I live 25 mi from my daughter. When her first child was a baby I saw them frequently but as time goes by I hear less and less from her. Any plans that she follows through with are geared towards occasional baby sitting . . .boys, now 9 and 11or maybe one or two sports events a yr, at which time she has friends present and says very little to me. She rarely calls; if I call her she may or may not call back and it is usually a week or so later. She does call once or twice a year to vent when she is furious with her husband. I saw her at Easter and have spoken with her 3 to 4 times since. I have never been critical of her and I do not meddle in her life or have unreasonable expectations of her. Once in one of our rare conversations, I ask that we should stay in touch a little better . . . she got ugly, screaming and ending up saying to me "I hope when I get OLD I don't" I can't even remember what it was, but when I told her calmly that calling me old, hurt, she deinied saying it.
2006-09-04 04:31:19 · 14 answers · asked by joaninga 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would make a time when you could both sit down as adults and discuss this with her. Tell her how you feel. Tell her you miss your grandchildren and want to spend more time with all of them. I will pray for your relationship to get stronger with her. Best wishes.
2006-09-04 04:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my two grown girls. The only time I hear from them is when they want something. They never ask me to go anywhere with them. They both live less then a mile from me. One lives 5 blocks away. I babysit her 4 month old all day during the week so on the weekends she wants it to be just her, her husband and the baby so I never get to shop or do anything with her. I am severly depressed over this matter. Just last night I was crying over this same stuff. I don'tr know what the answer is. Both my daughters get very nasty to me too with their mouth. I would have never spoken to my mother like they do. E-mail me and we can talk.
2006-09-04 11:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Corina 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your daughter has her own life now and with two boys and a husband I imagine that she is very, very busy. If she works as well then she has even less time. Demands from family, job and finding time to spend with friends gives women an immense amount of pressure. She doesn't need more from you. Don't guilt trip her. Get out and find more things to occupy your time and don't expect your daughter to be at your beck and call.
2006-09-04 11:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She maybe having personal problems and doesnt want you to know.She is distancing herself.If I was you,altho it hurts I would just write her a brief nte,say you love her dearly,say how proud you are of what a great job she is doing parenting,and you understand how pressed she is for time,and sometimes,when she has a bit of spare time,how much you would like to be with her.She sounds very stressed and defensive so I would not press her.
2006-09-04 11:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is going through rough times in her marriage. She may be embarrased to share her troubles with you because it makes her feel like she can't handle her own life. Maybe just try calling without expecting a call back. Leave her a message just saying that you love her and that they're is no need to call back, that you are there for her. Who knows, maybe she'll start reaching out to you.
2006-09-04 11:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by smashley 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm, to me it seems like something happend between you two when she was younger. she has to have a reason for acting like that. Maybe you need to sit down with her and explain how your feeling. Maybe she too needs to get some things off her chest. But good luck and hope everything works out for you :-)
2006-09-04 11:33:44 · answer #6 · answered by SweetPea 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell her you miss her. See if you can go up and stay with her for about a week.
2006-09-04 11:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that your daughter doesn't appreciate you enough. she is probably busy with her family and job. she needs to slow down and spend time with you. just keep trying and don't give up. it isn't your fault that she is ignoring you. maybe you could try again to sit down and have a talk with her.
good luck :)
2006-09-04 11:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you. She has issues! Take care
2006-09-04 11:34:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is her husband abusive?
2006-09-04 11:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋