I have to run him to e doctor. As he tell me immediately after e incident and behave so bravely in e clinic, i brought him candy in the shop when he asked for it. i wonder whether i did wrongly in getting e candy for him. No scolding but I do warn him about e severity of e incident. I’m afraid it will happen again!
2006-09-04 04:14:16 · 14 answers · asked by Rainy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
When I was four, I plucked out a wheel from my brother's Hot Wheels car and stuck it up my nose too. My brother yelled for my grandma, my grandma yelled for my mum, my mum yelled for my dad and my dad yelled for the whole neighbourhood for help. We stopped short at informing the press. Nevertheless, I was famous overnight...and it left an indelible mark in my heart.
Whenever I saw a Hot Wheels toy car in a toy shop, I'd shrink in fear...not because I was tempted to shove yet another wheel up my nose, but because I was so worried that I'd get the whole neighbourhood involved again!
Even though it never occurred to me that it was dangerous and I might have to spend the rest of my life breathing through one less nostril, I was traumatized enough. I didn't need reprimanding from an adult. How could I possibly tell any adult that I was merely taking in a deeper breathe of that rubber tire? I was young and curious! It's a natural progression towards exploration and discovery in life.
Your son will grow up to tell the same nostril story to other people, but he's gonna remember that his sweet mummy comforted him with candy just when he was feeling so shaken. I never had that candy....just multiple smacks on my head.
2006-09-04 04:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by citrusy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what i have learned as a preschool teacher is that he is experimenting and a lot of 4 year olds do this. something like going to a clinic can be very scary for a small child and it is very appropriate to give him something for being brave. let him know that you were very scared by what he did and that it is unsafe to put things up his nose. why punish a child for doing a completely normal, yet silly thing?!
2006-09-04 12:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by Kristy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he was scared...and Im sure you want to punish him -- but the severity of problem and the medical attention that was/is required should scare him. I would definatly sit him down and on his terms, and in language that he understands, explain how much it scared you, and could have hurt him. I'm not sure what I would do in the situation -- my daughter is only 9 months. But I have a very young sister -- and she put peas up her nose... she was so scared by all of us rushing her to the doctor -- she won't go near peas, or put things up her nose. ... hope it helps :)
2006-09-04 11:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by cyndiecyndie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am very glad that you seek opnion and advice before taking any action on your son.
He is just exploring everything that he can grab with his hands. This is their way of learning, I am sure he was scared by that incident and by instinct he will not do it again.
May I suggest you do not stop talking to people (neighbour, friends, colleagues...etc) about best way to nurture your child.
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God bless
2006-09-05 21:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by BaTu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's what boys do! they put stuff in any hole they find. He probably will not do that again, the clinic was probably trauma enough. Don't punish him, its too late and really not appropriate to the situation. But don't let him have anything like that to play with for awhile
2006-09-04 11:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by parental unit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
had you purchased the candy because he was brave and did not fuss would be one thing but because he asked and you gave in... you reward behavior that is wrong and he wont learn... should have said no tot he candy and explain the the dangers of sticking things in the nose.. no need to punish he doesn't understand that it is wrong.......baby proof your home....
2006-09-04 11:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing that the whole incident was punishment enough! There is nothing quite as good as natural consequences.
2006-09-04 13:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by psycho-cook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids do straing stuff dont punish him!!! explain what will happen to him and is adventurous little brain by doing things like that. And that it worries you. You love him and wanna see hi safe. If that doenst work then punish becuase he will be violating your order. and mabe keep tape out of his reach.
2006-09-04 11:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that what he did was wrong, but no need to scold him any further, he's only 4
2006-09-04 11:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by jhaejhae 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i really dint think he did this intentionally to hurt himself or scare you. i think you handled it just fine.kids Will be kids they do silly stuff sometimes, they dint sit and contemplate weather they should or not.
2006-09-04 11:27:08 · answer #10 · answered by karen s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋