theres this guy at work whos not sure himself, he looks at guy and thinks their cute but also looks at women and thinks their cute! do you have any suggestions to help him?
2006-09-04 04:40:01 · 29 answers · asked by Tiny 88 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
theres no such thing as bi-sexual! its just being greedy and want the best of both worlds! your either gay or straight!!
2006-09-04 04:53:11 · update #1
he might be bi
2006-09-04 04:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by Nat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a matter of fact, I do have some suggestions.. 1) there is NO reason to change anything at this point...I was like that for half my life, and in fact, still find women very sexy, very pretty, very charming. There did come a time when I had NO choice, I was swept away emotionally by a guy..unfortunately, I was married with a child (well, not unfortunately, but it was a huge problem, of course). Stayed married for many years, had another child...love them both with all my heart), but there came a time when it just didn't work well in any facet of my life, my wife actually made the choice for me to live with him. I was lucky...I had great people all around me, but I went through hell for years in guilt. MY ADVICE is to do NOTHING at this point. DO NOT get involved with a woman or a man. Guys who are attracted to men are gay, no matter what they prefer to think, it is entirely possible that they live their entire lives straight, but it isn't the life you lead that defines you, it is your desires. Living a gay life is no different than straight, problems are the same. IT sounds as if he has not experienced much, if anything sexual in his life. I think the dust should settle before anything is done. He is certainly free to email me if he wants further clarification. Thanks and good luck
PS: I just read the answers above...there are really a lot of good folks on today who give it straight and unbiased...great day here at Yahoo.
2006-09-04 11:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being gay is not a polarity, on or off. It's a greyscale continuum where people can be anywhere on the range. I suggest that you and he watch the movie "Kinsey".
In his research Kinsey discovered just how many men had actually had some experience of gay sex. Lots of them. That didn't mean that they weren't happy to make a choice that their partnership would be hetero. Some can't though.
There's nothing wrong with thinking attractive people are attractive - male or female. So what. It's no different than me seeing other gorgeous women and deciding to go home and make love with my wife.
In the end it's the person that matters. It's not who you fancy but who you love, who loves you and who can create a relationship with you. I have known people in threesomes that sustained for a long time. I have known men who thought they were committed gays and who ended up in hetero marriage (and everyone knows of married men who leaves the wife for a gay partnership).
So my suggestion to your friend is that he focuses on who he is with and not "what" he is with. He will soon enough find out where he wants to be and how he wants to live.
2006-09-04 11:53:02 · answer #3 · answered by jon2901 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be bisexual or just too inexperienced to know what he wants. I would suggest he date everyone he finds attracted to and experiment and not limit himself either way until he knows for sure. Nature will lead him to his natural sexuality. However he might be bisexual and satisfied either way. I would suggest that he needs to be as honest with himself and his partners as possible. No lying, if you are dating both genders, your partners have a right to know.
2006-09-04 11:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he like the best of both worlds. Nothing wrong with that at all. If thats what will make him happy then let him enjoy life. I for one love being bi and don't like it at all when people mess in my personal affairs.
2006-09-04 12:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by jeskjam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this man doesnt need help, nor a label - what he needs is time, experience & acceptance to figure out what he wants.
you dont say how old this man is or if he has had previous relationships with people of his own gender or the opposite gender & even if i did know these details i still wouldnt know how he feels inside...
there are more people than you would think that find both genders attrective - humans of both sexes are beautiful & only someone truely narrow minded wouldnt apreciate that.
as a basic rule you could say;
if they have sex with only the opposite gender & only want to have sex with the opposite gender they are straight.
if they have sex with only the opposite gender but want to, or are considering having sex with their own gender, they are bi-curious.
if they happily have sex with both genders they are bi-sexual.
if they have sex with only their own gender with no interest in the opposite sex then they are homosexual/gay.
one fling, either for curiositys sake or beacuse it just felt right at the time doesnt mean we need to re-assess our sexuality. as i said to start with, i dont think the labels are needed at all.
2006-09-04 12:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes bi ... dependz am a female and some times i say this gurl is cute or pretty but i would never wish to sleep with a female depends how does he feel inside does he like to sleep with?
2006-09-04 11:42:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he see a guy does his peni goes up? if yes then he is gay.When he see a woman does his peni goes up? if yes then he is not gay.
Seeing at guys and girl and thinking they r cute is normal but if he feel to have sex with a guy then u...I mean he is gay but if he feel to have sex with a girl then he is not gay.
2006-09-04 11:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by The Hawk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pretty sure that someone would know if they are gay,what the problem may be is do they want to admit it to the world?
2006-09-04 11:43:59 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, tell his fruity a s s to stay in the closet and don't come back out until he's straight!
2006-09-04 11:42:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never liked George Michael until he said he knew that he was gay when he fell in love.
2006-09-04 12:49:02 · answer #11 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋