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Summary; I was going through a hard time, started seeing signs in my gf that she is anorexic and has a gym addiction problem, so I got her family involved and let slip a secret about her that I thought was the main contributor to her issues. She dumped me 2-3 weeks ago for betraying her trust, we've been in contact and she is more than willing to chat with me, but I always struggle to steer clear of begging her to forgive me. I know that she is the one I want and that my illness had clouded my vision.
The current situation is that I have been making progress with my own issues, and have come to realise that she means the absolute world to me. What I would like to know is if I stand any chance of being forgiven? and if a relationship can be continued considering the lack of trust that she is initially going to have in me?
2006-09-04 04:11:10 · 13 answers · asked by Ryan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think everyone deserves a second chance. What you did shows that you really care about her. Even though there was the possibility of losing her you still went to her parents and you put her health and well being before your own happiness. She will see that in time perhaps. Why don't you do something incredibly romantic to show her how much you love her.If you want to do this I can give you ideas.I have worked as a wedding planner and I will try to give you lots of wonderful ideas.
M.
2006-09-04 04:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by burn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have to understand is that your girlfriend has an illness and of course she wanted it kept secret but I believe that you did the right thing by letting her family know. The best you can hope for is communication and building back up that trust but give her your reasons for telling. Her health was at stake and you didn't want to lose her in another more deadly fashion. If she is any kind of woman, she will understand your concern and love you all the more for it. But anorexia doesn't just go away. Continue trying to help her and you'll make all the difference loving and supporting her.
2006-09-04 11:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by Southern Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to remember is that although you betrayed her trust you were doing it for her own good. I know she probably didn't see it that way (I've been there). It sounds like you could both do with supporting each other right now through your health difficulties. If you give her a bit of time on her own hopefully she will realise what you did was not through malice but for love and concern for her and come back to you.Good Luck I hope things work out for you both!
2006-09-04 11:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by hotchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess my question is should you really feel sorry for what you did if you had her best intensions at heart? I wouldn't apologize, but I would say that your intention was not to hurt her or to put her in a bad light. Tell her that if you had a problem that was causing you to move forward in life then you would want someone to reach out for you as well. You may not have did everything in the best manner, but we all can not be perfect, we learn from our mistakes and then make more. Be kind and show you care, if she wants you to have a relationship together, she will ask, girls aren't as withdrawn as you might think. Ask her how she felt when you did what you did, then you will know what to apologize for, and women need to get their feelings out. It will at least resolve any tention.
2006-09-04 11:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if she loves you you deserve the second chance. Of she loves you back she will give it to you. Hey people do make mistakes and you were trying to help her because you love her. She should even though she is angry understand that and get over it. If not then I guess you need to move on.
2006-09-04 11:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by babystuff6262005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have done the same thing in your situation and yes i do think you should be given a second chance. however i think you both need to sort out your problems 1st, spend time apart and get your lives back on track and then maybe you could think about getting back together. if you got back together now, it would make both your illnesses a million times worse............get help 1st.
2006-09-04 11:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by cheeky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you deserve a second chance. You were doing what you thought was best for her and to be honest it was quite a brave thing to do. You saw she needed help and you intervened. Hopefully she will see this in time and will forgive you.
2006-09-04 11:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. u need time off as u both have personal issues and would be better off apart until you have both done you thing and got over the issues
2006-09-04 11:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maye its too soon to be forgiven but give her time and im sure if she feels the same way she will forgive you
2006-09-04 11:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by sunflowerchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she feels the same, she will give you signs... Wait until then...
If no signs appear, then you may have to move on I am afraid...
2006-09-04 11:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by a_facchini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋