I a a 20 yr. old female, that is dating a 36 yr. old. I have a sister that is 12 and 6. my six yr. old sister and I are very close. WHen My boyfriend was 23 he was with a 17 1/2 Yr. old. I ask my mom if my sister can come stay a night or the weekend, and she says no, that everyone would be pissed at here. I ask why and she says because nobody trusts Dan (my b/f)! I think him being with an almost 18 yr. old is a poor excuse for them to think he would do something to my sister. it's sick. My family all liked him, until i moved in with him. He treats me good, and is notr the kind of guy tht would do something like that. He was even hesitant in dating me, because I am so much younger, but I act a lot more mature then most 20 yr. olds nowadays. What do i do, he isn't that kind of a guy. I don't know if my mom is just withholding my sister from me because she knows she is my everything, and things I would break up with dan if I couldn't see my sister? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-04 03:03:56 · 14 answers · asked by angel1986 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
MY mom isn't the one who has a problem with it, it is my grandma, so my mom sticks up for her
2006-09-04 03:20:22 · update #1
Why is a 36 year old guy with a 20 year old?
There is no reason for your sister to stay overnight.
If you want to see her, go to your mom's and spend time with her.
2006-09-04 03:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well see honey
your momma is going to make damn sure
no man has the oppurtunity to be proved either way
This is what a mother is all about.
Your man may very well be a very good man
Just respect your momma for her descision
it is better to be protective than not
No one knows for sure what the other one is capable of doing
Make time to see your sister under different circumstances
Make it a sister day
I am sure your mother
would had much rather
had wanted
to see you married
than move in with a man
2006-09-04 10:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by Queen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mother's first instinct is to protect her children. Your boyfriend may be the greatest guy but perhaps until you've been with him longer, your mom isn't comfortable with the idea of your baby sister spending the night. I don't let my boys spend the night ( or day) with men regardless of their dating habits so just respect your mom's decisions for now.
2006-09-04 10:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom has a right not to let her child stay with you. After all, you may be close to your sister but your mother is still your sister's mother. I know my mom never let my sister stay at my place even though my wife and I were married but she just wasn't comfortable with my friends who'd come over even though she knew them for ages. I respected that because as a father myself, I realize how protective one gets about their children. I suggest that you continue meeting your sister, spend time with her, take her out but respect your mother's decision not to let her stay over with you. I mean come on, in this world, there are a lot of sick fathers who are raping and impregnanting their daughters so its not like its unheard of for mothers not to trust their daughters boyfriends!
2006-09-04 10:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom is prob just being cautious.. so keep at it and eventually she will come around to trusting too.. its also possible that she is withholing the closeness w your sis to have u mmove away from this guy.. only time will tell.. but dont b mad a her ..cause her fears are real.....ps try to delicateley get a full explanation to the 'nobody trusts dan' statement also
2006-09-04 10:10:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not say your bf is a creep or anything but you still have to respect your mom's wishes. Talk to your mom and find out the real reason she doesn't want your sis visiting.
2006-09-04 10:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by bernie2u4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say.. but your mum is very right in protecting her younger daughters. you chose to be with someone much older to you - your decision. they obviously couldn't/didn't stop you. that doesnt give you the right to jeopardise your younger sisters' (and their other daughters') security!!!
what would you do if something went wrong??? would you be able to forgive yourself ever?? leave the kids out of your own probs and visit them at your parents' house if you miss them that much!!!
2006-09-04 10:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom
see why she's not letting you see your sister
and if she says its because of your b/f then have her ask your sster to make the dicision.
If she says she wants to visit with you then she needs to talk to your mom and she needs to tell your mom that she trusts your b/f and that she should try to do the same...
and IF she still doesn't let her go over then just sneak her out
2006-09-04 10:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your mum dosnt like the idea of the age gap, and dosnt want an influence on her younger daughter. personally theres nothing wrong with it u do wats best for you. good on ya.
2006-09-04 10:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by chips_ryn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get back and bed and do him good this morning.
2006-09-04 10:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by got_shots 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋