.............. Then i messed it all up a again. I have not cut for about 6 weeks. Then today me and dad had a raw over the cloth to clean my classes will and when he couldn't find it stats having a go coz he can't clean my classes he stats getting mad i never ask him to clean them. He could have just used watter but no. when he cleans his classes he never cleans them. and when he dose he never uses a cloth. only watter and stuff. so what right has he got to yell at me when i never asked him to do it in the first place and uses watter on his so why didn't he just wash them and not use the cloth.
.............. So yeah, I was mad it was just a silly little thing. And after he left for work i started cutting again after 6 weeks coz of him.
His always doing that to me to me over anything.
.............. Sorry to go on but i tryed telling him and the next day his doing it again and gets mad when i tell him not to do it.
What can i do?
2006-09-04 03:52:44 · 16 answers · asked by powder_blue101 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Everyone has slip-ups when they're trying to quit doing something. Just start over counting days and weeks, and don't get down on yourself because you slipped.
Ignore the jackasses who make mean remarks like the one above. They say those things because they have no clue what it's like to go through something like this.
Good luck, sweetie. :)
2006-09-04 04:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by ChiChi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello hun,
Pleased you found the control to stop. Sorry to hear you've relapsed. Are you seeing a counsellor re your cutting? I suggest that you go to your dr about the whole thing if not. Until then here are a few things.
Self harming is another way of self soothing. We do it for a number of reasons.
It could be that this is an emotion which you understand and know how to deal with so you are cormfortable with it.
It could be that it is a way of gaining control. Rather than allowing other people to make you feel horrid, you'll make yourself feel bad so you have the illusion of control.
It could be because you want people to notice that things have not been good for you, but don't know how to ask for your needs to be met. Therefore you wait to be "rescued".
It could be a sort of negative self-nurturing. A part of you knows that there is some unresolved stuff in your past that needs "fixing", so you make yourself feel bad so you can fix it. I could ramble on for hours on why this is always doomed to failure.
Ensure that you laugh a lot every day. Laughter decreases depression points by tons and cures all sorts of ills.
I'm sorry but I'm going to have to challenge your assertion that your dad made you do it. You chose to react in the way you did. Try and find another way of self soothing. It takes practice, but tell yourself " I feel bad so I'm going look after my self by ...." and do something positive for you. Watch a nice movie, have a nice bath, see a friend you haven't seen for a while. Whatever - as long as it's a nice thing.
And there is no need to torture yourself some more when you "fail". That is just another way of self harming!
I'm really pleased that you've come a long way and you can recognise this next stage needed for your growth and happiness.
All the best
2006-09-08 03:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by krazykarenteague 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well done for staying clean for 6 weeks- that is an achievement, hang on to it. Have you tried using alternatives to actually cutting- ie keeping an elastic band around your wrist to ping when you feel the urge or holding an ice cube to your wrist. It sounds like you really don't get on with your Dad- is that right? Could you move out? Or find a way to stay away when he's not around maybe getting a pub job so you're not in in the evenings, taking evening classes, taking yourself off for a walk at a time when you feel yourself getting mad and tempted to cut yourself. If you haven't yet sought professional help, please do, they may be able to help your situation. Keep trying and good luck!
2006-09-04 04:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by emily_jane2379 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw huni well done 4 going 4 the 6 weeks with out doing it!!!thats great!!1 i no it must have been realli hard for u!! does ur dad no that u cut urself if he does i realli think that you should talk too him about how wen u argue like that it results in you cutting and ask if he can maybe go easy on you till u feel stronger to cope with it!even if he does not no u shld still tell him as if he nos he will hopefully try to help you!!!but huni the fact u did it 4 the 6 weeks shows that u are realli strong and that u can beat this with time!!!! huni if you have a close friend or relative you Can talk 2 about this try 2 explain to them and the next time you argue with your dad or feel down try to talk 2 this person about it rather than cutting so that you dont feel so alone it will help as its hard 2 do this alone! have you got help to deal with the cutting i.e ur doc or a helpline/group? good luck hun keep up the good work by not cutting ur bound 2 break down at hte beginning but ur doing so well!!!if u wnt 2 chat instant message or email me!! hope this helped!!xo
2006-09-04 04:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and find another less self destructive way to deal with your emotions. Try to take your mind off it by doing something that you have to think about. If you have to hurt yourself then do it in a non-permanent way, holding tightly onto ice hurts quite a lot for instance.
Just because you've cut once doesn't mean you've failed - an athlete cannot win every race. You have the will and determination to stop so even after a setback it doesn't mean you're a failure.
You are in control of your life - and once you feel ready to stop you will be able to.
2006-09-04 04:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by Mordent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 09:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by karachalia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you started cutting again. As I am sure you know, this is how you handle stress. You are always going to have stress in your life, whether it is you dad, a teacher, a friend or when you get older a boss, etc.
Do your parents know you cut? You are going to probably need professional help to stop cutting so you are going to have to tell someone. I have known cutters and no matter how much I talked to them and they promised not to do it again, they went back to cutting when things got bad. They could not help it. Please try to get some professional help.
I hope things get better for you sweetie. I understand how you feel. My dad used to freak out over nothing and it upset me too. But please do something to stop cutting; this will be for yourself. Take care of yourself.
2006-09-04 04:17:28 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What really bugged you, the glasses, or that he yelled at you? It sounds as if the problem is with him not you, why on earth would a parent get mad over such a small thing? Try to understand that this is his failing, not yours, and cutting won't help fix that. If he is violent towards you often though you really need to get some outside help, please don't take it out on yourself when you are doing so well.
2006-09-04 03:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by welsh_witch_sally 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well done for holding out for 6 weeks! that must not have been easy!
It sounds like you have some deep set issues. You need to seek some real help. Outside help. Talk to a doctor, or the samaritans. They will help you through such a tough time. Please seek help. You may not be able to cope alone, and there may be a specialised group out there for you to contact.
Good luck. Hope you recover quickly.
Take care.
2006-09-04 04:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by genghis41f 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know there are support groups but I am sorry I don't know any links for you. The first thing that comes to mind is go to your doctor and tell him / her, they should know who to refer you and your father to. I hope it as simple as getting you father to understand that he is a root cause of your cutting. What can I say good luck and I hope somebody else can recommend a link or two.
2006-09-04 04:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by ♣ My Brainhurts ♣ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋