give me my birthday present. he didnt, obviously. we didnt bring it up again. but a couple days later, my actual birthday, he told me he needed to talk to me. i said okay, and he said he felt that i didnt want to do anything with him. i objected immediately, but was lost for words. he didnt break up with me, but an hour after that, i invited him to go to great falls with me, but he couldnt. i went alone. things were a bit dull after that. 10 days later, the 1st day of summer, he broke up with me. he wanted to be friends with me. i didnt talk to him for 2 months. finally i said i wanted to be friends too and since then he's dropped heavy hints that he still likes me, i have too. i dont really know where to go from here now.
2006-09-04 04:41:58 · update #1
"i dont really know where to go from here now."
that little part is asking a question, '...hate...'
2006-09-04 04:43:35 · update #2
Well, take it easy. I get the impression that you are quite young. Just relax and try to get to a stage of the friendship where both of you can talk honestly and to the point about things so you don't have to rely on hints and guessing games. Once you know each other well enough as friends you can just let it be and see where it goes instead of trying too hard.
Good luck and always be responsible.
2006-09-04 04:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by kevinrtx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK here is the thing for one no relationship will work with all your friends and cousins in it. Second you shouldn't have talked to him when he said he wanted to wait till high school. That may have been an excuse and then because all your friends were pressuring him you never know did he date you for you or cause someone "talked him into it" so... so far you started off wrong....now between hanging out with you he may have realized he does like you and if that's the case you start to play his game right back don't be shy flirt with him and make him want to kiss you and when he leans in for the kill you know it worked and he'll be chasing you.....it's the thrill of the chase if he knows you super like him he's gonna funk w/ yr heart. With you in control you don't have to worry about that...now remember if you really like him and you can tell he likes you too (genuinely not cause nobody else is around) Don't make him chase too long, you'll know what;s right and it will be easy with everyone out of your business you'll know if you think it cause you feel it or cause someone is yapping in your ear!! ya know.......as for the dumping part you better look mighty good at all times always have something to do so you look busy like he wouldn't stop you from having fun...just show him it was a mistake rather that cry and say you want him back.Trust Me!! hope this helps you!!
2006-09-04 11:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by ajexis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting that y'all are pretty young, so going slow is a good thing - good for you! He sounds like an okay guy, not pressuring you and all. After all, he made it pretty clear in the beginning that he would rather wait until high school to date you. If you both like each other, not playing a bunch of games is best. Making eye contact and smiling at him are good ways to show that you like him too. Next time he talks to you, face him directly and stop what you're doing to listen. Guys like that! It wouldn't hurt to make it known to your friends and any mutual friends that you do like him. But don't do more than you're comfortable with. If he ever tries something that makes you uncomfortable, there's nothing wrong with telling him so. Just try to relax and take his lead... it will all work out.
2006-09-04 18:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by theblondegenius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This all sounds perfectly normal. You are in a blissful round of getting to know each other and taking your time doing it.
At this rate, it may be 3 or 4 years before you two kiss, which is just fine. Give little hugs, hold hands, and enjoy being with him and accept his little gifts.
It' sounds so sweet!
2006-09-04 11:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by nora22000 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
could you two be more confused. relax first of all. second tell him whats going on. say that he is kinda clumsy about this whole girl/boyfriend stuff and that its pushed you away. then say if you would want to start something again. pretty simple stuff but the hard part is starting the conversation and keeping it going. its hard to say hey i think your kind of a dork but i still ike you but the truth is always better.
2006-09-04 11:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that you are not mature enough for a "relationship". Note: keep you friends out of it. If YOU can not communcate your feelings, don't have your friends do it for you.....that is so "high school"...Anyhow, bottom line: be friends and let life happen.
2006-09-04 15:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you surprised? You said yourself you didn't get his hints, you didn't make any effort around the pool (because of your body) and have had your friends place pressure on him. Maybe you should make the effort yourself, you will both feel better for it.
2006-09-04 11:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure of your age. You sound young. As we get older, hints are less than telling someone you like them.
I would concentrate on your studies and your friends. Just be his friend. If you do connect, please do not do anything you don't want to do just to keep him "liking" you. You are a good person and deserve respect.
2006-09-04 11:45:37 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say go up to him and give him a kiss. If your shy about it, go for the cheek. Maybe he'll turn and it'll land on the lips!
Good luck.
2006-09-04 11:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop beating around the bush. he likes you, you like him...enough already. once you got him, you didn't know what to do or you actions made him think you weren't really into him. time to make some moves. he doesn't HAVE to kiss you...you can kiss him. JEEEEEZ.
2006-09-04 22:13:49 · answer #10 · answered by crazymom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋