2006-09-04 02:46:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they doesn't put adventure in their relationships...they should try different things that will help relationship grow..also, a relationship should have a little spice sometimes to know how your partner
handles the situation or how your partner reacts & then you'll discover if both of you (relationship) really click & match each other....
2006-09-04 02:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by i crave yours 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Big question with a lot of different answer. Here's a few of them
1) They don't start the relationship with the right choice - a person that feels like their best friend. They pick on looks, street cred or other more subtle choices (like subconsiously is like or opposite the character of a parent). This means that the core things which sustain any relationship over a long period just aren't there.
2) Boredom is often a mask for other things. For example you re angry over something and haven't cleared or expressed it. This shuts down the emotions.
3) Do you mean boredom or loss of sexual excitement? If it's sex that seems to be the problem then there are lots of reasons - here's two
a) that all realtionships tend to start with excitement. This has to be replaced with something else (like deepening of love, affection and connection) if it is not to fade
b) people are over attached to novelty and excitement and think this is what relationships are supposed to be about. It's an adrenalin junkie space. The value of security, care, affection have been played down and all the novelty (positions, sex-toys and other gimmicks) hyped up (basically sells magazines and products).
4) People expect others to make their life interesting. You have to be interested in your own life and it is up to you to find interest in your partner's life. Being self-centred is also boring. It doesn't help to project it into being someone else's fault
5) People are reluctant to change. You need to expect to grow and change, to give your partner the space to grow and change and to make that part of your lives.
6) People have one-dimentional views of what a relationship should be. I notice how all the dating ads ask for GSOH. They rarely ask for honest, reliable, caring. If that's the mind-set, you will end up laughing a lot until the callous, self-centred dodgy comedian you pulled messes up your life and leaves you crying.
I could go on as I wrote a book about some of this once (never published). Big big topic.
2006-09-04 10:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by jon2901 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They forget to have fun and get too complacent and comfortable. Couples need playtime to keep things going. Too many get caught up in daily chores and responsibilities that they forget to play.
2006-09-04 09:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by drink_slinger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only becomes boring if we allow it to happen ,you have to keep the flame burning ,by doing alot of the same things when you dated .spend special time together .if you work on doing things ,like mothels ,movies ,cabin trips .it will stay great .good luck in all you do .
2006-09-04 09:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Familiarity.
2006-09-04 09:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
coz u sleep with each other and basically,have tasted the pie already!
It never hurt anyone to wait till marriage.
2006-09-04 09:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by kareen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys like the hunt, girls like the chase... when you get together all that stops. It's the challenge of getting someone to like you... when that has been accomplished... what else is there?
2006-09-04 09:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by Sugar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
their start to take each other for granted and are in a rut
2006-09-04 09:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by lizella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they do becuase they spend to much time together
2006-09-04 09:52:04 · answer #9 · answered by blahblah 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
too available to eacher other.
2006-09-04 09:48:37 · answer #10 · answered by hector 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋