My girlfriend is pregnant and the thing is the family would go mad if they found out that we have been sleeping together. because even though we are the same age and have always been more like friends then anything else.
the thing is my girlfriend is my aunt. we have been together for 5 years now and no one has ever known but now they will and im dreading what will happen :(
but we are never spilting up we love each other to much
2006-09-04 04:26:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Um.....ok. If it's aunt by blood, that is kind of wrong. Kind of sick and gross. If it's by step-relations, etc... it's still kind of weird.
Regardless, right now is I am guessing you are underage and having this baby. You need to decide if you want to keep the baby or if you dont want the baby. You can look into adoption. Families that cant have the blessing of a child are desprate from one to love. If you think this child will be outcasted by your family, if you think you are not fit to be a parent right now, etc...talk to an adoption agency.
BUT if you want this baby, granted, your family will be upset at first but give them time. A baby is a blessing and a love no matter what!
2006-09-04 04:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... that is a tough one. It very much depends on many background details like religion, culture, etc.
I'm always against breaking up with people, especially family.
Anger might disappear in time.
I think one should divide the question into two: "the baby", "the
girl".
I think you should keep the baby and have it as a child if you can support it. If you can't or might think the family will make trouble - you don't want to have a baby grow up in hatred so you might want to consider adoption. I personally think "where there is a will there is a way" and you should take care of your child and make it grow up to a nice, loving human being. We need more of those.
About "the girl", well, that depands. Maybe you should talk straight with the family - no hands! - and explain things. ?Understand the anger. It is more sorrow than anger. A good arrangment will be (I think) - "OK, we will not sleep together but we are good friends and we are having this one child and we want your support with the child." Time is a good cure. I think if you will continue to respect your family, and show you love them, they will calm down in time.
But, don't worry - be happy! You';re gonna be a Daddy!
GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-04 04:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by NC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Own up. You can't keep this secret forever and honestly when you and your Aunt made the decision to be intimate you should have been mature enough to realize that it would have an adverse effect on your family and the repercussions of them finding out would be severe.
I'm not looking down on you , I realize that everyone has a story and to each their own, but..I don't feel sorry for you either, your decision to get involved with a family member was irresponsible and selfish and will probably cause a lot of heartache for your family.
Also, do not hide from the doctors the fact that you and your "GF" are related. This could be significant information when it comes to her prenatal care.
Good Luck
2006-09-04 04:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by Christie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're girlfriend is your aunt, and as you say, your aunt is pregnant, then there is a significant risk of the baby having sever birth defects. The practice of sleeping with your aunt is immoral, immature, irresponsible and illegal.
I don't care what anyone thinks about abortion, I think this would be an appropriate time to consider it, especially since incest is involved and clearly mentally unstable people.
2006-09-04 04:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by Soda Popinski 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF your aunt is pregnant, then there is a significant risk of the baby having sever birth defects. You never worried about what your family had to say before this point why would you now? Mide as well face the music now!
2006-09-04 04:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you blood related?? Or is she your aunt by a marriage into your family? If you are blood related you may want to get baby checked for defects as that is inbreeding per say. Good Luck in this situation.. if you both love eachohter dont deny it and take care of your baby.
2006-09-04 06:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by yeppers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please tell me shes your aunt by marriage or something and not blood related. If you are blood related, thats sick. What you need to do, both of you, is get into some mental health counseling. This is NOT normal. You probably will lose your entire family when they find out about this and your baby will be born with deformities. Its not right to your child that he/she will be an inbred and probably have health problems because of it. Shame on you!
2006-09-04 04:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness, that's a pretty kettle o'fish :(
How old are you two, it i may?
i'd suggest your girl has an abortion but i won't, since the very thought of it, if it were my baby, would make me sick
the problem is, from the legal perspective, you two can't even marry.
if you could support yourselves you could maybe blow up all bridges and go your own way, just live together, but sounds like you can't
Sad to say but you'll have to take on more responibility than you are probably ready for, mate!
Good luck to you :(
2006-09-04 04:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by Faith * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you both adults?
If so, as long as this relationship isnt against the law(have you checked that out), and your baby is going to be ok.
Then dont worry about family.
Its your life, you only get one chance.
So if you are both happy, you just have to ride the storm
2006-09-05 09:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by justine m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are consanguineous (meaning related to each other by blood) you must get the baby checked for congenital defects. There could be a hereditary disease you both carry the genes for which your baby will inherit. I don't care about the moralisers, do the right thing by your baby.
2006-09-04 04:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋