Questions for the married or couples out there- do women have less sex esp.when you get married & dress worse?

Question

I wonder if guys or women feel once you get married, and esp. if you have kids,that for a good majority of you guys ,the sex goes downhill (less often) & your woman does'nt dress sexy at all
anymore-all yuo get is the casual blue jeans look and now the only
hot girls you see are on the internet or OTHER women you see
out anywhere. how often do most coupled esp. married people have sex - what is the norm?

Answer 1

I think it does depend on people but for the most part its true. As the years pass couples get complacent and therefore tend not to make as much effort. When a guy first starts seeing a girl he wants to get to know her and get into her pants, so he makes massive sweeping gestures and flirts. After 20 years of marriage they have already slept together and the magic has almost gone. Its sad but it is preventable with some effort.

Answer 2

My hubby and I have been married 11 years, and have 3 kids, and I still dress sexy for him. I don't know what the norm is, but we make love about 3 or 4 times a week. We found out that you have to make time for each other, even with 3 kids and 2 high pressure jobs. I see a lot of people fall into a routine and not make time for each other. And there marriage ends up lacking things.

Answer 3

When you first meet your parner you want to have her on the sack about 20 times a day, after you have been with her for a while you can have her 20 times a day. Once you get married you do it 20 times a day. After 20 months in the relationship you may do it 20 times a week, then after you have a child you are lucky if you do it 20 times a year. Now as every 20 months goes by you will get less and less and that is when you should start looking for the 20 years old.

Answer 4

Oh - please, where are you coming up with this idea? My husband and I have been married 20 yrs. (second marriage for both) - but we raised 5 kids and I still dress stylish. Maybe not the same way as when I was 25 - but who wants to see a 50 year old in the same clothes as her daughter. And no - sex has not "gone downhill". We enjoy it has much - if not more - now as when we first got married. Maybe because we have less pressure and more time to relax, take our time and really get into it!

Answer 5

I don't thing the sex appeal go down. Neither does the want to have sex. But when the kids are crying you don't feel in the mood. If all depends on how the girls dressed before they got married. Nothing wrong with the blue jean look. I like the look.

Answer 6

Well we have been together 9yrs. or more, been married 5yrs., We have 3 children, & we have sex the least 2x's a week. I don't know what is normal. But you are right, a lot of my friends, hardly ever have sex. I have noticed that a lot of women do dress down when they get married. Not I Said the Fly or Not Me said the Flea. I'm 36, & I still want to feel sexy & get noticed ever now & then.

Answer 7

It really does depend on the people. It's always different. Some have sex a LOT and the women still dress sexy...some don't have sex all that much and the women AND MEN don't dress sexy anymore.
How you treat each other will help to determine these things. If a man continues to value the woman and treats her well......she will want to be and do her best......hopefully the man will do the same....

Answer 8

Sorry dude! I would hate to live in your world! When we got married my husband and I both agreed that we both needed to work on our relationship every single day. 10 years later and 2 kids later we still have sex at least 4 times a week and I dress like a sex kitten every single chance I get! If I am scrubbing toilets or going out dancing I always dress to impress my man! Plus, I want my kids to grow up knowing how important a marriage is, how much work it requires and to have a sense of self-love and take care of themselves....in every aspect of their lives! good luck man.

Try talking to your wife in a very non-confrontational way! Talk to her about your concerns and maybe, just maybe, if you are both adult enough and willing to work hard you can redeem the relationship you have. I wish you the best my friend!

Answer 9

Well, since sex happens with NO clothes on (at least in our house, lol) and the fact that your regular dependable partner is available EVERY night (or day, heehee) I would have to say it definitely goes UPHILL not down. As for the clothes. I found having someone who pays half the bills, I have MORE money for 'nice' things and can dress even better. It's all a personal choice to keep yourself attractive, not let go and get sloppy. women need to remember that their husband still enjoys it when she "fixes up" just for HIM, and men need to remember that a daily shower and shave goes a long way to keeping yourself desirable to your wife. Grooming shouldnt be let go just because one is married.

Answer 10

The norm is, both men and women get comfortable once they are married. Especially when you have kids. If all possible, arrange to have a night out once a week for just the 2 of you.