2006-09-04 02:48:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why did you ask? And, how much money was it?
2006-09-04 02:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Financial hassles are the biggest problems in a marriage and if one partner is a big spender, the other gets problems worrying about the money. My wife and I came across a simple solution...we do most of our shopping together and if we're going to get something other than groceries e.g. a new pair of jeans etc. we discuss it if we really need it or just want it. Most of the time, we found out, we were just impulse shopping and this reduced our expenditure. We don't shop with credit cards either...bad idea, the interest rates are terrible and we make sure that we authorize the bank to deduce 100% of the bill amount from our bank account. But the thing is, you have to be together about making and discussing financial arrangements and have t consider who is earning and where it is all going. After all, money doesn't grow on trees and I find that my wife has become far, far more sensible about shopping after she got a job and figured how hard it was to actually earn out there.
2006-09-04 09:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see all these postings about who earned the money....
In a marriage it doesnt matter... A marriage is a partnership and things are to be done together....
If I go by what everyone in here is saying and I am the bread winner in the family I can spend the money any way I want to because I earned it.... DOESNT WORK THAT WAY IN A MARRIAGE!!!!!!!!!
NOTICE HE didnt say HIS money, he said THE money.....
It might have something to do with the way you asked the question.... If my husband asks me that question in the wrong tone, or attitude I get upset also.. (must be a chic thing..)
If he asks me in a manner just questioning for one reason or another, I dont get upset.... But I show my husband the checkbook all the time since I am the one who does all the bills and grocery shopping, etc... That way HE KNOWS where THE (OUR) money is going... Unless of course I am buying him a gift......
2006-09-04 11:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because if she made the money who are you to ask where she spent her money at. Don't your wife have the right to have and go get nice things that she wants and need? What if she ask you if you where you spend your money. think about it. Thats apart of a controling behavior.
2006-09-04 09:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by nina j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask her the wrong way.?
You could have prepared her subtly for the question before you ask her about it.
But I don't really see any reason why she should be upset.
If she is the one earnin the money, or it is her money, well that is a matter of on a case to case basis, because you do not have any right to her money, while she has all the right to what is yours.
For us here, money is a conjugal property specially if you are the one earning it,,, you have the right to know where it goes,,
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2006-09-04 10:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she bought a gift for you or bought something she needed for her. Maybe she feels thats she never gets to spend any money on her. She could have been having a bad day. Approach the situation kindly and she may tell you what she bought.
2006-09-04 10:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by PinkHighHeels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say WHO earned the money, even though some of the posters automaticaly assumed that she earned it.
If YOU earned the money, then YOU have EVERY RIGHT to know where SHE spent it. If that upset her... that's tough... but YOU EARNED IT... so you have a RIGHT to know HOW SHE SPENT IT.
2006-09-04 09:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it was her money she spent, or it was for a surprise for you, and you're giving her the third degree.
2006-09-04 09:50:04 · answer #8 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she probably feels she needs to justify her spending. Do you tell her everytime you spend money and what you spent it on? Treat her as you want her to treat you
2006-09-07 08:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by suzanne_sauls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, actually, I think I would be too...maybe she feels that by you interrogating her about the money, makes her feel more like your kid and not your wife...just my opinion...:-)
2006-09-04 11:15:24 · answer #10 · answered by cdngal64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋